Wednesday, 13 April 2011
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My Worst Date
Valentine’s Day, 2010.I had done it! I had a date on Valentine’s Day. You know, on the actual day. It was pretty huge for me. I went out and bought a dress for the occasion and a pair of shoes. Shopping for the occasion might’ve been the best part of the date.
He called me around 8 to see if I was ready to go. I answered yes and he proceeded to give me directions to his friend’s house. Yes, you read right. He explained to me that his car had broken down and that he was so sorry about making me pick him up. Against my better judgment I got into my car and drove to my date’s friend's house for our Valentine’s Day date.
As I made a turn on 44th street, I called his phone to let him know I was outside. He climbed into the car and the next thing that occurred, he’ll deny for the rest of his life.
“Are you high?”
“No! Of course not!”
Of course not folks. This guy was not high, but he reeked of marijuana like he had been in Snoop Dogg’s tour bus.
However, I took his word for it and started to drive to the sushi spot we had decided on. Can anyone guess what happened next? We weren’t going to have sushi.
“I don’t think I want sushi. I know of a place where you order an entrée and they’ll give you a $15 game card for the arcade,” he said.
My next thought was: you must be kidding me.
The only thing I could muster was, “do you mean Dave and Buster’s?”
“Yeah,” he answered like he had just solved the economic issue in America.
It gets worse if you can believe it.
We arrived at Dave and Buster’s (in my five-inch heels) and surprise—no reservation. Parties of two had to wait at least two hours and a half for a table on Valentine’s Day. I’m surprised a place like Dave and Buster’s was so full but I was even more surprised that people could ask a girl on a date without planning ahead (I’m not bitter)!
He decided that we should sit at the bar because that way “we could watch the all star basketball game.” Wonderful! Worked out great!
At this point, I wish he had stood me up.
We put in our orders. He had the salad and I had the chicken fingers and a beer to try and relax. Dinner went smoothly until it was time to pay. Our waitress had been very courteous and attentive despite the crowd and when the check finally came I thanked the God it was almost over.
Then suddenly he said we were ready to go. I looked at him as if he were crazy. I knew for a fact he hadn’t paid the bill yet. I knew because I hadn’t moved my butt from the chair for the entire date and there wasn’t any sort of transaction of currency. I was turned-off by his immaturity, offended that I wasn’t worth $35 and angry with him for thinking I was that stupid.
So there I was, scurrying out of Dave and Buster’s in a mini skirt because my date was cheap.
Arguably the worst date in history had just one last thing to say. While I drive back to his friend’s house he asked: “Why do I get the feeling you’re not into me anymore?”
I can assure you that there was no second date.
What was the worst dating experience you've had? Why do think I wasn’t “into him”? Would you have given this douche another shot?
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Wow that sucks. I would have used the old "I have to go to the bathroom" trick and left him there. Yeah, I'm a bitch xD!
Wooowww! That's awful. Definitely no second chances for that guy if he'd have been on a date with me. I probably would've left halfway through! My worst date, was that I was in the movies with my bf and we were kissing, and then he stopped, broke up with me, and tried to resume kissing me. The movie ended about 5 mins later and I walked outside, called my dad and ignored my then ex who was trying to get me to answer him. As we drove away, he started almost sobbing. v_v
I'm sorry that had to happen to you! :( I haven't ever been on a bad date and I definitely hope to keep it that way.
wow. can't believe that guy!
I've never really had a bad date..like ever.
@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - i thought that to myself the whole time i was reading this. i cant believe how stupid some guys can really be. he must've been really high
@zzzzzulavalle@xanga - Yeah most likely. Honestly, if i smelled weed i would have been like "ok, no gtfo of my car" and wouldn't have waisted my time lol
Also, OP: WHY did you not just leave?! lol It was your car...fuck him if hes being a douchebag.
The whole "being high" bit's enough to end the date right there. That's messed up.
wait... so who ended up paying?
@SentimentalDoll@xanga - omg, still tried to kiss you? LOL
Wooow...if he was high, I'd just make an excuse to end to date before it could even start (fake a phone call or text and get out of there).
Sorry about your date, but perhaps it's good that you found out early, so you won't be wasting your time on him.
omg that was horrible...i'm so sorry lol. i will never pick up a guy, that's just my rule from now on. even if he doesn't have a car, we can both meet at the place or take public transit, but me driving him is just not happening lol. i guess i'm old-fashioned.
My worst date was a BLIND DATE set up by my mother. Granted I didn't give her grief because even she didn't know what the guy looked like except that he was older and was the son of one of her patients (and no she doesn't work in a mental hospital lol). Turns out he was a half hour late (he called to tell me he was running a few minutes late). When he did arrive, he didn't make an effort to get out of the car to ring the bell or even open my passenger side. Once I got into the car, he explained he was late because he had to pick up a bonsai tree for his mom. There were crickets chirping at dinner because we really didn't have anything in common and it was very uncomfortable.
I intentionally lost his number and my mom never set me up on a blind date again.
Damn, what a LOSER. I suppose that answers that question, but if he had gotten in my car high and MARIJUANA he'd be gone more than likely. In the off chance that didn't turn me off, the skimpiness of the date would have gotten him kicked out of my car.
wow...and here I am thinking that the worst date I can give a girl is by having nothing to say...
wow, what a crabby date. if anything, i've had awkward dates, but not too bad.
Thanks for posting this informative article. I enjoy reading something like this because it gives me insight into what women hope to receive out of a date and, furthermore, what things a guy should NOT do.
My first question to you is how did you meet the guy, and what made you decide to go out with him in the first place?
I'm going to mainly focus on your question of why I don't think you were into him since I haven't been on enough dates to have a "bad" experience. First of all, the car part could have been handled better, but I'm not going to focus on that because I know the whole thing was just an excuse so he wouldn't get busted for being under the influence. The first major problem is he proved his dishonesty right from the beginning, and you felt that if he couldn't even be honest on the first date that he has a lot to hide and seeks to manipulate you.
The whole changing plans thing was kind of tactless, especially for the reason given. This goes back to the manipulation thing. It seems like he fabricated the whole wanting to go eat sushi because he knew that you'd be open to that, but then changed the place to where he wanted to go because he knew that at that point you couldn't refuse.
On a side note, I personally think going out for sushi is a bit much for a first date, even if it is on Valentines Day. Sushi can be very expensive, and unless the guy normally goes to the sushi restaurant, it creates this superficial image of what he really is. Most guys are afraid that if they don't take their dates to pricey restaurants (and sometimes bring their date flowers) that they come off as cheap, but in reality they're being insecure when they do go the expensive restaurant and gift route. I think this guy you went with felt insecure that you wouldn't want to go to Dave and Buster’s (which I'm guessing is a loud sports pub - not the best place for a first date unless there's a quiet room where you can talk).
The $15 arcade idea doesn't sound too bad depending on the girl. Some girls are really into playing video games and have fun with guys who take them out to do so. It doesn't sound like you're really into that though, but maybe he was thinking there was a chance you would be...or he just likes playing video games and brought you along to show off. I can't say for sure.
Not planning ahead was pretty tactless. I know some places don't accept reservations, but I think that he should have known this considering it was Valentine's Day. I also think just going up to the bar to watch basketball was pretty tactless. I mean, that's something you do on a second or third date; not a first. Shows that he cares more about sports than about you, and you felt if he was going to be like this on the first date, then he would do this indefinitely.
Are you saying that he made you pay for the entire bill? I would say that is pretty stupid. That could come off as being manipulative as well - get a girl to pay for his sports bar crap. The whole paying for a date thing is kind of complicated. Of course, a guy should never make a woman pay for the whole bill unless she offers to do so. Typically, guys are supposed to pay for the bill, but I know that a lot of women don't like it when guys cover the entire bill. This goes back to the whole neediness thing. I think whoever invites should pay the bill. Typically it's the guy, but the guy should just say "fine" if the woman says she wants to pay her half. The whole thing is a huge pitfall guys many guys fall into.
When he asked “Why do I get the feeling you’re not into me anymore?”, he was definitely showing his insecurity, and of course you were even more turned off by this.
that's pretty bad... I'm amazed you drove him back to his friend's house... :P
Did you know this guy before the date? What did you say when he asked why you weren't into him? That does sound like a horrible date, though. I hope your V-day is much better next year!
I haven't really had a horrible date. The only thing that comes to mind was when I was 16, I went to a movie with this guy on our second date. I didn't even really like him or think he was cute; I was just excited to go on a date. So, he kissed me in the movie theater... and didn't stop. I mean, full on making out the entire movie, and we weren't even sitting in the back row! THAT was my first kiss. I get sick just thinking about it, haha.
I would have dumped him at Dave and Buster's lol. What a loser.
@SpOnTaNeOuS_sPiTbAlL@xanga - This is me going out on a limb. But it sounds like they ditched and ran. Why else would anyone try to run in a miniskirt?
Wow this is a pretty hilarious date. Definitely one for the anecdotes section of your life. But hey, one bright spark, if such a clear failure at life can get a date, hey, theres hope for the rest of us :)
@Footballblogs@xanga - that's what i thought. and that's really shitty on both their parts.
Okay, you had a position of power this entire date and you chose not to use it. I'm not saying it's your fault that the date went awry, but you could have been a little more forceful if you didn't want to do what he was suggesting, considering you were the driver.
First of all, lying about being high and then continuing on with the date is not okay, I would have thrown him out right there. The change of plans wouldn't have happened, seeing that I have control of the gas, brake, and steering wheels. I definitely would have said, we agreed on sushi, and either driven there anyway, using the lie as leverage, or kicked him out of my car.
Once at D&B, seeing the massive wait, you could have said look, we can't wait this long let's find somewhere else to go. Even further still, after eating dinner, it seems as though you two walked out on the check, which is not okay. Your 35$ check would have been taken out of the server's pay for the evening, which probably wasn't much considering the place that she works at (the meal prices) and the people who go there (I'm not even going to get into stereotypes of customers..). Finally, I would have told him to take a cab home, because I'm not going to drive that smelly ass home.
@Chibi_Son_Gokou@xanga - There are some cheap sushi places, you just need to know where to look... I live near one that has 1/2 price entrees every day. A bowl of miso is about $1.50, each sushi entree is about $3-6 each, and the noodle entrees are around $8-10. Then again, my boyfriend and I almost always spend over $50 on every date we go, and I know that's not always reasonable.