Monday, 14 March 2011

• The 5 Love Languages

  

  I finished reading the book, "The 5 love languages" and it's pretty legit in my opinion. Your love language is what you enjoy both giving and receiving that makes you feel most loved and fills your love tank the most.

  It's sometimes easier to discover what your love language is by thinking of what hurts you the most when you don't receive that kind of love or are rejected from giving it.

  They are as follows:

  - Physical Touch
  Your love tank is filled when your SO touches you whether it be affection that can be sexual or comforting. Even light touches throughout the day such as giving and receiving goodbye and hello kisses and pats or rubs on the back keep you feeling loved.

  

  - Quality Time
  Your love tank is filled when your SO gives you undivided attention and you spend time together focusing on just each other. This may be taking walks together on the beach, going out to eat together, etc.

   

  - Gifts
  Your love tank is filled when your SO gives you gifts. This can be in the form of actual store bought gifts or homemade gifts. When you receive gifts you feel most loved and always think of the person dearly every time you look at that gift.

  It may delight you to find little surprise gifts in hidden places or to receive something from your SO that you really needed. You feel as though your SO really cares about you and thinks about you when he gives you gifts. It also delights you to give gifts to others.

  

  - Acts of Service
  Your love tank is filled when your SO performs acts of service for you. This can be in the form of washing your car or doing your dishes or cooking for you. You feel loved that your SO sacrifices their time and goes out of their way to do things for you. When you want to love on your SO, you like to brainstorm about what you can do for him or her.

   

  - Words of Affirmation
  Your love tank is filled when your SO gives you words of affirmation. These words are encouraging and build you up. You hate nagging and take insults very personally. You feel your love tank fill up when your SO pours out compliments to you and appreciates you with words, whether it be to you directly, or as a note on a piece of paper; or even when they commend you in front of their friends and family.

  

  My top love language is quality time. For some reason it hurts me when my husband decides to play video games or play guitar rather than hang out with me. Particularly because I look forward to seeing him all day and take it hard when he prioritizes activities over spending time with me.

  This Sunday he gave me his undivided attention. We took a long walk at the park and held hands and I felt very much at peace and happy. That night we talked for hours before we went to bed, just pouring our thoughts to each other, laughing, and being silly. I was so happy my eyes watered a little bit.  

  My husband's love language is acts of service. Whenever he comes home to see the house cleaned, he showers me with complements and tells me what a great wife I am and that he's so blessed to have me. I find that he really doesn't mind and even likes to do things like wash my car or do the dishes for me.

  It's easiest for me to give my husband quality time, but I have to go out of my way to give him acts of service. That's why it's important, to know each other's top love languages so you know how to optimally love one another. Of course it's important to remember not to neglect the other love languages because we oftentimes enjoy the rest as well.

  What do you think your love language is? 

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