Sunday, 17 April 2011

  • Oh, Hell. I Think I Love Democrats.


    So, I might have been born a Republican.

    The simplest fact of the matter is that my family is the kind of conservative that still questions the president's place of birth and won't even marginally consider spending for a social program to be a productive thing to do.

    I don't totally disagree with them all of the time, but I'd like to think of myself as a little more in the middle on most issues. I'm not going to lie - my political philosophy has settled as the years have gone by. As a result, I've come to perhaps a point of being defeated, enlightened, or whatever you want to call it.

    I don't care what ideology's in power, as long as they uphold the Constitution and try to make America a better place to live. (Suffice to say - I haven't directly supported any US politician in my lifetime.) In the shortest of short, I'm a oh-so-dreaded independent.

    But, I'll be damned if Democrats don't turn me on.

    Maybe it's some deeply buried resentment towards my family - some move to get back at them for years of having to listen to Rush Limbaugh - or maybe it's just circumstance. The simplest fact of the matter is that I've only ever dated women who identify themselves as liberal (usually Democrats), and really only been attracted to this sort of crowd.

    While this doesn't seem like a big deal, I both love my family and find it horribly awkward when I need to introduce someone in my life who doesn't agree at all with anything they believe politically... at all. I'm without a doubt the most politically left person in even my extended family, but that really still makes me a centrist at worst.

    Especially in the current age of US politics, we take things very seriously. Abortion is more a moral issue than political one. Canceling social programs is seen as assigning the death penalty to anyone lower-middle class or below. We protest and write vicious blogs about the way we think - and, all the while, demonize everyone else in the process.

    Everything's a matter of national security. Everything's going to affect every American baby. Everything's going to send the world crashing down - unless we vote for this or that guy.

    And yet, I keep dating the same super-liberal who I probably disagree with.

    But, damn it, she majored in anthropology and minored in drama.

    Are politics a rocky road for you? Do you disagree on hot-button issues with your significant other?

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  • Me_LeaderoftheWorld@xanga

    My boyfriend is conservative and I am a bit on a fence sitter on politics but tend to be a bit more liberal I have learned not to discuss politics with my boyfriend because he is so narrow minded. Sometimes it becomes an issue, but if your both willing to agree to disagree I don't think politics are a make or break part of a relationship.
  • MangoWOW@xanga

    I'm very liberal and always seem very attracted and turned on by republicans.
  • too_pretty_to_die@xanga

    i'm fairly liberal, and while i've dated conservatives in the past, i could never settle down with one.  we would just have way too many fundamental disagreements.  i work in politics, so i take it very seriously.
  • filthyminds@xanga

    I never talk politics with any cute guys because it might drive them away.  I don't really care about politics but if you ask me, I'm very, very, liberal.
  • FOXHOUND_HQ@xanga

    I'm a conservative and a Republican, but I've almost always been attracted to liberals and democrats. Or I should say I've always been more attracted to artistic types and those who like foreign cultures, who typically turn out to be liberal and/or Democrats. I guess its both. 
  • Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga

    Politics is such a touchy issue that I tend to avoid bringing it up, unless I have the same political beliefs as the girl I'm going out with - then we have something great to talk about.  
  • rabbitsarecool14@xanga

    I used to be liberal but now I'm leaning towards conservative so I have to be wary with what I say.  I seem like that liberal person, very into the arts, open talking about sexual topics, have gay friends, etc but my values match more of a conservative.  I would probably scare conservatives with my lax attitude on liberal issues and then I would upset liberals when I am not all gung ho about their issues.  So it's a difficult situation to be in as well.  Hopefully I will eventually find someone who is a nice balance.
  • SuperEvilPopTart64@xanga

    I'm painfully, painfully liberal. So left wing it hurts. Once I dated a "libertarian" (for almost a year), and by the time we broke up, hearing his opinions (usually incorrect or horribly misinformed) made me want to vomit. Never. Again.
  • WhenHateIsTheOnlyOption@xanga

    My political beliefs have destroyed friendships.

  • fields_of_sunflowers@xanga

    I'm extremely liberal. So liberal, in fact, that it tends to annoy people. However, my boyfriend is more right-wing, but in all honesty, he's probably fairly central on most issues. It's never been a problem for us, seeing as he's not SO right-wing that it annoys me, but I couldn't date someone who was much more right wing than he is, that's for sure.
  • mynameisblueskye@xanga

    This scenario would make quite an interesting romantic comedy. Don't you think? 
  • zretrareo27@xanga

    My fiance and I are both nearly identical on the political spectrum, and we enjoy talking about solutions to the problem in the world. I cannot believe that I stood for missing out on great political conversations with my previous boyfriends because they didn't care at all about politics. I don't think that I could seriously date someone (god forbid if something happened to my fiance) who didn't stay on the same rough area of the spectrum because it's a core part of the way I live my life.


    A wise man once said be the change you wish to see in the world, and I think it would be fairly hard to share a life with someone who didn't agree on the same changes.
  • zzzzzulavalle@xanga

    most guys im attracted to are pretty much liberal like me
  • akatiegirl

    I don't know that I'm either a liberal or a conservative.  I have views on both sides, though I probably lean more toward being a Democrat on most moral issues.  But I've dated a conservative who tried to make me into a conservative--he just couldn't understand how I could have views different from his--and it didn't work.

    But I don't think political views matter if you agree to respect the other person's opinions.  It's like anything else in a relationship...if you can come to a compromise, then it will work.  If you can't, it's probably going to be a deal-breaker.  For my ex and I, it was one of many deal-breakers because he couldn't accept my views...hell, he couldn't even fathom the reasons behind my opinions.  In this case, it was never going to work.

    I'm now married to someone who holds mostly the same kinds of views I do...so it's not an issue.

    -Katie
  • Hinase@xanga

    Not at all. I don't really have any real leaning to anything. My views are everywhere and different from what normal people consider them. I tend to date guys that don't really care about political manners.
  • KickDrumHeart

    I hate politics and so does my boyfriend. :)
  • WaitingToShrug@xanga

    I'm a libertarian, and so is my husband. I think that inter-political and inter-religious dating is not that smart if you're very invested in your position. Think about it- you're a Christian, and you want to date an atheist. But how can you stick together if you really believe they're going to hell? If they think you're misguided and illogical? Same with politics. I couldn't be with someone who didn't share my ideological beliefs. We would be thinking that the other is wrong all the time, about something that matters deeply to us. I like to be able to discuss politics with my husband; if I couldn't share such an important part of my life with him, why would I want to be with him?

  • starcrossedloversdivine@xanga

    @rabbitsarecool14@xanga - Welcome to the young born-again Republican's party haha. I feel like a lot of former liberals (such as myself) identify more with conservative issues when it comes to governance, but social issues are a lot more lax. I'm leaning more libertarian these days because I don't really care what people do with their private time, I just don't want to pay for it.
  • jenessa1889@xanga

    it could just be because younger generations are usually liberal and i'm guessing you're young?   liberal is a relative term to the old ways.   our grandparents probably haven't changed their views too much and were once liberals
  • DncngINthedark@xanga

    I'm extremely liberal.... and could only date someone who was liberal as well.  I have good friends who are conservatives... but dating? I need someone more closely aligned to my belief system.
  • squeakysoul@xanga

    I'm more in the middle but lean left. Only people who do the same have ever been attracted to me. I am attracted to most of the spectrum (but not extreme right or left - especially not extreme right; doubt someone on that side would want me at all).
  • undercoverXXlove@xanga

    i'm an independent as well, and my husband is pretty liberal. he has a few conservative views, but for the most part we agree, and if we don't we don't argue about it. he just believes one thing and i believe another.

    xx
  • Sand_notes@xanga

    I'm very liberal, and I do not think I could date a strong conservative. Not attracted to that at all, haha. A mild one, or one who called themselves a conservative because of their family's background but didn't really buy into to it or think about it very much, I could work with. But a flaming conservative, oh no no no. We'd argue all the time. Haha
  • onestepcloserto_perfection@xanga

    I'm probably the "left"ist of my immediate family, but I don't let it get in between me and them.  And it hasn't really affected who I date either.  Politics aren't tooo huge for me, so that's probably why.
  • lonestardust

    @mynameisblueskye@xanga - Oh, rom-coms. Now you're standing on some really contentious ground.

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