Monday, 28 February 2011
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I Kissed a Guy I Just Met
I've only had two encounters with this guy and the second time we kissed. Is that moving too fast? One night a good friend introduced me to another friend of hers who is also a artist like myself and she figured we will be good friends. We went over to his house one night to hang out. My friend was tired from her busy day and ended up falling asleep on the air mattress he pulled out for her while we continued to talk and do a collaboration art piece in one of his journals. When the time came to leave he hugged my friend and then we hugged as well. He didnt let go and neither did I. This hug lasted a few moments until we parted and he ended the night saying "Come back again!"
Needless to say, I think this was when I began liking him and he remained on my mind for that week.
That Friday I had a art opening and invited him along with some friends from college. We ended up going to a nearby coffee place. We were holding hands and kept straying from the group together to just talk. The group I was with were all over 21, and left for a bar. This was around 1 am and my sister and I were so tired and decided to head home for sleep. This was when I was hugging him outside of the bar and we kissed. It was a mutual action on both of our accounts and no one felt pressured.
But now I'm left in a totally awkward position and he's a pretty shy person, I feel like I'm the person who has to take the next step in this and ask him out or something. In reality I am more confused then ever and I dont have a clue what move to make. I dont even know if I'm ready for a boyfriend right now. That word sounds so foreign from everything I'm used to. I have never had one before, I'm 19, he's 24, way more experienced then I am. I'm just nervous and scared for what he has to say about it and wants from me..
Needless to say, I still haven't called him about it. And he hasn't called me either.
What do you think? Have you ever kissed a guy the second time you've met him? What should I do? Wait for him to call or take a stand and call him?
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Call Him !!!
I Called My Boyfriend When We Only Just Met !! We Talked Loads on The Phone And Decided To Hang Out More Often.. Until Then After a Month I Asked Him Out :D He Said YES!! Plus HE WAS SHY!!4Good Luck :DUh, I've kissed a guy the first time I met him. I would try calling him or setting up a time to see him, depending on the type of kiss. Good luck! I wouldn't be able to not say, "What's up with that kiss?" lol
call him but take things slow. you guys' age difference can get things really complicated really fast.
My bf and I kissed on our 2nd encounter but he asked for my number during our 1st encounter so idk what to tell you.
I would call him. If he doesn't answer, leave a message. If he never responds, just move on.
Eh, go ahead and call him. See if he shows any interest. And one of my exes kissed me the first day we really met, so I guess it's not that strange.
Call him. :] My boyfriend and I kissed the second time we hung out too. And we're really happy. Take a leap... why the hell not? It may end up being something amazing. :]
Sounded like a nice date and you have the number nothing wrong with calling.
Call him! Ask how hes doing...small talk you know? Maybe ask him to hangout again... :D Good luck!
If you're not ready for a relationship and you're nervous about the age difference, you should probably stick to hanging out casually until he makes his intentions clear. If he does, THEN you can have the hand-wringing brow-wrinkling inward discussions of "what should I do now?!"
For now, keep it casual and don't let things escalate physically until you know exactly what you're getting into.
~V
Do you want to date him? I would say take things slow because some guys are just assholes who are trying to get into your pants, but I would also say that if you're 20 and you've never dated and you want experience, you might want to start dating.
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It sounded like it happened quite naturally. Just go with it. Problems with age difference might or might not manifest, so you have to see.
Then =/= Than
I kissed my BF the second time I saw him IRL.. We had a long distance relationship, though and so the second time I saw him we had been together for 3 months.
Kissing someone the first and/or second time you hang out/go on a date with them is not moving too fast. Plenty of people are guilty of doing much worse on the first or second date. Just do what feels comfortable and natural for YOU - and if that means giving him a kiss, which he reciprocated, then so be it. And if he reciprocates, then chances are you're in the clear - you didn't do anything wrong.
You're 19 and in college. There's nothing wrong with dating someone who's 24. I'm 22 and in the past 3 years I've dated guys ranging in age from 20-27 years old. As long as he makes you happy, you shouldn't stress so much about the age difference; besides, once you're out of school, it won't matter anymore whether he's 2, 5, 10+ years older than you.
Just call him. Even if you're not ready for a full blown relationship, that doesn't mean you can't be friends with this guy or casually date him until you're ready to enter the world of exclusivity. Make some small talk and ask him to hang out again. If he doesn't seem too warm to the idea, tell him it's no pressure and he can always call you back with a time and place if he wants. Give him a few days and if you don't hear back...well, move on with your life. Don't get hung up on him - just get back out there and try again =)
If it feels right, then go for it! Every relationship is different, and if the chemistry is there it's not going to make a difference if you wait two days or two weeks. And the age difference isn't a big deal. Personally, I like older guys a lot better. Good luck girlie.
I definitely agree with AnonymouseBlonde@xanga. ^_^ Good luck!
all I got to say is good luck! I hope it works out for you! :]
Call him. And no, kissing a guy on your second meeting is not that big of a deal. My first kiss was with a guy that I only knew for two hours. We haven't seen each other since. Haha. :P
try not to overthink it. when you're ready, call him. no pressure.
@AnonymousBlonde@xanga - what she said! :) Smart response!
You are an idiot. Apparently you are a girl with no boundaries. You just pulled a Michael Scott from the Office. You get to know them and be their friend first not skip bases you juvenile. You give a bad name to women. Its stupi things like this that makes women easy.
@opheliatohamlet@xanga - Yes it is Women have to set boundaries. if you kiss after a second meeting when you barely know him thats slutness and easy! booo
if he's shy and you're hesitant to call, contact him via facebook or post about an art event and if he attends the event, he is most likely interested in you, so talk to him there.