Monday, 28 March 2011
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Top 10 Reasons Why I'm Still Single
1. I'm not all that outgoing. Actually, I'm extremely timid (unless I am with my besties) so I don't talk to a lot of guys (or people, for that matter). I'm like a hermit, haha.
2. I'm not among the attractive/popular ones out there. I still have braces, acne, post-acne marks, glasses and the biggest birthmark sitting on my right cheek (I was once asked if I was punched or beat-up because the birthmark looks so much like a bruise).
3. I'm probably considered to be "the-girl-next-door." Nothing special about the way I dress (jeans and tees) or talk (I'm more of a listener).
4. I'm not even 18 yet. Just a few more month until I graduate from high school. So why the rush to date, right?
5. I don't let people in. And when I do, it has to be THE perfect person. I guess I'm just picky?
6. I tend to check out a lot of guys, all at the same time. That is to say - commitment probably isn't my thing. For now.
7. I don't fall for those who like me. I chase after those who don't even know I exist.
8. I never take the chance to get to know the guys I meet. How can I just randomly break into conversation with some guy I see on the street?
9. My parents don't want me to date until I graduate from college.
10. I still haven't found the "right" one :)
Ladies and gents, are you single? If you are, what are YOUR reasons? If you aren't, how did you two meet? Wanna share those feelings that I have yet to experience?
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i'm not single, but if i was, i wouldn't need to explain myself about why i'm single. being single is an experience in itself, cherish it!
sounds like a lot of excuses and insecurity to me. take charge of your life and experience it. dont hold back on what awaits you! live it to the fullest
You are young yet, so you'll work it out. But I have to say that like the poster before me, your list annoyed me, and read like excuses.
I'm single because the man I love is overseas and things are too complicated.Up until this year, I was single for most of the same reasons as the OP, with the exception of the parents not wanting me to date and age (I'm 21, and my parents never explicitly said when they did or didn't want me to date. If no one brought it up, no one talked about it, though my aunt advised me it's wiser to finish studies, then get distracted with romances, haha). I was still in ugly duckling mode - in outward appearance, I personally felt, but mostly self confidence - up until last year.
But I agree that being single is an experience. I was never a super exciting person, but defining yourself as single doesn't necessarily mean you always have to be somehow engaged in the chase either. I was never actively looking for a relationship. I think life ends up being a lot more fun when you're not bogged down with the ideas and justifications for being, or not being one thing or another!
Numbers 1, 6 and 7 sound like me, but at the same time I'm more insecure than anything and I've been holding back on letting someone into my life until I can get my insecurities together.
I think it all leads to #10 (and #4/9 influences that). Unless they refuse to date anyone, most people are single because they haven't found the right one. Now, since you're so young, and your parents won't let you date, that kind of inhibits you from finding the right one. By the way, you should be allowed to date, especially after you turn 18. Your parents shouldn't have influence over who you hang out with or date once you are considered an adult.
I agree with the second poster.
I am 27 single guy and have a disability, which is a hidden one.
I have been asked out once or twice, one of the blue and the other one was an entertainer whilst I was on holiday who asked me whether I had a girlfriend / wanted one, she asked my parents could she marry me.
Whoa, whoa, whoa - don't be hatin' in the comments. These weren't excuses, just reasons, as the title suggests. Excuses are justifications for a situation one doesn't want to be in, and the way I'm reading it, she's alright with not being in a relationship. Love'll hit ch'ya eventually, probably when you're not expecting it.
I'm single. Because I choose to be. And that's how I roll. And my current circumstances are all uncool and unforgiving in the dating scene.
It sounds like you're not even 18 yet and you have plenty of time to find the answers you're looking for. Points I would add are that you set it up like this is the only goal you have and that you spend too much time thinking about. It'll figure itself out in time, lets enjoy being 17 and taking care of things you need to do, like graduating. As for the chasing guys that don't care, I'm sure that changes with time too. I remember a time when women wouldn't give guys like me, awesome dudes for the record, the time of day, but now I see all of the... I call them douches, and it's completely opposite these days.
I would just say you don't need all of this emphasis and pressure on finding the right one, and being afraid to let people in, and hitting on strangers. Get friends to set you up, find people who are fun to be around, do what you're comfortable doing and take the world at your pace. It's your life, do it how you want. I guarantee if you stick to doing what you want to you won't have to spend sooo much time thinking through all of these variables.
Ugh #9 for me too! No boyfriend and I am 18. Going on 19 in a few months... Do they understand how many years of college I have to go?!
You "don't let people in" ........?
Prude.[See what I did there? Condensed your list to one reason. You're welcome.]
This sounds exactly like me! Although, I didn't mind being single at all. Life was still fun with my friends and family ^^ But I shall be having my first date next week with the most amazing guy i've ever met =D (I'm 19 btw)
@Super_Andy@xanga - LOL. You are probably the only one who thinks this is a list of reasons, and not excuses. I may be "insecure" and all, but I love being single :D *high fives*
@littlemiss_understood@xanga - awesomeee :D how did you meet your amazing guy? i would loveee to hear about your date, if you are ever willing to share :)
@Mr_Gnome@xanga - yeahhh, i tend to over-analyze everything in my life xD just a habit of mind, but of course, i will definitely try to stop looking for the right one. he'll come someday
I was 17 when I got into my first relationship. And I rushed myself. It wasn't worth it. I should have waited. I am now in my second relationship (at 20 almost 21). We started getting to know each other about a month after I broke my first relationship off. And I wasn't even looking for anything. I told myself that I wasn't going to date for two years (I don't know why 2 years), but that didn't exactly work out. We've been together for almost 2 years now. I wasn't expecting it. Neither was he. So my advice is don't rush and don't go looking for a relationship. It will come to you.
I have high expectations. I'm sexy and conceited. I'm shy but naughty
I'm weird. I haven't found the one that gets me. I haven't found someone who I can tolerate. I'm too difficult to please.
if you cry easily as you said from your other blog, then be prepared to cry more if you're with a guy, because I wasn't the crying type until guys disappointed me and I cried multiple times
I dumped him though
being single has its bright side
1. I'm not out-going either. Most of my social life revolves around two male friends, playing video games or sport with them and their partners
. Having said that I am involved in mixed sports, but... 2. I'm past 26 years of age, where it is a statistically significant fact that finding single women is incredibly hard to do, let alone those I relate to 
3. I live on the edge of suburbia, city is 30km away, where I imagine my kind of woman lives. 4. I'm currently unemployed, and am perfectly aware women do not like that, which is fair enough. 5. I currently live at my parent's house, which is unattractive on its own, add the fact they're mentally ill to the equation, and its difficult to even invite friends home, let alone women. 8. The only available women I currently encounter are obese or deeply religious. 9. I'm the outsider in all my social grouping, due to a life of travelling, friends have deeper ties with each other than to me, and I just can't seem to gain leverage.10. I've met and been good friends with my type of woman on multiple occasions, but they're always taken. 11. I'm ostracised just for being single, its a vicious circle.
I think the answer is simply get a job, move closer to the city, join a social group where I'm more likely to find my type of woman, and ultimately find a woman. Sounds so easy, yet has proven to be so hard
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A lot of these still apply to me and did when I was younger. And I've been in plenty of relationships. I think what happens is that I use my strengths in place of my weaknesses.
Take initiative when you figure out who you want, girlfriend.
If not now, then when. Don't let life just happen to you- be a part of it.
As for the rest-- NEVER apologize for being who you are. Just OWN IT, and honestly that has been why I am not singe. Because I am comfortable with being who I am, I am comfortable not knowing who I will be, and guys are way more comfortable with that than playing a stupid dating game.
Unless you like dating games, then by all means -- don't apologize. :)
You're not even 18!!! Stop complaining or worrying about it. @_@ You have time.
I agree with cubancutiepie - there is no need to explain yourself. I've been asked multiple times over the years during periods of singleness, "Why are you single?" Well, the definition of single is not in a relationship, so I always told people "I'm single because I don't have a boyfriend". No need to sit around trying to overanalyze myself and figure what's "wrong with me". Cuz doggone it, I'm awesome.
Anyway, met the SO out dancing (at a dance studio, not a club). He became my dance partner, and then sort of morphed into my boyfriend. Yay
@LaBellaMorena - i liked this. i never found being single as having something wrong with me. live and let live. im not in anything now because i wasnt over my ex so stopped trying and realized i just needed to chill out, relax, get over him and stop letting other people down who would never be him.
you're either ready or you're not. and sometimes you're like me and are only 'ready' when you meet them:) x
Totally know how you feel! Except I am 18 (Older actually XD) and my parents don't really care if I date now or not. I have NEVER had a boyfriend in my life =[ So the best way to put it... Being single is like playing the "waiting game". So. While you wait keep yourself busy and your mind off of the dudes. It's f**king hard as hell!... I would know XD. And while you wait you can work on those things that you have hard time with like numbers 1, 5, 6, and 8 =D Also like cubancutiepie said enjoy it while your single! Because with ANY relationship it takes a lot of work XP Any couple can tell you that. Just don't sweat it because your time will come before you know it =]