You're still young. Wait till you really know what you want to do and/or what you want because you don't seem so sure on what you want yet.

If you're not ready for a boyfriend then just tell them that, if they don't respect the boundary you've asked them to then drop him/them. As for fooling around, you probably want to save that until you're in a committed relationship to help minimize any exposure risks.

All in all, it is better to be safe than sorry (cliche, I know) but in the long run it will save you and anyone you're involved with a lot of heartache. Just be upfront, honest, stick to any rules/boundaries you've set for yourself and or your relationships, and always be you.

I'm surprised at the advice you received from your hardcore Christian mother. To test the waters is one thing, but to play the field (as in see more than one guy at a time) is just a strange approach.

I would say, given you're confused, you're not ready for the commitment of a loyal relationship. Perhaps becoming friends with guys, rather than playing the field as you are, would be a better choice. From there, figure out what you're after romantically.

Pick the one you seem to miss the most! The one you always think about when you are with the other ones.

Don't worry about hurting anyone because at this point you havent committed to anyone. Being upfront and letting them know you are dating a few people isnt a bad thing either. If they care enough about you they will stick around. If not they will walk away and then at least you know that it wasn't worth it to them.

This will also let you see if some of them are insecure or jealous. Jealously is horrible.

But you not telling them and they find out will make them have trust issues. Be upfront. You are young! HAVE FUN. Be safe - condomsss and birth control.

Hello beautiful young and confussed. I agree with UnconventionalButterfly if you can't pick one? None are the right guy at this time for you. It is very hard and very stressful to try to handle multible guys at the same time. Let me tell you a quick story about myself at 17 it was the end of my Juniour year I was well known a football star and not confussed like you. "That does'nt matter at all." I was the youngest of 5 kids in my family 2 brothers and 2 sisters they picked on me until one day they had become affraid of the monster I had become. A good monster but very cofadent and so very ready to manhandle the girls that were cofussed and take what I could get away with sexually. I will skip the hot details for another time but I had gotten layed with 3 different girls multible times each all in one weekend. Wow I was going to keep it to myself because if you tell any friend know matter how close you think they are? Don't! You need to trust me. Maybe not today but in the next few weeks they will sell you down the river in a heart beat always!!!! I got to school and in front of my locker was all 3 girls bragging about there time with me. That was the worst thing to go wrong because 1 of them I feel was a great canadit to become the one? But I regret nothing and had to move on. I had to go outside my school after that to go on any dates for years to follow. Your so young and hot I bet? Every guy you know and meet will tell you and promise you any thing just to taste or stick his cock in you. The next day will be the worst because you will then become old news and he will move onto some one else. So if this helps you in any way I am greatful. Take your time and give it to a guy that has every thing going for you and treats you great. I myself feel more than 1 person at a time is instant Drama 110%. This is my opinion / asshole / anus. Because I do know a few people that can handle 3 to 4 people all there life and live in drams and pain all the time?? You think for your self? I hope you make the right coise for you?Damn sorry my spell check is not working so please dont judge on spelling today?

Thanks, BigSack925 in the sun by the pool 4-4-2011 

You aren't obligated to tell them anything, or for that matter choose any of them.  Hell just date all of them!  You're young and don't need to be tied down with any one person!  Just let them know that you are not ready for a relationship and you are dating casually.  Eventually when you are ready the right guy will come around and there will be no question of your feelings!

Ah, dating.  How I don't miss that.  Honestly, as others have said, if you can't choose, it's not the right guy.  And you have to realize that someone will get hurt.  Honestly, if I were you, I'd clue the guys in that you're just dating around.  You'd hate it if a guy were "playing" you like this, so don't do it to them.  Don't be one of those "hot" girls that string guys along just because she can...have a little more depth and moral fiber than that.

But do tell the guys you're dating that you're just dating around right now.  Next time one of the guys brings up becoming serious, be honest.  Tell them you're not quite sure about getting into  a relationship right this moment, and that you're wanting to date around instead.  The ones that drop off probably weren't worth your time--or aren't at the stage in life that you are and are, in fact, looking for something more serious--and the ones that stick could help you figure out what you do want.  If they know you're only in it for something light and fun, then they can adjust their expectations accordingly.  And if they all fade off, then the next time you juggle guys like this, let them know you're dating around right from the beginning.  That way, you won't be stuck in this position again.

Good luck!

-Katie

If none of the three are sticking out to you as the one you really want, then dump them all. Tell them you arent ready to be a girlfriend yet... continue your search. Experiences with these guys are all lessons learned and you'll know better next time that its not fair to yourself or to them to be seeing more than one person at a time, even if youre not "technically" in a  relationship with any of them. Be true to yourself and thats all that matters.

You're still young. You should wait until you're ready and you know what you are looking for in a partner and relationship. But you should definitely be honest with these boys. If you're not ready, you're not ready. There's nothing wrong with that, but they deserve to know that. And in the end, if they can't handle it or don't respect you, they aren't worth your time. A guy who is worth his weight won't pressure you into something you don't want or aren't ready for.

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you're seventeen! who cares if they get hurt... lmao they'll get over it!

I think you should take them on all at once.  See which cock and a hard place, I mean rock and a hard place you want to be stuck between the most.  Shit, maybe you're that kind of kinky and want to keep them all.  I don't judge.  You have to love oppressed christian daughters, rebelling against daddy and jesus.  Amen.

you just realized you're hot? wtf? RIGHT. troll.