Friday, 22 April 2011
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She Was Wearing...WHAT?
A friend of mine came to me with a rather puzzling situation today, and I wasn't quite sure what to make of it.
She was out at lunch with her boyfriend, when they passed his best friend (a girl) on the way. The girl best friend was wearing a sweatshirt that my friend immediately recognized as her boyfriend's, since he wears it rather often (and it's pretty distinct). My friend was immediately upset, and asked her boyfriend why he'd let another girl wear his clothing, since that's supposed to be a "boyfriend/girlfriend" thing. He told her that he had no reason to NOT give it to her when she asked for it, so he went ahead and gave it to her. Apparently she'd asked for it and worn it a few times before and my friend just never saw her wearing it.So here's my question for you:
Is it okay for a girl to wear the clothing of another woman's boyfriend? Or should that be a 'privilege' of girlfriend status? Or, as I thought, is it not even worth fighting about?
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i personally won't like if i see another girl wearing my boyfriend's cloths, unless she gets permission from me first (which is unlikely)
Sigh. -____-"
o_O i'd be pppiiiissseeeddddd
at first i thought, wtfffff, but then i reread that it's the guys best friend. who carees. unless there are other reasons to believe she may want a piece, then get over it.
I think it’s not even worth fighting about. The two are best friends and it’s just clothes.
Best Friends > Girlfriends
if you do it right, anyway. If it was like just any other friend or an acquaintance, that'd be sketch, but they're besties.
It's instinctively jarring to the girl, understandably so, but I don't think it's something worth bringing up and being angry over.
it would probably bother me.
not worth fighting.
I don't see the big deal. I mean, I wouldn't have any problem whatsoever if I saw my girlfriend's ex wearing her tube top.
honestly it would upset me, but there has been one case where a bunch of us friends were hanging out at my boyfriends house and we were going next door for a kick back and it was freezing so my boyfriend brought out his jackets for the girls to wear including one for me which i was fine with because he didnt do it behind my back and they gave them back. But in this case i would be really pissed off and would confront him too.
Unless she's a really good friend I'd be pretty annoyed. You really don't ask for a guys anything unless
1. You're FREEZING
2. You like him.And if she's worn it more than once then it's like she's had enough time to grab her own damn sweater.
Not cool.
I would be suspicious.
if she likes oversized comfy sweaters, then just go to the men's section at a department store or wherever else and buy her own sweater. then return the sweater back to the original owner, because I think it is rude to borrow things for a long time and keep it to repeatedly wear. if she was cold, okay, wear it for the day, but return it later. they are best friends, but I don't think it is appropriate. it doesn't seem like he minds though
I think his best friend likes to sniff his man scent from his sweater as "just friends" lol quite fishy or quite tacky if she can't buy her own sweater to wear.
I would worry more about his best friend being a girl that isn't you than the fact that she borrowed a sweatshirt. Because she is not worried about his friendship with said girl, then I don't see a problem with the sweatshirt. It's not like she was seen at his house wearing only his shirt - that would be something to worry about.
Yeah, I agree with the others. I wouldn't worry about it. At least... it's not worth fighting for. If it bothers you, though, you have every right to ask him not to do it.
I can see it both ways. At first I was thinking I'd be upset and then I thought about it some more.
My husband has a very good girl friend. I am friends with her also and it has gotten to the point now where she will text or call me instead of him or we will hang out. I'm very comfortable with their friendship, but I guess it also helps that she is not sexually attracted to men at all. I could totally see her asking to borrow his clothes, him letting her, and me not even caring (it probably has happened before...heck, she and I borrowed stuff from eachother, too).
However, I guess if our relationship was new, she liked guys, or didn't try to talk or hang out with me I would have a problem with it. I think it's more about the relationship the girlfriend has with the best friend. If she were friends with her, it might be a bit more comfortable.
uh NO. you need to slap that girl, what right does she have to demand your boyfriends sweater?
Personally I'd be mad, even if it WAS his best friend.
How would your man like it if one of your best guy friends let you wear his sweats, and you wore them multiple times? I"m pretty sure any boyfriend would be upset over that
I wear my guy friend's sweatshirts all the time, whether they're taken or not.
Is it a really awesome sweat shirt? Or just a random piece of clothing? Maybe find out the facts, like if she was hanging out with him (which presumably your ok with?) and she was FREEZING then he could have just lent it too her.
Hell it could have been her birthday, and she was like "I WANT THAT XD". Find out more, and report back :)
I think it's a privilege thing.
i'm just sayin... when i wear a dude's clothes its because i like him.
that would be annoying. i'd be pissed.
my (now-ex)boyfriend got mad at me for wearing his friend's hoodie once, but I thought it was a ridiculous thing to make a big deal about. I only borrowed the dude's clothes that once, and it's cause I didn't have a sweater and it was cold out.