Friday, 08 April 2011
Before we get into a debate about this, let me start at the very beginning. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now, and I know he loves me (which is why this upcoming event boggles my mind). We were studying together for a class a couple of nights ago, and he tells me, "Hey, I think I have the study guide on my flashdrive. You want it?" I tell him yes, so he tosses me the flashdrive and I stick it into my computer.
3 folders pop up, one titled with gibberish, one titled with the name of our class, and one titled "New Folder." Now, I know I should have gone straight to the folder with the name of our class, but something told me to click on the "New Folder." So I did.
At first, the folder seemed to be filled with innocent things. They started as really old pictures of family and grade school friends. The pictures then evolved to high school photos, some of which included photos of his first two exes (yes, I know their faces from Facebook). Photos of the third ex, dressed in a bikini, then popped up, and all of a sudden - BAM! A pair of giant, bare boobs and an ass in a thong filled my screen. That's when it went downhill. The next 20 pictures were of the third ex posing provocatively on a hotel bed and topless, dressed in sexy lingerie/outfits, or just clad in a thong and heels.
After I went through the pictures, I calmly returned the flashdrive without a word. My boyfriend went on studying, completely oblivious to what I had just discovered. And he still is, to this day.
To make the situation sound a LITTLE better, this girl is not a recent girlfriend. He's had a girlfriend after her. Girlfriend #4's relationship lasted 4 years, and he was already broken up with her for 3 years before he started dating me, so to be fair, he's had pictures of Girlfriend #3 for about 7 years. The problem is that I know he STILL looks at these pictures because he makes references to her outfits (which I now understand and didn't previously).
For example, I've always wondered why he wanted me to buy those knee-high socks, or why he likes my plaid skirt so much - SHE HAS THE SAME ONES. I don't even want to think about the possibility of him masturbating to those photos!
So, my question to you, my dear readers, is what should I do? What would you do? Is it considered "normal" and "acceptable" to have sexy photos of an ex while you're in a relationship?