Lol. good luck.

Yeah, I had something similar.  We were never official, but it still felt like we were, though.

The first time we started talking was a little over a year ago.  Things were the absolute greatest for the first 2 months we started hanging out, then for some reason it just blew up even though those were the best 2 months of drama free i've ever had with anyone. I can't believe it went from extremely calm to a big storm basically.  i thought i was okay with this being only a night thing at first but i wasn't.

Neither of us were hanging out with anyone else, and after a while, it got a little deep.
He refused to talk to me for a long time.  After a while, we saw each other one or two times again before he started playing his games again and this time I got fed up with it.  deleted him 3 times off fb.  We called it quits a second time even though it was never on to begin with, but, eh...

So for the third time, I asked him if we could start completely over on January 1st, 2011, that this would be a fresh year, who cares about what happened in 2010 or the past at all for that matter and that we would start fresh. we joked about how many times i deleted him off facebook when we were mad at each other and how stupid both of us were last year.

I calmed down and I didn't get mad at him whenever he would cancel so long as he had a legit reason.  We've been hanging out now for a third time for at least four solid months and it's not like before where he would only hang out with me at night last year, which is part of why I got mad at him because I wanted to do things during the day.

Now we're shopping, going on fun little road trips during the day, hanging out during the day, and having dinner with each other and switching off who pays.  Last year it was just in the bedroom late at night at ridiculous hours and even spending the nights with each other.  Last week he even said how it almost felt like a proper date, lol.

i guess fwbs can turn into something more after all. just gotta give it time if you're in that situation.

Good luck, though I would be a little suspicious too. If you were uncomfortable with it, it was definitely not okay for him to be talking to another girl about sex. And it was certainly not okay for him to be texting you and saying how much he cared for you while he was dating another girl. If he broke up with her first, and then started pursuing you again, then that would be one thing. But maybe I'm wrong, and you sound really happy in your relationship right now. So I wish you all the best!

Sometimes dating is about the timing. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about ten months now. We've known each other for probably about six or seven years now. We first met through a mutual friend, and all three of us would spend a lot of time together. And there was a definite attraction between him and me from the very start. We didn't do anything about it, we drifted apart and rarely spoke to each other for a few years. We were busy with our own lives, and and I was consumed with college. But after I graduated from college, we started hanging out again, and it was just fireworks attraction. I'm really glad we waited because I know that if we dated while we were still teenagers it would have never worked out. 

good luck but it's clear you guys are both really quite new at the monogamous relationship thing.

If i broke up with my guy because he was wooing some girl online by sharing stuff he thought would impress her into his pants, my TRUST would be broken. I wouldn't break up with him because he thought it would get him ANYWHERE< it would have ended because he lied to me, he lied to her and his sense of HONESTY and TRUST is lost.

Maybe you went back to him because you two both matured a bit, or because you haven't found anyone else that caught your eye. I may be the pessimistic almost-30 yr old but i believe TRUST in a relationship is probably one of the TOP 3 important things that MUST be part of a long lasting relationship. A happy one especially.

@raspbxrrryjam@xanga - haha same here. Unless I wanted to get rid of the guy (which, in one case, I did.) 

I've been dating my boyfriend since we were 16 and I'm 29 now and I personally think you may be too young to state that "nothing can tear us apart," because even I can't say that about my relationship and I'm very happy with my guy and we have mutual respect and love for each other, also...minus the part where he tells other girls about his sexual escapades...er...made up sexual escapades.

sorry didn't read the whole thing.. it was too much to read. but you've only been going out w/ your boyfriend for 6 months and you're trying to tell people what makes your relationship work? i've been going out w/ my boyfriend for 6 YEARS. it's gonna get much harder in the future, buddy

Eh. Good luck with that.

Sounds like the story of my life. I met him the summer before high school and it was love at first sight...For me at least. At the time he was dating someone and after one night of hanging out with him and my friends, we didn't talk to or see each other for the rest of the summer. Freshman year finally arrived and the same feeling I felt the first time I met him came back at the end of my first day when I was getting onto my school bus. Turns out he had recently moved down the street from me and so for the rest of the year, we became really close friends on the bus (he was still with someone) but nothing more than that. The thing was, he was dating my worst enemy and she wouldn't let him talk to me so some days he'd completely ignore me and act like I didn't exist, while other day's we'd be best friends. It went on like this pretty much until senior year. Luckily though, we did get closer and we started hanging out more, mostly every day. But anytime either of us was in a relationship, we'd stop talking to the other. We were off an on best friends for all of high school until he made a move. He knew how I felt about him but I was still confused about what I meant to him but he would always try to kiss me and make out. I couldn't handle it. I was madly in love with this guy and he didn't understand how I felt so I told him that we shouldn't kiss unless he was completely ready to accept everything that would follow such as a relationship. Months after this encounter, he tried again and I finally let him. I thought it was finally it, that we would finally be together. The love I had waited for for years would finally be returned. Wrong. He went away for vacation and came back with a girlfriend and once again, we stopped talking. The middle of senior year however, we finally dated. It lasted about three months and it was the worst three months of my life. We fought all the time, we never talked to each other in school, and we hung out and talked less than we ever had before. After spending hours talking about our options, we decided to break up. He wanted to be friends, but I couldn't handle it. As horrible as the relationship was, I was absolutely undoubtedly in love with him and would have suffered through it just to be with him. I decided not to stay friends because it was too painful to want him so much and not have him. Senior year ended and the summer was shortly coming to a close. The last few weeks were left before I went three hours away to college and that is when we started to talk again and we have been dating happily for eight months. The distance is difficult but it is worth it. Even though I spent high school waiting for a guy that I had no hopes would ever want me back, five years later it finally fell into place. Our relationship, I am convinced is based on timing. Timing was the key factor for us. We met but we weren't ready for each other so we lost contact, four years of high school spending months not talking to each other but always coming back to one another when all else failed, and finally now. I believe we are both were we need to be in life to make this work and we are both more mature and understanding now. Our love was meant to be and after a long journey, it finally found it's way.

I was like that with my bf . but i realized that i can really lose something good if i keep treating him like . . . sh*t

lol "love" at 14. Okay.