Thursday, 12 May 2011
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What Do Women Want? Part II
Okay, recently I posted this. It was pretty much a list of personality traits I find unattractive in men. I got a lot of criticism for being a nagging, hypocritical, picky bitch. Not only from guys but girls as well. So I am not going to write a list about what I dislike about men, but rather everything I appreciate about men. I am not a man-hater in away. I love men. Sorry it came off the wrong way. I am not discounting or taking back any of the things that I wrote, however, maybe I should have accompanied my negative feelings towards men with positive feelings as well.Obviously I could put a list of words or titles describing what traits I prefer. However, it really is the little things that men do that I appreciate most. Receiving a compliment from a man is so special. I don't care if an 80 year old man tells me I smell nice or a 10 year old little boy tells me I am pretty. There is something special about hearing a compliment.
Hopefully, chivalrous men are not a dying breed, because I love having the door held open for me and having a man walk me to my car. I know some feminists say it makes women look inferior. I think that is ridiculous. Obviously I can hold open my own door, it is just a nice gesture that never goes unnoticed in my book.
It is a good sign to see a man with a great group of guy friends. I am always a little bit wary about dating men without close friends or without any guy friends. Just like I am cautious about becoming friends with a girl without a lot of girl friends. This sends red flags to me. Obviously, there are always exceptions to every rule.
I always seem to be interested in guys that are talented in areas at which I am lacking. For instance, I am horrible at math and I have dated a lot of math majors. There is something intriguing about a guy understanding something that I can't. I love the way men smell (most men). The perfect smell is a guy that has a little bit of a sweaty, outdoorsy smell to him but with old spice deodorant on. Cologne is nice sometimes too.
A man who laughs all the time, especially at my jokes. I have a tendency to mess up jokes, or just tell really corny ones. So it is nice to hear someone laugh at my failed attempts every once in awhile. There is something about a man's laugh. I kind of like nervous or geeky laughters.
Once, I saw a guy pick up a piece of trash that wasn't his and I was immediately interested in him. It is just nice to see guys do nice things.
I could write on and on about the little things men do that make me smile. But, here are a few, hopefully I have redeemed myself. Ladies, feel free to add to the list of little things men do that make your day a little bit brighter. Men, go ahead and tell us some of the things you do that, you feel, go unnoticed or unappreciated. What are some of the small things us women do that you love?
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Talented in areas I'm lacking. Yeah I know! I love a guy who can sing!
My man already opens doors for me. and stuff. >W
and I agree with them being in the area's I lack in. But I also would love them to show me how. xD in some ways. like in skills I need probably.
The more I read your entries, the more I like you..Bill
No, no, no!! Don't apologize to Lovelyish readers!! They don't care. lol
They're vicious.@Diva_Jyoti_3@xanga I thought you were a lesbian. My bad.
one of my co-workers where I used to work was an old man in his 60's with a monopoly man mustache, who would hold the door open nearly every morning, and say, "ladies first" when I walked in
it was nice of him, but I still felt weird, because I should hold the door open for the senior citizen instead, but he insisted, so ok
what makes my day is when random strangers, male or female, smile and say hi to me. then I suddenly become shy and wave at them while saying hi
I just want a man who makes me smile, knows how to treat me, gets on well with my family and friends, supports me, accepts me for who I am and empowers me. I really don't have a list or look for men who are better at stuff I suck at. In the end, you gotta go for the guy who is an asset, not a liability or an asshole.
sometimes when i hurt myself (like stub a toe or something), and a guy will hurt himself in the same spot just to make me feel better
all a woman wants is a man who is handsome, hilarious, and has his shit together. at least that is all i ask for. give me those three things and i am interested.
I would love to find a man who can ballroom dance....I just love male ballroom dancers!
and I don't care what people say about nice men--I want one. I will never be attracted to the "bad boy" image..
nice, caring, compassionate, chivalrous with a great sense of humor....and can ballroom dance....
Is that to much to ask?
My honey does a lot :) he'll juggle two plates of food and two drinks up the stairs for us without calling me down because he knows I'm usually busy studying... insists that I wear long pants and sneakers when going outside to rake while he's mowing the grass, so I don't get bitten up by mosquitoes... and the other day he was so excited when I came home, he tripped while rushing to the door, and bumped his head in the process... hahah
I like when a boy will hold a door for me, and then get a tiny bit flustered when I hold the next door for him in return.
I want a man who will be my partner. He won't try to dominate everything, and he won't let me dominate him all the time. Any man who can be a true partner and give as much as he takes is the man for me.
Which, incidentally, is one of the things I love most about my husband. He's my partner in life. We give and take equally. And while sometimes one of us gives a little more than the other, it all evens out in the end.
Anything beyond that is just gravy. But I don't need a guy debasing himself or making a fool of himself for me. Someone who knows his worth, but recognizes and appreciates mine as well...that's all I ever really wanted.
-Katie
@Katja88@xanga - You know those double doors that most restaurants have? I would always go on double dates with my honey, along with our mutual friend and his girl, and one of them would open the first door for us ladies, leaving us to open the second. They would feel "cheated" (joking around), and call them anti gentleman doors, hahaha
@ohforrealson@xanga - Exactly! I love chivalry, but I also love when I can deal it right back at them.
Two words, respect and kindness (I guess they kind of go hand in hand), that's all it takes for me to become interested in a guy. It's super difficult to find these days. Guys are always talking about the girls they would screw and "Did you see the rack on that chick?!" or undressing you unexpectedly in the kitchen when you get up to throw something away, or when they put down females using words like "bitch" or "cunt", it just kind of, I don't know, makes me sad. I just want to look at them with my head cocked to the side and say, "Why? Why must you be so degrading toward women? Why must you use such hurtful words?" I just don't understand it. Sometimes I think guys just secretly hate all women. Ewww, I'm so damn fragile, I hate being a girl, sorry for the rant.
I like this post. I agree with all of these. And there is something very heartwarming about a guy opening the door for you. It doesn't mean you're fragile, it just shows respect in my opinion. :)
I don't like to brag or mean to, but I think I have found everything I am looking for in my boyfriend. I like a guy who is interested in my life. For example, my boyfriend knows I love blink-182, and he requested I make him a mix CD of all my favorite songs by blink-182, and he always likes buying their merch from Hot Topic. I also like a guy who is patient and polite. He opens doors for me, and he also waits until I'm done eating before he gets up, whether we're at a buffet or just having dinner at home. I love a guy who lets me know he appreciates me and respects me and my decisions. He never pushes me to do anything I don't want to do, but he always asks about my day, tells me I'm pretty, etc. Women love that.
I really like a guy who won't complain all the time about relaxing. He can have a productive life, but if he complains about stuff too much, I will get fed up. I like to relax a lot but I do get out of the house!