Sunday, 03 April 2011
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Life Lessons I Learned Through a Drunk Hookup
Two of my friends and I decided to head out to an art show last Friday night and maybe hit up a new club I heard about. I brought a large bottle of wine that was more then half empty before we left the house. We were determined to have a girl's night out, nothing fancy, get a little buzzed and just chill.After looking at the art inside and walking around we ventured to the patio. I noticed some people with bicycles and one shorter blonde guy was wearing a red cape. I immediately ran up to him and complimented him on it. I honestly thought it was such a cute thing for him to wear since he was so short, and it really showed his funny personality.
He even mentioned how he sewed it himself which impressed me. After talking for a few moments he invited my friends and I to a party that was happening at his friend's house that night. "Would you and your friends be down?"
"Oh, OF course!"
We headed over to their friend's place, Justin, where all his biker friends were... and a lot of beer pong. After playing a round of beer pong (of course I lost) and chugging one too many a beer I went upstairs to find the bathroom. I bumped into Justin on the stairs and also his other friend, Law.
I don't even think this hookup would have actually taken place if we did not find each other in the stairway. Somehow we made our way into one of the bedrooms where a random movie was playing and we began making out. This did eventually lead to him touching me and he turned out to be a damn good human vibrator, if I must say so myself. However, there were things he did that really turned me off.
He started talking dirty to me, saying things like, "You're so wet," and each time he said it I literally cringed. I mean, it does not leave the most appealing visual in my mind and it just didn't sit right with me. Later he began to pull my hair (why?) and slap the back of my thigh. I'm not some kind of child that you have to spank, so please keep your hands to yourself.
I'm not sure what kind of girl he was with prior, but if she liked all of these attributes and told him to do it I think she made a mistake. Who likes it when a guy does this to them in bed? Why?
My friend explained to me how hookups are lustful and meaningless. The good sex she had came from love and devotion that the person has through a relationship. I totally agree with that statement. I was drunk during this act but I was 100% awake and aware about what was taking place. I kind of took the leadership role, telling him what do to, like "Get on the floor" or "move over here" and he actually did it.
The night ended at Denny's where his friends went for some food. After kissing me goodbye he asked what my name was again. "It dosn't matter. This is a one-time deal," I said. I set the law on Law, haha. Overall, kind of bad in bed but makes a wonderful human vibrator.
Anyone else ever had a drunk hookup or a bad experience during one?
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Yeah. Huge mistake on my part.
I never hooked up while drunk, but I'd like to comment that lots of girls like to be treated like that in bed, it's not unusual...
Yeah, there are some girls I wish I never did but ass is ass
Yeah, never getting drunk at a house with people i barely know again. douchebags...
Hmm I've had sex with two guys. I lost my vcard after my THIRD anniversary with this guy (in other words, we dated for three years before having sex), the sex we had for a few months after that was good. We were in love, cared deeply about each other, yadda yadda yadda.
But OH MY GOD the BEST sex I've ever had has been with this guy I went on a date with and then went home with that night. We had sex for the next few weeks that just BLEW MY MIND. I just felt like his doll, the way he would just pick me up and move me around the bed like I weighed nothing - he really knew how to dominate me and take charge the entire time, and he was oh so suave and confident. He had me screaming for a couple seconds because it felt so damn good. He was doing all of the work, but by the end I was always more exhausted than he was. We were such a good pair because he loved dominating me, I loved being dominated, and I'd like to think that the fact that I get a good 3-5 orgasms from sex alone added to the fun. :]
And I find it weird that you were grossed out by his "dirty talk." I don't even consider "wow you're so wet" to be dirty talk...but it turns me on when a guy does that while he's fingering me.
Anyways, girls. Don't believe people when they say the best sex comes from love. Love can make a crappy lover a better lover, or an amazing lover a OMFGAMAZING lover, but love =/= mind blowing sex. Sexual compatability = mind blowing sex.
@my_horizon@xanga --I agree!!!
@mikaekie@xanga - Seriously.
anyways, what was the "life lesson" here, exactly?
@my_horizon@xanga - THIS.
The only person I've ever had sex with was my ex-boyfriend who I was with for 2+ years. However, there was ONE guy, a friend of a friend, who almost got the golden ticket. If his roommate hadn't came home early, there's a good chance something would have happened since he was THAT GOOD - way better than my ex-boyfriend, sad to say. BUT I'm glad we didn't go all the way because his personality was... not to my liking. =/ Haha!
After that experience, I don't think I'd have another [almost] hook-up. Yeah, it felt GREAT... but I choose romance over hittin' it and quittin' it.
Haha I had it when guys talk dirty to me too, but I believe that's just because I'm not intune with my sexuality yet. Whenever a guy fingers me, I always freak out if I believe he notices how wet I am, haha. Idk. I'm weird, & haven't really had that many sexual experiences.
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Always pull out?
@ForeverLove_xx@xanga - Sorry yall. My life lesson was that good sex dose not come from a drunk hookup but from a true relationship. Its just something I learned that night. I know it's not much of a life lesson or very profound but I it meant something to me at least. After thinking about what I wrote and what others responded with, I agree more with my_horizon and her reply,
@my_horizon@xanga - "Sexual compatability = mind blowing sex" THIS.
@xOhUgSaNdKisSeSx05@xanga - Yes, I think that was my problem too, not being very experienced in the whole situation haha.
Haha, hair pulling and ass slapping enhance the experience for a lot of women, as well as hearing things like, "You're so wet." It's not unusual or gross. If it's not your thing, it's not your thing, but that doesn't make him bad; you just should've told him more of what you wanted, that's all.
What I've learned from various encounters - Don't expect anything from anyone the next day. Be vocal about your likes. Bitches will be bitches whether they're female or male. Sometimes chemistry cannot outweigh personality flaws; conversely, sometimes an amazing personality cannot outweigh a lack of chemistry. Bruises are a pain in the ass to cover up, so avoid them in obvious places if possible and come up with an awesome (but believable) cover story if it's not possible.
cough cough. have you never had sex before? usually when a guy says your wet, he is excited that he caused that excitement and wetness for you. he has achieved turning you on to the point of beyond ready for him. a little spanking and hair pulli.ng isnt for everyone i admit. i personally do not mind at all. oh well. too bad it wasnt that great for you except the human vibrator part. did you at least orgasm? if so, its a win. hah. i have had drunken sex and it was always awesome. except this one time. but that is a different story.
Over half the women I've slept with are from hookups. Nothing wrong with that. Some good, some bad. If you didn't like the hair pulling and spanking, just communicate that. As a lot of other comments have pointed out, many women do enjoy some spanking and hair pulling (most of the women I've been with like it a little... some far too much). Men aren't mind readers to know what you like compared to what another woman does.
@ShirleyD@xanga - Truth.
@ShirleyD@xanga - Haha, agreed...I was reading that part and thinking, "Damn, that sounds pretty awesome to me!"
I'm trying to figure out what the main life lesson was, let alone what the other "lessons" were....sounds like you just had some sloppy drunk sex and aren't happy about it.
I fail to find any life lesson that has been learned here. And... now, granted, you slept with him, not me... I wouldn't say that guy is bad in bed. I would say that you weren't getting your needs met because you weren't communicating them, and that's not his fault. Plenty of women like their hair pulled, or enjoy some spanking or dirty talk. If you don't, speak up.
my boyfriend and I get drunk and then end up doing it in strange places oO honestly, it doesn't always feel that great
since you mentioned Law...I love Jude Law, not that he is the law that you were talking about, but I would let Jude Law do anything and even bring ropes for him to restrain me
yes,plzz
I haven't hooked up because I haven't met jude law:D
a lot of girls like stuff like that, actually.
i like hair pulling and dirty talk, so i don't think it's so much that what someone told him was wrong as it's what he enjoys, has been with other girls who did too, and it just wasn't your thing.
@AnonymousBlonde@xanga - I completely agree. I'm not too into dirty talk, I admit it makes me cringe, but I love the other things mentioned. I'm not sure why, I think it's partly because I see them as displays of passion. Some women are way too touchy-feely in bed, I don't like boring sex!
I love my hair being pulled, a light choke, ass-slapping, etc. I like my sex to be "rough-ish". Dirty talk doesn't sit too well with me, though. It depends on what they say and how they say it. Generally if I don't like it, I just ignore the talking lol. I don't think being "in love" necessarily means the best sex. It just depends on the people. Sometimes I want to "make love", but really, most of the time I want to "fuck". I'm not a lover, I'm a fucker. Even with serious relationships, I didn't suddenly become the type of girl to be all suave, soft, gentle, etc with my partner. I've always been the type that wants sex to be rough, dirty, and not involve love. Love and sex do NOT go hand in hand for me. They are totally separate and you can have one without the other, no problem. ;)