Wednesday, 27 April 2011
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"Why Choose Me?"
Last night, my boyfriend and I had a long conversation on the phone. He is living in the west of Malaysia and I am living in the east. LDR's are hard. Anyway, curiosity took over me so I asked him a question:"Baby, you've been to so many countries. You met lots of pretty girls but why choose me?"
This is the question I'd been dying to ask for ages, although we've been together for over a year. He answered: "Our hearts are the ones that delete the bridge of gap."
"There are lots of Chinese guys out there, so why choose me?".
That's the best question-answer I've ever heard of. Actually, I am Chinese but he is Punjabi. Girls in his country are so pretty and gorgeous. Compared to them, I'm pretty ordinary while they're the equivalent of a beautiful swan. That's the thing that kept playing in my head over and over again. Never did I realize that I'd forgotten to put myself in my boyfriend's situation. I mean, I never really thought about it in his shoes.
Have you ever asked your SO why he/she chose you over others?
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Those girls are SOOO hot.
no i haven't really asked that directly. "Why choose me when everyone else is so much better?" I guess it's because I don't think that way about myself. I am pretty, smart, and classy. I'm proud of myself :P. I know that there's always someone out there that would like to be in a relationship with me.
I think you should be proud of what you have to offer too.
I did ponder about that question at times and I did have to ask a couple times before I got a real answer. The reason why I had to ask about a trillion times is because me and my boyfriend constantly just joke around about everything and how it's just lust and we obviously desire each other for the others great / not so great body. Well okay, we aren't super models, but we're pretty darn close to average.
But when he FINALLY did answer, I thought it was a pretty legit answer to be satisfied enough with. "When I'm with you, it makes me forget about all of the Hell that's going on around me. Thank you." (Of course I ended up accusing him of stealing that line from a movie when he said that) I mean, come on! Anybody can make anything up, right?
It must have been the serious tone that made me believe it. We are rarely serious about anything...accept when it comes to the others insecurities about the relationship. (He must have thought I was feeling insecure...) This guy always ends up thanking me when he's serious, which I find really funny. I appreciate it though.
He's 6 ft and I'm only about 5'2. You would think he'd want to be with someone taller, but to him it supposedly doesn't matter just like how it doesn't really matter to me that he isn't my hot sexy celebrity model from London.
I think it's best to trust that the other person wants to be committed with you for the right reasons. BUT if you wonder as hard as I do, I guess it wouldn't hurt too much to ask. Let's just hope they don't say "BECAUSE YOU'RE HOT!"
I have asked "why do you love me" before, but that's the closest to I've come to the question you've asked. He answered something of the standard "you're beautiful, smart, blah blah blah" I was kinda hoping for something more distinguishing but oh well.
and pretty doesn't come to anything close when in a serious relationship. what I mean is, once you've developed a strong, committed relationship with someone, how gorgeous another girl may be won't matter. Sure there are girls my boyfriend might find more physically attractive then me, but the strong emotional + physical attraction that he has for me will blow that out of the water any day.
I wonder all the time, but don't want to dwell too much on it. I don't think we even care why we chose each other - we just did. I feel like if I think too hard about it, I won't be living in the moment in case, at some point, we don't choose each other anymore. What we have now works and we both like it. c:
Because I feel content with him, even when it's boring or extremely serious. Which is most of the time.
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http://www.shoes4world.com/
omg ralph wiggum got a valentine card
must've been bart playing a prank on him
I've asked but they usually give me the vague, "you're different." answer
"you're amazing" would suffice rather than the nonchalant overused different answer.
i have to agree, indian girls are pretty fing hot. especially dark-skinned south indians <3 (hmm i wonder why i have that bias...)
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - lisa gave it to him because nobody else gave him one and he was crying in the back of the classroom. fortunately, in real life i think the standard in elementary schools is that if you're going to give cards, it has to be everyone of either or both genders. i think kids that age have enough social problems as it is, haha.
I've wanted to but the questioning never felt welcomed. Which I guess is why it never has worked out for me so far. I shouldn't feel the need to question things and the block we sense from asking a question like that shouldn't be there, but it's there when the guys will say, "you're beautiful" or "I just do" and then try to move on. Or maybe we shouldn't try to change the nature of things. Like how men don't like talking about their feelings. Heh.
"Our hearts are the ones that delete the bridge of gap." - that's so sweet. *ache* :)
I have asked that question, but only because I already knew the answer.
As it should be, it's our minds: the way we think, our poetry,
interests, ideas, what we believe, dislikes, likes, romanticism, view of the world,
attractions, thought process, morals, who we are, honor, spiritual beliefs, etc.
Sure, it
helps that we are both physically attracted to one another, but that's
NOT what's most important. Beauty fades, who you are doesn't.
it might be because of your personality. Why does everyone think that relationships are solely based on looks?! it's madness!
@gainingelectrons@xanga - thank you. I want to have your mindset:)
@clarinetcassie2011@xanga - cuz many advertisements nowadays show hot girls?haha
@MystiqueMisty@xanga - hahaah u tot he took it from movie line.U guys are so loving!
Too many people focus on the outside. I hear way too many people say "why that person? You can do better." Noone ever thinks its because they're happy together. It's ridiculous that an answer as simple and true as that is ignored far too overlooked. If you look at things from such a simple emotional perspective it's simple and clear why you chose each other.
@lil_KyungMin@xanga - thank you. Im glad to post about this article because the comments from xangans help me
@pinkdagger@xanga - Agreed
I have asked my husband in the past, and he told me why. I just plain forgot. Married or not, though, I'm not really all that worried about it anymore. This, to me, seems like an insecurity question, though I realize that that's not necessarily always the case.
I haven't asked him, per se. I had a post on here a few months ago about me not being his "type". He's told me he's attracted to bad girls, with tattoos and piercings, with dark hair, etc. I'm blonde, have a southern accent, and have no tattoos. I told him that I didn't sound like the kind of girl he wants, but he reassured me that he likes me how I am :)
because he loves you! but i think everyone thinks that with their lover!
I have asked my boyfriend that before. He said, "Who doesn't love their best friend?"
because love isn't about looks!
Every time I've asked my S.O., the only response I ever get is, "I know right, why am I with you?"
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@KickDrumHeart - awwwwwwwwww,so sweet