Tuesday, 26 April 2011
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Light Ahead: Long-Distance Runners
Have you ever walked down a big empty street, vastly filled with only cars but no people and felt so alone that even the moon laughed at your depression? It's a beautiful night with strings of clouds dancing in the dark sky with the moon coyly watching the people below, and you are alone physically but not emotionally. Last night as I took my walk alone to clear my thoughts, I felt my heartache from the ever longing pain of missing my fiancee.We were living together for 3 and 1/2 years until the economy busted and we both couldn't find jobs or make compromises with anyone to help us stay together. With the harsh reality of it all, we both made the decision to move back to our parent's house. Mine were here in California, his were all the way in Hawaii. 5,000 miles apart and the 2-3hr time difference(depending on PDT). It's been almost two years since both of us embarked on this journey together, the ups and downs have been tremendously hard but fantastic at the same time.
But every day that slowly passes yanks at me harsh because of the pain of him not being besides me, but there's always the light ahead that directs me to go further and endure the stinging of loneliness. Long distance isn't for the weak-hearted, I know that for sure, but when you love someone so much to the farthest extent.
You're willing to do everything you can to keep that commitment, somewhere along the lines of the long distance you and your significant other have to decide who will go to who after you officially pick the time and date you want the distance to be over with. Even picking the time and date is hard with the way life is, you can never plan something straight. But even with the hassle of things coming and going, always keep going towards the light ahead, the heart that guides is a heart truly undefined.
Uncalculated and purely uncensored. Going the distance, and looking towards the goal ahead.
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i will be in a similar situation when i go to college in the fall (new york), him in california...that is if we make it til then. we were in i guess a pretty strict/honest relationship for our age and generation but i kinda screwed things up cuz i couldnt handle all the stress coming from the relationship and my own like..relationships with other ppl.
he use to love me so much and now the feelings he gives off are very different and restricted.
haha not sure where im going but i admire this post and hope that it'll be me and him..well be as strong as u guys are i mean =)
I'm actually dealing with the same situation. My boyfriend is @ UCB finishing up his Ph.D. and I'm stuck here in PA finishing up school. The time difference is really tough and has put some stress on our relationship over the past two years. We've endured nearly five years together with two years fully apart.
i totally thought this would be about running.
I feel like this is the first of like three notes, that will eventually lead to a suicide note. Or, an anti-government PSA. Chin up and smile, for the money shot from the long dick of life.
Definitely going through the same thing. The most annoying thing is when people ask me when we're going to be living near or with each other again. We went from living on different floors in the same apartment complex for a year to me being in California and him in Texas. All together, the distance has been about a year and a few months although he just moved in August. He moved to go back to school and get in state tuition since he was still a Texas resident and I'm already going to school in California. We definitely haven't made any plans to move closer to each other though because of how much everything keeps changing with school and jobs.
yeah,,,also,,being in a long distance relationship sucks, and im hating every bit of it.. . i do agree that this kind of relationship is not for the weak hearted, theres just times when you thought the relationship is falling apart or you thought you werent given enough time, or that when you have some arguments that you think you cant straighten it all out without seeing each other. its so hard having disagreements when your miles apart..
so it takes a lot of practice in both parts, and i think that both of you should be honest and say things which are troubling you. and communication..ugghhh.. still.. knowing that, and accepting those things that ive mentioned, still.. i think long distance relationship still suck.. but itd better be worth it.
Im going threw the same thing
I went a good year and a half being long distance with my husband until we finally tied the knot. It definitely isn't for everyone. It was well worth it for me, but someone else may not be able to handle that kind of separation.
my bf lives in hawaii, and i live california like you too. skype ftw? T_T
... I live in Hawaii, and my boyfriend lives in London. I win.
Texas and Iraq, pre-Skype, during the surge, 7 hour time difference, knowing your honey is being shot at.
You need to set a date to move, if you're serious about the relationship. Otherwise.... it's just endlesslong-distance, you can't move forward with the relationship, or your life. Best of luck.
My (now ex, sadly) boyfriend and I were long distance for 9 months. Not as long distance as you, but its a 3-4 hour drive. We had plans for when we would be together, but they were 1-2 years down the road, since I still have another year of school and he is/was planning on going back to school in the fall, which would require him to stay put for 2 years until he transfers out of community college. We had it all planned out though... and then, one week ago, he just said it was too much, he couldn't do it anymore, he didn't want to wait 2 years to be with someone, and we were over. I think, for him, its more of a "I'm 21 and I want to be free" thing... its easier to hang out with friends and drink without thinking of the consequences than to carry on a relationship with someone you only see in person once, maybe twice, a month. Most of my friends and family have full confidence he'll turn around, but he's a stubborn one. I really don't know. I hope you have more luck than I did </3