I have begun seeing my ex-boyfriend again. Though not in the way that we were seeing each other before. We dated for over two years and the result was a disastrous relationship: lying, trust issues, constant arguing, constant third-party intervention. It wasn't pretty and we went our separate ways. For a while.
We've always had an undeniable attraction to one another. Few were the times that we were in the same confined space that did not lead to something physical happening. This attraction coupled with our going to the same college and sharing many of the same friends, meant that we soon found ourselves tossing around in bed again.
But things are different. We've learned to be friends again, so we get along in a way that we never did as a couple. So much of the pressure and obligations that come with a traditional relationships are gone. It is easier, lighter, freer, and at the end of the day I am much happier than I was before. In any relationship to be exact.
Of course the whole situation is based on a delicate series of balances. Ground rules have to be set and boundaries have to be made sure not to be crossed, but overall, when done properly it can function much better than a typical relationship.
So perhaps I am the issue, I'm just not the "in a relationship" kinda girl. Maybe removing some of the obligations of relationships allows for people to just be around each other when they like, and to do so pleasantly. Either way, regardless of how my current "situationship" ends, I think I'll be an "open relationship"/ "it's complicated" girl from here on out. Have you ever tried a friends with benefits sort of situation? How did it work out for you?