I was listening to the radio this morning and one of the things I look forward on my favorite radio station in the mornings is when the hosts of the show find a caller who recently went out on a date and the date went really well - then that caller tried to go out on a second date and the other person ignored them or blew them off, so they want to know why. The hosts then call the person themselves and explain the situation and then bring them on air, and the listeners get to find out why that person never called back or never answered.
There have been some really good reasons as to why the person never called back or avoided that person, like:
1. A man called in and wanted to know why the girl he was interested in didn't want to date him anymore, so they called her and she said that the man had made fun of their waitress, who had an obvious booger in her nose. the man continued to poke fun at the waitress and finally, when the girl said he should say something to the waitress, he called over to her and said, "You've got a huge booger hanging from your nose - I hope it doesn't fall into my food!" the waitress immediately apologized and dismissed herself to the bathroom to take care of it, and the guy continued teasing the waitress all night long - but left a very good tip for the poor woman.
I think this is a very good reason to not see a person if that person makes fun of someone just for being human and continues to pester the person over it. If he doesn't show respect for your waitress then he will not show respect for you.
2. A man called in and said that he went on a really amazing date with a very pretty girl. He said everything went smoothly - they talked endlessly, the meal was delicious, the service was pleasant - no dead silence whatsoever. The girl's side of the story? He was a germaphobic to the point where it was pulling her attention away from him and onto his habit. She claimed while she was walking towards the door and pulled it open for herself he told her to hold it open for him and then proceeded to hold it open with his elbow.
He also complained his lips were chapped and she offered him her chapstick and he freaked, claiming that he did not know where it had been. He also got up several times to wash his hands, inspected the silverware, asked for new silverware, and asked for more napkins. He would not touch her whatsoever and she even offered her Germ-X for him and he said no, it was flu season and he wasn't going to risk it. It was a huge turn off for her and she avoided his calls afterward.
While I understand phobias, I wouldn't be able to date someone with an extreme phobia, especially someone who didn't want to touch me or share my chapstick or even kiss me because he was afraid he'd get sick. I can understand the chapstick thing, but kissing and touching me is a must in a relationship.
3. A woman called in and said that her date had went fairly well, they had met at an office party and she had mentioned in passing that one of her favorite restaurants was something similar to a Golden Corral, or some type of buffet-based restaurant. She was actually slim and fit, claiming she ran every day and had a gym membership, and even her date said she was very slim and attractive.
The guy claimed that she ate TOO MUCH at the restaurant and just kept piling on tons of food and that it was almost unbearable to watch. He said he was disgusted at her eating habits and the amount of food she was shoveling down. Immediately, the hosts of the radio came to her defense and said it was a buffet and you try and eat as much as you can at a buffet, and that she wasn't obese or even chubby. The girl also said that she knew what her body could handle and that that was the only thing she had eaten all day - she had been very hungry.
The two "lovers" argued about her eating habits for a while until finally, she promised she would eat very little when they went out together and he agreed to see her again after she promised that she would watch what she ate. He said that no woman should eat more than a man.
I would definitely not want to date this guy again and I often wonder how those two are doing. If a woman cannot eat more than a man in his eyes he's not worth dating. Now, I almost always end up giving my leftovers to my husband to eat because the portions are restaurants are immensely huge for me so I either hand it over to my husband or take it home in a to go box and eat it for the next two days, or something. However, if I'm extremely hungry I can take on a huge steak, mashed potatoes, and broccoli in one sitting. My husband couldn't care less how much I eat.
What have been some of your horrible dating experiences, or what have you thought to be a good date and the person won't call you back?