Last Wednesday I went to a club for the first time. For anyone around the Dayton, Ohio area you might be familiar with Club Masque. Anyway, while there I danced with 3 guys, one of which who asked for my phone number. When I refused to give it to him, he walked away & my friends asked why I didn't. I told them I didn't trust some random guy in a club that I didn't know, & who was probably just looking for sex.
They told me that I should have anyway, and that I couldn't know for sure that sex was all that he was looking for. My opinion is that if a guy that you don't know, haven't talked to much, & that is just going to find a different girl after you're done dancing with him, is probably just looking for one thing.
I have enough guys just trying to talk to me for sex, I don't need to add another to the list. Especially as creepy as one who just stood there & watched me & my friend dance.
The third guy I danced with kept trying to get me to go downstairs with him. Masque is in an iffy part of Dayton, & I didn't know who this guy was. There was no way that I was going to leave my friends & go with him. Especially since he was already too grabby as it was.
I'm going back Wednesday to celebrate a friend's birthday, & I won't be giving out my number no matter how nice the guy seems.
What's your opinion on giving your number out at the club? Do you do it?
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I wouldn't. I would instead, if I were interested, ask for his, just to see if I could get it, then do nothing with it. :P
hmmm i never been to a club but i have to agree with you there. the guys you met there probably didn't have a real conversation with you, so hes just asking your phone number based on what you look like, possibly your demeanor, i probably wouldn't either
I would give my number out at the club I used to go to, but only to the ones I saw there often. My friends used to own a club and it was often the same group of 50-100 people that would go plus the other randoms that would show up. There were a few guys I had made friends with after going so much that I would give my number to them and we would grab lunch or whatever, but it was always platonic. If I were to go to a club now, which I wouldn't since I'm in a relationship, but I wouldn't give out my number because I wouldn't want to give the wrong idea. People are usually at clubs for one of two reasons, to have fun or to get lucky. I don't want to be mistaken and put in the wrong group haha.
i agree. giving your number out to a guy a club could be very dangerous!
think about annoying calls! prank calls!!
i would tell him to facebook me or bbm me. at least i could always delete block report abuse!
but not all guys are looking for sex at clubs.
You think too much. Even if you're not interested at all and will never text/call him back, it's a nice ego boost.
It's important to be cautious, yes. But part of living is taking a few chances and having new experiences. You can't expect to just meet your perfect guy in some perfect scenario. The purpose of a club is to be there to dance and have fun. It attracts all different types of crowds.
I met a guy at a club and while we were dancing, he was very respectful and sweet, so at the end of the night I gave him my number. He texted me and asked me out, but in the end it never happened. He goes to the Naval Academy in Annapolis anyway, and I live in California, so it wouldn't have worked but he did seem like a very nice guy from what I experienced and saw on facebook. Why not take a chance on somebody just because you met them at a club?
I gave my number to a guy in a club once and we have been together in a relationship for almost two years. Worked out for me...
this is silly. why is everyone so afraid to meet people at clubs? the fact that EVERYONE says "everyone at clubs is [insert negative remark]" means that there's some discrepancy between what you perceive the clientele to be, and what they actually are.
in other words, if you think you're a non-sketchy person and you're at a club, it's completely reasonable to expect that you will meet non-sketchy people at clubs.
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Why so quick to judge him because hes in the same place as you? Maybe he just thought you were pretty and wanted to get to know you better. He could have made the same judgments about you but he asked anyway...idk.
It's just a number, you don't have to go home with the guy. Call him back and if he seems like a creep, stop responding. You could be missing out.
I met my boyfriend in a club. He asked me for my number, and I gave it to him, and we've now been happily dating for three months. If you happen upon a creep, you can just block their number...I'd rather take the chance of meeting a nice guy :)
Numbers are harmless. I'm more concerned by guys who pass by conversation or asking to dance and go straight for "Can I buy you a drink?". Do guys think that buying girls drinks will get them laid? Are girls who accept these drinks dumb enough to actually sleep with these guys? Why is that the first thing they ask... they're obv creepin.
No even if I met the right female, I dont go clubbing.
I probably will not exhanged phone numbers in any location (supermarket, resturant etc) since I dont know my cell phone number, and house number is an ex directory number. I prefer the good old methods face to face, letter etc
if they aren't well dressed, I'm usually not drawn to them, because it is like a natural reflex reaction that I'd want to potentially mate with someone, who is well built and impeccably dressed, sort of like a male bird courting the female bird with the flashy feathers lol I'm more inclined to give my number out to well mannered and nice looking men with great style rather than be creeped out by the overly eager guy, but I rarely give out my number anyway:P if he is grabby, I'd presume his sexual intentions like you did and be cautious. well dressed men might be after that one thing, too.
my experience has been that guys at clubs aren't looking for anything serious. if you're truly serious about being in a relationship, you don't start one with someone you meet at a club. i guess it just depends on how you act and what vibe you're giving off, because the chance that you may attract a nice guy is there but the odds are slim. i feel like the reasons why girls go to clubs and the reasons why guys go to clubs are different; girls go for fun, guys go to meet people and, more often than not, get lucky. you can give your number out, but i would only do so if you feel at ease and comfortable with the guy.
did it once and i ended up with a stalker. never again
my friend did give out her number to this guy at a club.
now they're married! lol
well maybe this could stem from when i was younger & had to sneak to talk to guys on the phone, but i've found out that it's wayyy better to get a guys number. that way you can text him when you're ready & not on his time.
I'm with you. I don't give out my number at clubs. The only time I ever gave out my number at a bar or club was when I met this guy and we talked for 45 minutes straight, and he seemed nice. And guess what? Even after all of that, he still turned out to be straight up crazy. So I personally prefer to not give my number to anyone I really don't know.
I think the fact that he wants your number is a good thing. I mean, if he was really looking for sex, he'd try to take you home that night. But a phone call means a date - where you meet in well-lit places, have actual conversation, and then decide if you want to hook up later. I've had many nice dates that come out of clubbing. If you get a creep vibe from him, of course say no. But most normal guys don't have the time to become stalkers or call you every day.
So I say, go for it next time!
If the person holds my attention and I’m interested in getting to know them, I’ll give them my number. I’ve even asked for phone numbers (and gotten them). I’ve gone on some really great dates (that didn’t result in sex) with people I’ve met at a club. For me, they haven’t turned into romantic relationships, but I’ve made some pretty awesome friends to hang out with when I go clubbing by exchanging numbers.
nevah evah evah.