Thursday, 03 March 2011
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Would You Date a Bisexual?
One of my sister's friends recently hooked up with a guy. After they hooked up, he told her that he was bisexual: 75% into guys and 25% into girls.
After he told her that, my sister's friend lost interest. She disliked that he was more into guys than girls. I completely understand her worries, but who knows if they would have really hit it off?
I'm sure there are worries that one would have before entering a relationship with a bisexual. There's the negative stereotype that bisexuals are prone to cheating. But I know firsthand from friends that are bisexual that the stereotype is false.
I know heterosexuals and homosexuals who've cheated. Bisexuals shouldn't have to deal with that negative stereotype.
I think the concern for my sister's friend was the added competition. It's enough to have to compete with other girls for attention, but guys too?
What do you think? Would you date a bisexual?
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I'm bisexual... so yea. If I trusted them. Sexuality doesn't bug me. unless of course they told me what they told you sisters friend... (Because now i would feel like a 'lets see if i'm gay!' girlfriend. and I don't need that.. again)
i probably wouldn't, no. like @heythereJOANN@xanga said, it's nothing against them liking guys AND girls, but i wouldn't feel comfortable. and yeah, the added competition would make things harder. having said that, if i fell in love with someone who was bisexual i wouldn't leave them just because they're bisexual. love is love :)
Sure. It's the same with dating someone who is straight or gay. It's not about sexuality. You either trust them or you don't.
sexuality doesn't play into my feelings for people
i'm bi and i'd be a hypocrite if i wouldn't, too.
i'd also be willing to date a gay guy if he decided he was into me and i was into him.
I don't think I would knowingly allow myself to fall for someone who was bisexual. Nothing against them, though.
@laytexduckie@xanga - True
Both my fiance and I are bisexual. We're monogamous, and have no intentions of straying.
Sexuality has no bearing on loyalty. It's frustrating to hear this assumption that, simply based on one's sexuality, the sincerity of the emotions felt is not true. If you're in love with someone, and committed to someone, then that's what counts.
Everyone has the capability to cheat. Bisexual, homosexual or heterosexual. Just as everyone is capable of a stable and loving relationship.
I would, and I have.
Strange but true story: I was hitting on a girl at a bar who claimed to be bisexual. One of my guy buddies came up and, in proper drunken fashion, I slapped his ass. She freaked out, thinking I was bisexual. Because apparently she wasn't cool with GUYS who are.
Bisexuals are no more different than the next person, but if your insecure, then you have more to worry about ie; both genders appealing to them. but if you pick the right kind of person who is willing to stay monogamous, then, like i said, no different than the next.
@skylar_rose@xanga -
Wiser words were never heard.
@GodlessLiberal@xanga - LOL.
And yeah, I would. It's just like what @laytexduckie@xanga - said.
I really don't get why people who say they're fine with the idea of bisexuality are so uncomfortable with this. You always hear the "more competition" argument, but really, that speaks more for your level of insecurity than anything. If you don't trust him or her not to cheat, you probably shouldn't be together anyways.
Yes? Just because somebody is bisexual doesn't mean their going to be unfaithful.
I won't date a bisexual, I'd have to be twice as concerned over him cheating! lol
no, but sometimes I wish the guy that I was interested in wasn't gay but straight or bisexual. they are usually just into men and not bisexual.
I feel like by him saying he is more into guys than girls means that he KINDA likes girls...and I wouldn't feel comfortable with that..and it almost sounds like he is working his way toward gay. Without those percentages...I would totally date a bi guy. The thought is actually kind of sexy to me.
@laytexduckie@xanga - Mhm.
@skylar_rose@xanga - Yep.Just because someone is bisexual doesn't make them anymore promiscuous as a straight person so that whole, "I don't really trust them" is really stupid and ignorant.
It would be so intriguing.
I've always thought that if it makes you uncomfortable, you have insecurities or trust issues. You could lose someone special because of something so stupid.
I couldn't do it. As selfish as it sounds, I would want to be the only person in my SO's love life. I would never want to compromise or have to share someone.
I couldn't date a bisexual. It's bad enough to have to worry about your girl around other dudes. Now I gotta look out for the chicks, too? Screw that.
@shpadoinkle12@xanga - I will attempt to explain why I think I'm uncomfortable with it. I actually don't really know why, but I think the idea of my guy wanting or having wanted to be with another guy makes me uncomfortable. It might also have to do with me possibly feeling inadequate because I wouldn't be able to please him like a man, like I wouldn't be enough. I don't think I would knowingly allow myself to fall for someone who was bisexual, they would have immediately been put in the friend zone. It might be different, though, if it was a guy who I fell for before I knew (that could have actually been a possibility because I have had crushes on gay guys before knowing they were gay). This also might have something to do with the fact that I've really only truly known one bisexual person in my circle of acquaintances. Every other person I've known who has claimed to be bisexual now identifies as homosexual, as if they were using the term "bisexual" as a way to help them or others deal with their sexuality. So it could be just that I'm uncomfortable because I don't really know. Or it could be because I'm afraid the guy is really just on the "down low". Really, it could be any combination of reasons.
My good friend and former roommate (we both graduated) says that she isn't even attracted to straight girls. She only likes girls that are homosexuals. I believe she also isn't into bisexual girls (I base this off the fact that she told me she thinks bisexuality is a myth. She may feel differently, now tho). I'm not sure why she feels this way, I think it could be because the idea of heterosexual sex turns her off so much that she can't be with anyone that has it.
Being Bisexual, yes, I would. In fact, I think I'd prefer it. Most of the lesbians I know give me a hard time about being Bi and the straight guys all think I'm gonna leave em for a girl. Then there's the whole sex thing and "which do you like more" crap. I don't choose who I date based on the equipment underneath. I date people I like and am interested in as a person, who they are on the inside. And usually only other Bisexuals understand that.
Also, I'm not promiscuous. If you think that you'll have "competition" issues, you obviously think I'm very superficial. I'm gonna chase every hot guy and/or girl that passes me by. I'm not an animal. And to say that I'll cheat on you simply because of my sexuality is stupid. In fact, straight and homesexual folks cheat more frequently. Not that I have anything against them. All but like 5% of my friends are either one or the other. But my few fellow Bi friends are all faithful to their partners, whether they be guys or girls.