Tuesday, 26 April 2011
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Should I Ask Him Out?
I am no stranger to asking a guy out. Well, I’m more familiar with impulsively blurting out something I immediately regret. Sometimes I get lucky and he agrees to a date but other times, my embarrassment will burn on my cheeks.
What do you think? Ladies, would you ever ask a guy out? Guys, what do you think about girls asking you out?
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I've asked a guy out on two occasions. The guy said yes both times. Yes, I'm sure it's embarrassing when a guy says no, but how do you think they feel when we say no when they ask us out?
I actually prefer to ask the guy out. Sometimes I get a yes, sometimes a no, but it doesn’t really bother me. I just hate dancing around the question and would rather be the one to ask it straight out instead of trying to leave or pick up on subtle hints.
There's been so many posts on this subject...
Who cares who asks who out? Go for it.
Geez...
In all seriousness though, hope it works out for the best.
Me personally, I am traditional. I think it's more romantic when guys do it. When girls do it, it appears desperate. In my opinion.
I got asked by a girl once, but even though I was flatted by it, 'she asked me out' I was going to asked her as well.
However I was not ready for a relationship and date, my parents would have probably wanted to have meet the person I was dating and I dont think it would have matter really parents would have been fine with it
I asked out a guy in high school, but it didn't go over well, so I decided that was the end of doing that lol. But I say if you're comfortable doing it, then go for it.
I just don't have the guts to. Easier to let the guy handle it =)
No. It becomes an issue later when he's accused of not being a man because he didn't ask you out first. If a man likes you, he'll find a way to get you.
@vicdaily@xanga - Well said
@Annizka@xanga - They handle everything else :p lol
i dont see any problem with women asking out men.
I've asked at least a few guys out before.
I don't see the big deal when girls say they want the guy to do it. As long as a girl can tell the guy is into her then go for it.
I think it's a terrible idea. But otherwise you will just sit there wondering, so why not go for it? It took me a while of trying before I got why it was a bad idea.
@vicdaily@xanga - accused by who? If he's enough of a grown-up to be in a relationship, why should he care what others think?
I've asked a guy out only once.
I don't like doing it; I would much rather the guy ask me out instead.
I've never tried and doubt I ever will. Too shy; my face gets really hot and my eyes just get glued to the ground and I screw up my words whenever I'm in some situation where that sort of attention is on me. I'm pretty bad even when someone else is doing the asking, ha.
@vicdaily@xanga - WORD.
i wouldnt' want to be asked out because i wouldn't want to be put on the spot like that. as with everything else in life, i really prefer to be the one in the proactive position. i feel like most girls don't appreciate that approaches are scary every time, though.
i prefer it when girls ask me out. girls get hit on all the time: i think it's hard to take men seriously when all they do is lech on them. i think that if a woman really appreciates me as a man they will communicate that to me. i'll do everything i can to nurture a budding relationship, but i leave a certain initiative up to the woman.
i.e. decision-making is already and always in the hands of the lady. a gentleman does not try to put them on the spot. this does not always lead to what men want, but i think it yields relationships of better quality.
It'd sure make things easier for me. Unfortunately, you're not "manly" if you don't ask out the girl. That's just how it is. It's silly, but true.
personally, I wouldn't. If a guy really liked you, he'd ask you out. And, in the event that he's too scared to...why would you want a guy like that?
I think a guy might be more likely to say yes to a girl asking him than when a guy asks a girl.
@thatGIRLinLOVE - why are there not more females out there like this??
if you want to do something, anything in life with(or without) someone, go for it. don't let it pass you by. its better to regret what you have done, than it is to regret what you haven't done, because people who mind don't matter and people who matter don't mind.
as for the Q; i LOVE being asked out, almost 90% of the time, i will say yes, personally. 10% being fat people. sorry, call me shallow all you want, but i work damn hard not be fat.
I don't see a problem with asking a guy out. I'm thinking about it. Except, some guys prefer to take the initiative but take a long-ass time doing it, which is what I think I'm dealing with, maybe.
I'm personally too pessimistic to go through with it though. I've done it and gotten rejected. Ohhhh weeeelll.
I wouldn't date a girl who is enough of a wuss to "never ask a guy out"
@Japanesenightpurplegeisha@xanga - I am too.
OP:
If it comes to it..I don't mind asking a guy out..but I prefer the guy doing it. I'm old fashioned like that. Lol