Tuesday, 08 March 2011
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Curvy vs. Skinny: Are Skinny Women Really That Unattractive?
Why are skinny girls always thought of as unattractive? Yes I am what a lot people may refer to as skinny. I don't have a flat tush, but it's not big and round either, it's just small and a little/slightly curvy. I'm straight up and down, no curvy hips or thighs. My breasts aren't big either; I'm only like a 30 B.But that doesn't make me unattractive because I'm thinner. Big breasts and curves aren't always "sexy," and It doesn't make them any more of a woman than I am.Everyone's body is different. I'm tired of people with the whole "Real women have curves" statement. A woman is a woman, we all have the same thing - a vagina and boobs.
There are some skinny girls that are attractive, and also big girls that are unattractive. I've seen women with curves that had horrible, I mean HORRIBLE bodies. Yet people still compare them to skinny or fit girls (saying they look better than skinny women) that probably look 100 times better and healthier.
The bad thing about this is that they don't compare healthy, beautiful, skinny women with curvier women, rather the unhealthy, malnourished skinny, as if all skinny women were unhealthy and anorexic.
I've heard several women say that the media is saying skinny women are more attractive, but I strongly disagree. Skinny women are used for modeling, and THAT'S IT. But women like Beyonce, J.Lo, and Christina Aguilera are the ones that are really head strong in the media because they are curvier and viewed as more beautiful/ "Real Women."
Many men have said themselves that they like curvier women. I've heard very few men say,"Oh, skinny women are sexy." What I hear most from men is, "Curvy is sexy." It seems that many people are in denial about this. Why is the media so big on making some women feel good, while bringing others down in the process?
Why do people act like this? Why are people still doing the skinny vs. curvy thing? It's getting old, annoying, and sounds sort of stupid.
What are your opinions on this situation?
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I have never heard a man say that bigger girls were more attractive than skinny girls in my entire life.
Even when they're talking about "girls with curves"... they're still talking about size 6 celebs.The only people I've heard talking about how unattractive thin girls are... are plus sized ones.
My dad prefers my mother thicker. My husband prefers me thicker, also. I've been my smallest and my biggest with him, and there is a difference in how he refers to my attractiveness. He likes me bigger and thicker.
However, "curvy" and "thick" doesn't necessarily translate to obese. You can be a solid 14 and not be obese.
@raspbxrrryjam@xanga - EXACTLY.
But I do agree with the poster. Usually articles about women's bodies are comparing polar opposites or they make unfair comparisons. I think the media will stop talking about women's bodies when women stop talking about their bodies and when women stop acting like their bodies are the only thing that make them worthy of getting attention from a man.
@PseudoEuphoric@xanga - This.
Also, the last time I checked, a "real" woman had to have the appropriate female reproductive organs to be considered, you know, a "real" woman....
I think it's because, afew years ago, thin girls we're really in, more than curvy women. Celebs were losing weight and becoming really thin, as we're other women. So of course there were alot of peple getting sick with anorexia etc. So now the media is trying to put across 'curvy is sexy' to stop this from happening. Except it leaves out naturally skinny girls.. but now, skinny girls feel less attractive because it's not 'in' when not long ago it was the other way around.
Alot of peoples view of curvy is warped. I see curvy as a nice hip/waist ratio(people can deny this all they want but it is universally attractive)flat tummy, no bulges or back rolls. Just a nice proportional woman but i know a good bit of people...overweight/obese that believe that being big in the unhealthy way and shopping at lane bryant automatically makes them 'curvy' and 'desireable'. No. It makes you fat.
I've seen unattractive woman on both ends of the spectrum. Ugly has no favorites.
Blame celebrities(Monique. movie:real women have curves),fat acceptance movements and the home for skinny bashing parades. When someone beats into your head that a certain person is this because they look a certain way and youre perfect the way you are you start to send that message into the world. I have friends who are big and they get this You're better than everyone else talk. They get refered to as 'sexy' from friends and family so they think they can say whatever they want about whoever because they're better and its ridiculous.
Curves and being skinny aren't mutually exclusive. I personally think I'm the perfect size in that I wouldn't be considered "big", but I have a lot of curves. And I think most men refer to someone with a similar body type when they're saying they like women with curves. One of my best friends finds skinny women with no curves highly unattractive, but I think that's a product of him being black and having a cultural preference for women with curves; similarly, men of my Asian culture prefer super skinny, curves being irrelevant.
True. I've never been rude to bigger girls just because they arent the same size as me but I do have to grit my teeth when they talk about how sexy their curves are and how unattractice I am because I'm skinny. I'm all for women feeling empowered but stop tearing skinny girls down or your just doing the exact thing your accusing everyone else of doing to you.
because those people are insecure and competitive. they say things to one-up the other, so they feel more superior physically. arrogant people come in all shapes and sizes.
the guys that I know detest fat women. so it depends. I usually think if someone is out of shape, then they are more forgiving of someone, who is also out of shape. I mean if I'm toned and workout, I wouldn't be too attracted to others, who weren't toned like me or I'd be more critical as far as being healthy and that's probably why I'm biased and am not attracted to thicker men. to each their own.
I'm sorry. I can't even keep reading this entry. Everyone can be beautiful and people have different tastes. These "who's better" things need to stop.
Just like all women are built differently, all men have different preferences. you're bound to, eventaully, meet a man who loves the way you're body is built. Why waste your time on the other ones?
I do know guys who like a girl with meat on her bones. My husband, being one of them. And no, he doesn't mean fat or obese. He just prefers a girl who isn't all bones or looks like one he could "snap in two" (his own words). My husbands friend also prefers a girl with meat on her bones. There are plenty of other guys, out in the world, who prefer skinny girls, who don't have meat on their bones. It really depends on the guy.
All women are REAL women. All women are built different ways. I think we all need to GET OVER making sure our body type is made out to be the "best". I think that's just insecurity speaking. We all need to embrace our differences, learn to appreciate them and keep our mouths shut about other women and their body types.
Is there a difference between curvy and fat?
I swear it's like "curvy girls" say why do guys always like "thin girls"? and then "thin girls" say, why do guys always like "curvy girls"? and then "curvy girls" get pissed and make posts about "curvy is beautiful". and then "thin girls" get pissed and make a post about "thin girls" are hot. and then "curvy girls" make a post about "thin girls" are hot but so are "curvy girls". and then a "thin girl" makes a post about how everyone has "different body shapes" and that we're all beautiful. and then it starts again. omg, it's never ending lol. everyone will think everything. there is no exclusion ANYWHERE. can we stop debating such subjective topics? you will never get an answer you want. i mean what do people want, to say that yes "curvy girls are hotter than thin girls" or vice versa. is that REALLY gonna help? NO, so accept that you'll always get the cheesy answer that "it depends, it doesn't matter, blah blah blah".
This topic is getting slightly overdone. Curvy females are beautiful. Skinny females are beautiful. Women are beautiful and need to get their heads out of their asses and stop drooling over every word the media says. I have never heard a guy say, 'curvy/big/small/skinny/whatever girls are beautiful,'. And to be honest, I don't care to meet any guys that make those types of comments anyway. I'm thrilled that my boyfriend just says, 'you're beautiful the way you are and I love the way you look,'. I wish all females had people in their lives that told them the same thing so the group that thinks you need to look a certain way to be attractive would realize that there's all different types of attractiveness.
Fat women are unattractive. Â I can tell you that much.
By fat, I mean the type that has to purchase two tickets for herself on an airplane or for a football game, or the type that will fall right through the floor when participating in an aerobics class that plays Van Halen's "Jump".
It depends on the degree. Skinny as in you can see her ribs and bones is unattractive. I would like to know that a girl does eat and in a healthy manner. I like women who eat.
Coming from a guy: We. Don't. Give. A. Damn.
These blogs spin it like every woman is either twig-skinny or morbidly obese. If you're in the middle of those two extremes (as most women are) then you're probably good. Someone undoubtedly finds you attractive.
There are three types of men I know: boob guys, ass guys, and leg guys.
One of my exes was an ass guy. He liked that I had a nice ass for a white girl. And yes, I'm overweight.
I've heard guys comment on long lovely legs, and those are generally on skinny girls.Another of my exes liked that I have enormous boobs. Once again, I'm overweight.
My friend is underweight, and she's got a nice rack on her for her tiny little frame. Her boyfriend loves that "she's tiny but still has boobs." So she's not overweight, and the boyfriend's happy.
So two out of three types of guys like individual attributes I bring to the table. But just because I have those attributes doesn't mean that by proportion, a skinny girl can't have them, as shown by my underweight friend.
Are we done now?
What's unattractive is the way women have to bitch at each other about what's attractive.
You know what's attractive? Vaginas.
@merquryd@xanga - Mhm agreed...
I think "skinny" becomes unattractive when you don't eat, worry about your weight like if you eat an extra calorie you're going to end up with a lard butt ect ect....if you're just naturally skinny I don't see a problem... On the other hand, if you eat more than your body weight in food every day, being bigger becomes unattractive too.
I've heard tons of guys say that they prefer "thicker" women to girls that are just skin and bones...or "women who know how to eat".
You could be a bigger size and wear your clothes nicely with your curves, just as much as you could be a bigger size and just look like a lump.
Also, just as the media obsesses over some celeb's T&A, they usually seem to go after celebs who are starting to gain weight (even if that weight looks nice on them).
And, on another note, I would love to meet the guys you say obsess about curves, because other than my boyfriend, I have not met any guys who have chased after girls with curves; most of these guys end up going for what I used to bitterly call (because I was jealous) the "skinny-stick" girls.
But enough of that, curves or not, no matter how you look with or without them, the biggest deal is how you wear what you have. If you are on the defense about being a girl without many curves, then of course you won't find anyone. You need to be more confident because that wears into who you are.
no. Skinny is attractive .
i think youre trippin.. nobody says skinny women are unattractive
this blog makes no sense to me at all. people who say "curvy" (aka: thick, fat) is more attractive are the people who ARE curvy.
and models are skinny because designers want attractive people wearing their clothes.
weird post.
I don't think by curves they mean obese. They mean curves like hourglass figure. Full butt, but not giant. A defined waist, and some boobage. I don't think it's a rule. I fall into the curvy category. I have a butt like Kim Kardashian but not huge boobs. It depends on the guy on what is sexy. Some guys dig big chicks. Some like skinny ones. Some guys like girls in the middle of the two. I'm agreeing with you. I don't believe the "Real Women Have Curves" thing either. I believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder.