Tuesday, 19 April 2011
During my first appointment with a new physician we were sitting in his office going over standard medical history. Does your family have a history of cancer? Do you drink or smoke? Are you sexually active? How many lifetime partners have you had?
I bet I looked like a toddler who was just told she had to be vaccinated. I institutively answered the number of men I have been with. But I think the term ‘lifetime partner’ is pretty heavy.
What did my doctor mean by that?
I wouldn’t say the guys I have been with were potentially lifetime. In fact, they were hardly partners either. Now, if my doctor asked me: How many stupid mistakes have you made in relation to your decisions regarding idiot guys and douches? In that case, I would’ve answered: Well, what do you mean by decisions?
While I was seated in my examination room, I started thinking about what exactly my doctor meant. How many guys I had slept with? Most likely. Maybe he meant to ask me how many serious relationships I had? In which case, none.
It was a simple little question that still stunned me until tonight.
Although, you’ll have sometime to think about it (unlike the way this question was sprung on me) how many lifetime partners have you had? Consider it carefully.