Luckily, I don't know any people in abusive relationships personally, but if I did, I'd tell them that no one that loves them would hurt them. Not intentionally, anyway. And even then, if it happens too often, I'd say the person'd need help.

I had a friend who married a guy who treats her like shit. She got pregnant with his kid, but that's not why they got married. The guy has bi-polar disorder that's untreated, but that's no excuse. Anyways, it's a double standard between the two of them. If she wants to go out and hang with friends and he doesn't want her to, well she can't, but if she wants him to stay home he throws a pissy fit until she caves in or just goes anyway. And when he gets mad, he smacks her and shit. He was even smacking her and crap when she was pregnant with his kid. My best friend wound up having to call things off with her because it was too taxing on her. She was doing everything for this girl, and she DID NOT appreciate it. She took her to her doctor appointments, bought her food, went over to her house to console her every time this prick made her cry, and what thanks did she get in the end? She got called an ungrateful, stuck up bitch. That was the last straw for me there. Nobody calls my bestie an ungrateful, stuck up bitch and stays on good terms with me.

Anyways, she won't leave the guy because she's in love with him. I feel bad for that poor child. His mother is too wrapped up in herself and what she wants to do what is best for that child, and that would be to get him out of there. No child needs to grow up in that kind of environment. They never had money to feed themselves before this child came along, even on government assistance, how can they expect to feed and clothe that child and make sure he gets all his health needs taken care of? Somewhere on down the road she will be declared an unfit mother, and that child will be taken away from her because she can't or won't take care of him properly. That child is in a toxic, if not dangerous, environment and I can't see how she can care for him properly based on the fact that they never have any money.

There's nothing I could say that would change anything. She is on her own on that one. I believe she'll leave him one day. When it costs her more than she's willing to give up, or probably everything, she'll leave him. By then it'll probably have cost her her son. Somebody will report the abuse, and eventually something will be done about it, and if not you'll have another human being just like her husband. I really feel bad for that child.