I've got similar problems as you.  And no, I don't think you're at fault for feeling like that.  Guys just don't understand what quality time is.  My boyfriend and I also live together, and rarely have time to ourselves, but when we do, he's always got something else to do.  It's really infuriating. 

Stand your ground, girl.  Don't back down because I think it's a battle worth fighting.

A) "Quality time" is spending time together, in my opinion.  Yes, that means even doing small, mindless tasks, like laundry, food shopping, or meal prep.  No, that doesn't exclude "couple time" (where you do special things together), but you shouldn't make things out to be a competition of couple time vs quality time.

B) I'd say you're justified in feeling hurt since he did something he could do any day of the week, whether or not he's with his child.  Going out for drinks or having a nice meal out isn't something you can do with a small child in tow (although the meal could be debatable depending on whether or not the child is well-behaved in public spaces). 

C) Like CecilliaMarie pointed out, he might have just wanted a night to himself with his buddies.  While that might not make your hurt feelings any better, it doesn't mean that he was ditching you - it just might mean that he felt overwhelmed and stressed and wanted a break for a few hours from his kid and his girlfriend. 

In the end, just take a deep breath, assume an even tone, and talk calmly with him about it.  Don't accuse and don't blame because he'll be more likely to roll his eyes and walk away from the conversation without anything being resolved.  Just ask him why he chose to spend the time with his friends instead of with you and listen to his answer, then ask him if he'd like to go out on a date the next night you two are without his daughter since you feel as though you two don't get to spend enough couple time together.

Anyway, good luck.  Hope things work out and this is just a small bump in the road.

Friends are important in a relationship. Why not both take the night off and see friends, but then come home earlier than usual to be with each other? 

You should have spoken to him in advance about his plans. He wasn't to know you wanted to spend alone-time with him - he's not a mind-reader! I understand where you're coming from, but you do need to understand that unless you tell him what you want to do, he won't know!

I think you're justified in feeling this way...to a point.  Did you mention to him beforehand that you wanted to have a date night with him?  Because if not...I can't really blame him for making other plans.  I think the problem here is a simple breakdown in communication.  If you ask--without any edge to your voice--for a date night, give him more notice than "Hey, let's go out tonight."  He's allowed to make plans without you if you don't ask him for time outside your apartment...because, honestly, he does spend all of his time with you.  If you need something more, you have to tell him.  Because men aren't mind-readers, and if you don't tell him exactly what you want/need, then you can be mad, but you can't take it out on him.  Instead, learn from this and try talking to him when you're less angry.  Nothing will be solved if he's on the defensive, but if you're reasonable in your approach, you can come to an understanding that will work for both of you.

Bottom line, you're not being unreasonable, but neither is he...

Good luck.

-Katie

I would say you are both "justified" in your feelings, let me explain: You are justified wanting some time alone with him and he is justified in wanting to spend time with his friends. The problem was that both of your desires conflicted. You guys have to start planning things ahead of time, otherwise, dont be mad/angry when the other person is doing something else.

I am 28 & run into this with my friends a lot because we all have such off schedules, so if I call or get called and am busy, you can get bitter or you can ask them to make time soon. Just as with any relationship, you have to make time for it, even if it means scheduling time. I got use to being able to schedule or be spontaneous whenever I wanted in college; however, once I graduated, it is best to schedule quality time - it is a mutual commitment. And if someone in a relationship or friendship them doesnt care about making that commitment or doesnt follow-thought with it, then I think you have bigger problems.

You also have to realize, and many others, that in living together, you are dealing with a problem many married people deal with, except there is not that commitment of marriage there too. I am not judging, merely saying there is an extra difficulty involved in living together (also with a child involved) while not committed/married.

You have a right to be upset. Quality time is time that you are engaged strictly on the person you're spending it with.......quality time can be just sitting, talking to each other face to face, or going to dinner, or doing drinks......anything where the attention is strictly on each other and each other alone. You may spend a lot of time together, but most of that time is spent engaged doing other things and not really paying attention to one another or nurturing your love, you have to get him to understand that.

Just make sure to bring up the fact that you'd appreciate a nice outing with him so he knows to set aside that time for the two of you.

Well you are spending time with him while the child is around but it's not

 time. He should of spent it with you instead. I take your side.

Yeah, no.  He definitely needs his away time, just like you need your away time.  He sees you every day and night?  Let him go hang out with his friends without you around.  You go hang out with your friends without him around.  It's too damned simple.

And if you're one of those women that's gotta have her head up her man's ass every hour of the godsblasted day then grow the three balls motherfuck up.  There's little more irritating than a needy woman.

And here's a tip.  If you and he both go out with your separate friends for the night and you fuck his brains out at the end, I can promise he'll love you ever so much more.

I am man, and I have spoken on this issue.

GIRLLL HELL NO!!!

Especially since you're so young and you're forced to do his grunt work.... ? That doesn't seem fair at all. And he considers that "quality time"... If that were me, I would tell him to spend quality time with his video gaming buddies by doing the laundry and cooking... and that you'll do the fun activities with him instead :)