you shouldn't be mad. you ASKED for his opinion if he thought you were pretty or not, it would be different if he just gave it to you. you just didn't like the answer, tough shit.

First off, I could give a f*ck less what my date says about my appearance. I think I'm hot, so what do I care? What matters to me is when a guy tells me I'm beautiful even if I'm in no make-up, jeans, a T shirt, and sneaks. Because that means he's talking about something beneath the surface. If a guy can't even see a HINT of that in you, from the beginning, then he's not worth it. He's just not the right guy for you. (And if he "sees" more than a hint of that, he may just be talking out of his a$$ to get some, but hell, you're a chick, you know what signs to look for".

You ARE pretty. But everyone will have a different opinion. Find someone who doesn't think you're "cute" or "pretty", but beautiful because of WHO you are. And when that shines to the outside, there's never a question of what type of attractiveness you fit into.

Why don't you stop fishing for compliments, then? -_-

He's actually pretty smart, on the contrary to what YOU think. I'd rather some guy be honest instead of kissing my ass and lying. And also, you're being a drama queen. *WAHHH! Some guy doesn't think I'm pretty! This was the most horrible date EVAR!*
Not everybody's going to think of you as highly as you want them to. Get over yourself.

I really hope this wasn't a serious post.

yeah, as much as i hate being called cute (since it reminds me of like a little kid or a 'cute' kitten), being called cute is much better than being considered ugly, or unattractive. he gave you a compliment, but he just didn't really word it right. being pretty, beautiful, gorgeous, etc etc is all in the eye of the beholder. you might be just cute to him, but you'll be much more to the right guy.

well at least he didnt call you ugly, or decent looking. he obviously thought you were attractive if he took you on a date

Uh, that's a weird response. Honestly, looking at your profile picture, I think you're gorgeous. You have amazingly beautiful hair, and a verrryyy pretty face!! And I am picky! I wouldn't worry. He's wrong.

I think the point here is not that he said she was cute, but the WAY that he said it. By saying "not pretty, but cute" it was an insult and it is absolutely not conceited to have a sense of self-esteem. Far too many women in this country lack any semblance of self-esteem or self-worth. Being insulted on a first date would make a bad impression and would ultimately negatively influence my memory of the events that unfolded. She is recounting an experience colored by a bad memory -- of course she is a little perturbed looking back on it. 

Didn't you just say you weren't impressed with his looks either? I'd rather someone be honest up front than say the things I want to hear to get me into a relationship that probably won't last because it was built on both people just trying not to offend one another.

I most likely would have said something just as rude back. And if he laughed it off, we'd probably end up friends, honestly, lol.

Fair one. It is easy to be rational behind a computer screen. Yes he was honest. Yes you were initially shallow. Bottom line: Don't insult (implied or otherwise) a girls looks on the first date. Maybe he could have said this a year or two into the relationship. But faced with that, I would have walked away too. I know I am not heart-breakingly handsome, but you know what, if you can't understand basic courtesy I am walking away.

I agree with him that jennifer love hewitt is in the cute category:D maybe he thinks that you're pretty but downplayed it because like he said, he doesn't want to be like the other guys, who tells you exactly what you expect to hear as if to say that you're pretty and you were going to quickly say, "of course" which means, "duh! I'm pretty and you better recognize it or else check yourself" and that's what happened. 

I don't see anything insulting about "cute" because it means that you're the cute girl next door and isn't that what some guys want than the "hot" girl that they'd want to quickly get in bed with before anything else. "pretty" is more delicate and elegant than "cute" in my view, so it is a rare sighting, hence why he couldn't even pinpoint a celebrity that is deemed as "pretty," since they are usually in the "cute" or "hot/sexy" category than "pretty." I wouldn't describe a high maintenance looking female as "pretty" since I see it more as natural modest beauty, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all. "gorgeous" is quite overrated and the times that I've heard it, the guys were players or looking to stroke my ego in order for me to favor them. my ex didn't call me gorgeous, he called me awesome that's more of a compliment than any of these other adjectives combined.

@PseudoEuphoric@xanga - 

You're pretty unreasonable. To me this guy was being a good conversationalist. You ask a blatant compliment grabbing question and he answers truthfully, complimenting you without giving the standard boring answer that doesn't mean anything, and he is putting in a great spring board for an interesting conversation. If it really hurt your feelings (which it shouldn't, because I have yet to meet a guy who wasn't completely in love with Jennifer Love-Hewitt's body) then take the bait, have the conversation on what he considers the difference between "pretty" and "cute" and then after he explains ask him what made him ask you if that was how he felt, or try the passive aggressive approach, tell him you understnad what he is talking about because some guys are hot and some are just "sweet" and he falls in the sweet category.