For anyone who have not read PT I let me give you the readers digest version. A couple of weeks ago I have my number to this really nice bartender I met at my favorite Creole Restaurant, and I wrote a post about making the first move, and now here is part 2--the outcome.
SO unfortunately my bartender guy has a girlfriend
, but all in all I’m very glad that I did give him my number. I apologize to all my readers for not reporting sooner. I went in the other day for happy hour since it was a sunny day in Seattle, and that’s when I found out. He did not call me after I gave him my number, and I personally assumed that he had a girlfriend. Interestingly enough, I was talking with a friend of mine the other day about him going to the Jazz Festival in New Orleans and she was like “Yeah he probably has a girlfriend because not many guys I know would travel to a jazz festival with a whole bunch of guy friends." I totally agreed with her on that one.
When I went into the restaurant today there was no weird vibe or anything, and Tyler (the bartender) told me that he hoped I wasn't upset, and that there was no awkwardness. I told him that there wasn’t any at all. He then asked me how things were going, and we chatted for a while. We spent the afternoon catching up and all was good.
I’m glad that I did go out on a limb and gave Tyler my phone number. Life is way too short--why not take a chance? I had nothing to lose, and in life I feel that’s the mentality we should all take when it comes to most things, because if we’re going to go through life “playing it safe,” then we have nothing to gain in my opinion, and where's the fun in playing it safe? Nowhere if you ask me. Of course I was a little bummed that he did have a girlfriend, but I wasn’t surprised because he’s a really nice guy and who wouldn’t be attracted to someone like him.
When I came in the restaurant before I talked with Tyler, the guy next to me sparked up a conversation with me, and after conversing I found out that he worked there as well, and before he left out he said “If I didn’t have a girlfriend I would buy you another drink.” I actually blushed a little. All in all it was a good day for me, and even though I won’t be going out on any dates with the cute bartender I’m OK with chatting him up every time I go Tollouse. (the name of the restaurant) Summer is right around the corner, so the city of Seattle is my Oyster!
Stay tuned ladies and gents there will be lots more stories to tell….
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Comments (11)
That's really cool that you put yourself out there and gave him your number. I wish more girls did that!
*claps* Good for you. Honestly, I'm a chicken when it comes to these things. I always wait for the guy to make the first move - if he doesn't, I just move on. And I flirt passively (sometimes passive-aggressively), but being able to close the deal is what matters, so good on you for getting that part right ;)
Maybe next time I like a guy, I'll ask him out :D
For me, I think I can tell which guys are taken and which guys aren't.
One time at this bar, I saw a guy from a distance I thought i could be interested in to talking to for the night, but then I told my friend I was with he's probably engaged. This was before I went over to talk to him or even saw a ring on his finger.
He wasn't with a girl but I had a feeling he was engaged anyway.
So my friend goes over and talks to him for me and asks if he's engaged and lo and behold, I was right, lol.
I think it's easier for me to tell nowadays which guys are single and which guys are taken, with or without rings
Lol they all have girlfriends! *dies*
I don't think having a girlfriend is a reason for him not to call you and explain :-/ but good for you for being brave enough to ask for his number! Life is all about taking little risks like that :)
@fields_of_sunflowers@xanga - I'm not trying to be rude, but her giving him her number doesn't obligate him to call and explain himself. It just gives him the option to contact her if he wants to.
@fields_of_sunflowers@xanga -
"I don't think having a girlfriend is a reason for him not to call you and explain"
Don't you think that would be awkward and unusual use of effort -- considering that they just met once previously? Any normal person wouldn't just call a stranger to tell them that he/she is taken.
I like giving out my number, too. I find that guys are too chicken sometimes. I rather just give it to them and then if they don't call then I don't feel bad. I just feel like "hey, it is what it is" and I'm done with it, on with the next!
aww... i was hoping it would work out, but at least you gave it a shot, and yes, there's nothing to lose, really. thanks again for posting, i enjoyed the story.
Hope it works out ;)
Nice to see some chicks taking some initiative.