Tuesday, 01 March 2011
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Can Your Relationship Function Without a Cell Phone?
This may be a rhetorical question to most since they'll answer that it's a matter of convenience and if faced with a financial crisis, they would begrudgingly stop paying the bill. Others however, have become so reliant on their precious iPhones that they literally will not leave home without it.The thought of losing their phone will trigger Hitler-esque fits of rage and profanity. I'm oftentimes taken aback by the reality of it because as someone who doesn't own a cell phone, I see it from a different perspective.
The answer could simply be that I don't see an importance or have an attachment to cell phones because I haven't had to rely on them for anything. I've been able to hold relationships without it, but can admit that it's not as convenient
That being said, I do have a home phone and I understand others opt to do away with home phones in favor of their cellular phone plans.
Owning an on-the-go communication device may be necessary for certain professions, but a growing population of young teens and even pre-teens are walking around with Internet-enabled mobile devices.
The reason?
To update their Facebook statuses in class or while narrowly being missed by speeding buses. Or perhaps it's sexting since they're in their horny rabbit years. If my time in New York City's public school system is anything to go by, they're often detrimental to relationships.
Not only are teens more prone to theft when they're vulnerable and walking around with unnecessarily expensive phones, but they're also less likely to get away with cheating. As we all know, that's the real shame.
Before Facebook and cellular phones capable of text messaging, the issue of privacy wasn't as big a strain on relationships. A lack of trust can easily begin to build up like a bad case of mold if one half of the relationship values his or her privacy.
I've seen plenty of situations where one of the two involved in the relationship demands that passwords be shared and phones be left unlocked. If partner "A" refuses to compromise, almost immediately, the "trust-o-meter" becomes the "bust-o-meter" that imploded the "give a fuck" bubble.
Whether or not you've got something to hide, it's always nice to have some sort of privacy. I don't feel that it's necessary to share absolutely everything with your partner, but I also don't condone cheating or keeping nasty secrets involving the next-door neighbor's dog.
I can see the benefit of having phones in day-to-day life and even in relationships. However, I don't think they're as necessary as some make them out to be. They're definitely a luxury and useful, but if you were asked to give up your phone, would you?
Do you think you can properly function in a relationship without cell phones?
How much power does the phone have over your soul?
Most importantly, have you developed a brain tumor yet?
Commence attack.
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Recently, I've been doing quite fine with a cell phone. My bf and I have other ways to talk to each other when he's at work. We use msn to text and skype to talk if need be. I haven't had my own cellphone for a year and I've coped well without it. The thing is that if you love someone, you'll always find another way to communicate.
Of course I could. We'd have a big gap in our communication due to the removal of texts, but could I? Yes I love this girl too damn much to let something like that come between us.
Hahah I used to have that phone in the picture. Sense I'm in a long distance relationship, my phone is kind of an important thing to have..... My phone isn't fancy like an iphone or anything but it gets the job done. I also think a cell phone would be important to people who have an SO in the military, sense they can get phone calls from them at any given time.
Cell phones are best used for getting out of awkward situations. :)
I've been fine without a phone in the past, but since my boyfriend recently moved away (again) to another state, I'm become pretty attached to my phone. We don't talk that often because of our busy schedules, but when we do have time to talk I like my phone to be handy incase it's only for a few minutes. When he was living here I often wouldn't ever look at my phone though because I don't really text or talk on it that often. We don't know each other's passwords for our phones/computers and we never look at them anyway. Our phones are our own business and he can talk to whoever he wants. I'm not too nervous about it :p
I don't have my phone 90% of the time, and I still have all my friends. My secret?
Get Friends With Cars. Sneak out. Be home before they notice. Plan these things at school, while you still can.
Or, you could be like me and get a car.
Just try to always be with somebody with a phone/car, so you're not really deprived of communication. you don't need a cell phone to have fun, or have relationships.
I would love to not have my phone. It would be hard not to get into contact with people but then I could be a ninja and avoid all my annoying friends that wanna bitch about their problems. Or I can just use my phone as a weapon and throw it at their head.
Of course I can. Nobody NEEDS a phone. My boyfriend and I never really text anyway. He rings me, but he would just ring me home phone or Skype me if I didn't have a cell phone.
Well, right now, since the guy I'm seeing lives kind of far away, my cell phone is the only thing that keeps me sane. So yeah, I'd die without it. DIE. One time, my mom waited too late to pay the bill on our cell phone account and it got shut off and I seriously started hyperventilating.
Since I dont have a SO, the only reason I got a cell phone because there are not many phone boxes around. It took me to June 2009 age 25 to get one.
I got a medical condition and also a disbaility which I dont know how it might affect me using a cell phone. I rarely use any sort of cell phone/telephone if I can avoid it.
One good thing about not many people knowing my number, is bothering me when I dont want them to.
As for texting, have not got a clue
From August to December of last year, I went phoneless. And by that I mean that I used Skype credit to make [very few] calls from overseas. It wasn't bad at all. In fact, when I got back to the States, I drove some people nuts by forgetting to answer their texts for hours because the cell phone really meant that little to me.
But in terms of relationships? Well, I've only had one in the past, but cell phones did actually play a big role. My ex was against talking on phones, but would incessantly text me. Then when he'd see me, he'd nearly instantly grab my phone and go through my messages. I got into the habit of actually deleting my inbox/sent mail before he came over. Oh, and his phone was off limits-- obviously.
I live in Silicon Valley. Smart phones are almost a requirement if you want to keep up with what's happening these days. So much information is passed around, that if you're not connected to the network here, you're already fatally behind. Social media rules here.
I've gone days without mine, mostly due to forgetting to charge it, and when I turn it back on, I get barraged with updates, emails, texts, and whatnot. It's kind of frustrating, but that's how it is.
I just have a simple flip phone. No fancy stuff. No internet, texting, etc.
My boyfriend lives three hours away, so a phone is nice to have.. But I don't need it. We talk online a lot.I use to have a cellphone, I use to have a job. Now I don't have both.
16- Never Had a phone..I'm fine
I can function without my cellphone, but I do admit that not having one back in high school when everyone did put a dent in my friendships. Around 7th grade (2002) my family got rid of our home phone because of a stupid billing thing, so I went through middle and high school without a home phone, without internet and without a cellphone (only through my mom's cell).
I missed out on a lot of quality time talking with my schoolmates and it really did create a gap, since most people were used to me being off the radar. Even now, people act surprised that I go online or whatever haha. And it's hard trying to re-forge friendships with people who never really got used to me being "around" coz of no net.
My cousin just DIES without her cellphone. It's hilarious. Mine, I use it for what it is for -quick contact with family, BF, etc.
I have a cell phone but dont have internet and dont like texting. I use it for job searching and to talk with friends, but I have found I normally turn it on silent and check for missed callas and messages later. It is just stressful to have to stop reading your book, watching tv, or a movie or get up from napping/sleeping cause someone calls or sends you a (unwanted) text message.
lol, my husband rarely uses his cell phone so yea. our relationship can function just fine without one.
while i agree that sometimes it's inconvenient, i don't have a cell phone and prefer it that way.
i wish i can have a relationship without facebook or cellphone.
Mine could, but it'd be kind of difficult. My boyfriend lives 10 1/2 hours away, and doesn't have a laptop of his own... so we can only talk online some of the time (when his mom's not using it for work) and so we spend a lot of time just talking on the phone to each other. We could write letters and stuff to each other, so I guess our relationship doesn't NEED to involve cellphones, but I'm glad it does, since I love his voice. <3
I haven't been in a relationship since coming to college (thankfully, really, but that's another story) so I'm not sure about the concept in question.
However, I recently went a week without my phone, and my reaction to the situation surprised even me.
I didn't freak out. Not once. Even though I wasn't even sure if it was going to turn out. I used my roommate's phone when I needed to call someone, and just had family let me know over fb if they needed to get in touch with me. Mind you, this was the same weekend one of my best friends went into the hospital (being out of the loop on that was probably the worst part of the whole thing) and my baby cousin was born. So, theoretically it should have been horrible. But it wasn't.
I liked learning that I don't rely on my phone, no matter how much I use it when I do have it, and that I could go without if necessary.
Yah, hed have to deal with me randomly showing up at his house though. lol. It is easier to call first though. (:
haha i couldnt do it.. that would be hard