I've decided that my current dating life warrants a little bit of discussion. I've been chatting with a friend who is abroad this semester. It has progressed to talking every day for hours. There has been mutual flirting, and at some point I realized that I was smitten. The odd part about this is that this guy is someone that I met about a year ago, but never kept up with. I had no interest in him particularly because he was just plain awkward.
I admit I haven't seen him in awhile so I can't judge if things have changed much, but
I'm wondering if this feeling of bliss from talking and connecting to him via Facebook will all crumble when I actually see him. I will see him for the first time in nearly a year this summer in France since I'm going abroad. More specifically, we plan on hanging out in Paris.
This has romance painted all over it (especially since it has been suggested that we go to the top of the Eiffel Tower one evening to admire the city lights), but I'm afraid that this dream might be shattered when I actually see him and his awkward persona.
I'm basically online dating but with someone I originally met in real life. What do I expect when I see him? I can imagine things going mainly one of two ways.
- I meet up with him and I'm already so infatuated by his personality that what I perceived as awkward is now a natural rhythm.
- I meet up with him and the magic dies.
Right now I feel that scenario 1 is more likely considering the dreamy circumstances, but I still have my reservations about the situation. Personality and kindness should come before appearances, but seeing a person in real life can create a completely different feel. I really won't know until it happens, but I'd like some second opinions in the mean time.
Have you gotten close to someone through the Internet? Did this transfer smoothly over to real life?
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I've yet to have a bad experience with someone I've met over the internet. I met a lot of friends though online interaction before we had ever met face to face. So I'd say yes it went smoothly, but it all depends on the person/type of relationship.
Friendship wise, yes. Romantically? No. Though I did get a long with my friend though our friendship didn't last for a lot of different reasons. I think living together killed it >.>
I have yet to have a bad experience with long distance relationships. In fact, i'm in one right now and its the best relationship i've ever had (online or offline) If you like him, go for it!
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I met my bf over the internet and I'm glad everyday that I decided to meet him but I didn't know him before we started talking...maybe you should give him a chance? He may be less awkward the more you get to know him?
There was a girl in my class who talked to me through facebook and we became friends because of it and started hanging out in real life. That being said, we aren't friends now and only hung out once in a while lol
Yes.
I'm still with him and it's almost three years.
My boyfriend and I met online in like 2007. We had a short break up, and not counting that have been dating for two years and something months. It was not awkward at all when we finally met. It was literally like nothing had changed and we had just not seen each other for awhile. And he has by far been my best relationship and I credit that partially to the circumstances we met under. You get to know someone when you're video chatting/texting/iming/talking on the phone all day.
I've had nothing but ill experiences with dating over the Internet. The one guy had a girlfriend in real life and was stringing a bunch of girls on the web. The other is really hazy. I just remember he turned out gay. It is not something I would do again if I had the chance.
I'd say - be realistic. I've met several people through the internet (friend-wise and romantically) and some have worked out, whereas others haven't. I think it's important to stay grounded and to remember that you can hide a lot behind a computer screen. However, you do know this guy in person anyway, and you do know that at least he isn't dangerous or pretending to be someone he's not. Go ahead and hang out with him, but be realistic in your expectations until you're actually there in person. Good luck! :)
i've been through this before. it's really just infatuation, the feeling of having someone new and talking to him soo much. it's somewhat like close-proximity syndrome, but instead you just talk so much with the other. however, it could be actually something. just be wary.
Online dating is much more frequent than you think. Â
I did it, spent time with him in person... it was as amazing and wonderful as I'd hoped it would be... and we're incredibly smitten with each other.
I think, in all honesty, it depends on the two types of people that are together. Just follow your heart and if it makes you happy, do it!!
the first time i went for it, it worked, and here i am a year later with him.
i hope all works out for you<3