I was listening to the radio this morning and one of the things I look forward on my favorite radio station in the mornings is when the hosts of the show find a caller who recently went out on a date and the date went really well - then that caller tried to go out on a second date and the other person ignored them or blew them off, so they want to know why. The hosts then call the person themselves and explain the situation and then bring them on air, and the listeners get to find out why that person never called back or never answered.
There have been some really good reasons as to why the person never called back or avoided that person, like:
1. A man called in and wanted to know why the girl he was interested in didn't want to date him anymore, so they called her and she said that the man had made fun of their waitress, who had an obvious booger in her nose. the man continued to poke fun at the waitress and finally, when the girl said he should say something to the waitress, he called over to her and said, "You've got a huge booger hanging from your nose - I hope it doesn't fall into my food!" the waitress immediately apologized and dismissed herself to the bathroom to take care of it, and the guy continued teasing the waitress all night long - but left a very good tip for the poor woman.
I think this is a very good reason to not see a person if that person makes fun of someone just for being human and continues to pester the person over it. If he doesn't show respect for your waitress then he will not show respect for you.
2. A man called in and said that he went on a really amazing date with a very pretty girl. He said everything went smoothly - they talked endlessly, the meal was delicious, the service was pleasant - no dead silence whatsoever. The girl's side of the story? He was a germaphobic to the point where it was pulling her attention away from him and onto his habit. She claimed while she was walking towards the door and pulled it open for herself he told her to hold it open for him and then proceeded to hold it open with his elbow.
He also complained his lips were chapped and she offered him her chapstick and he freaked, claiming that he did not know where it had been. He also got up several times to wash his hands, inspected the silverware, asked for new silverware, and asked for more napkins. He would not touch her whatsoever and she even offered her Germ-X for him and he said no, it was flu season and he wasn't going to risk it. It was a huge turn off for her and she avoided his calls afterward.
While I understand phobias, I wouldn't be able to date someone with an extreme phobia, especially someone who didn't want to touch me or share my chapstick or even kiss me because he was afraid he'd get sick. I can understand the chapstick thing, but kissing and touching me is a must in a relationship.
3. A woman called in and said that her date had went fairly well, they had met at an office party and she had mentioned in passing that one of her favorite restaurants was something similar to a Golden Corral, or some type of buffet-based restaurant. She was actually slim and fit, claiming she ran every day and had a gym membership, and even her date said she was very slim and attractive.
The guy claimed that she ate TOO MUCH at the restaurant and just kept piling on tons of food and that it was almost unbearable to watch. He said he was disgusted at her eating habits and the amount of food she was shoveling down. Immediately, the hosts of the radio came to her defense and said it was a buffet and you try and eat as much as you can at a buffet, and that she wasn't obese or even chubby. The girl also said that she knew what her body could handle and that that was the only thing she had eaten all day - she had been very hungry.
The two "lovers" argued about her eating habits for a while until finally, she promised she would eat very little when they went out together and he agreed to see her again after she promised that she would watch what she ate. He said that no woman should eat more than a man.
I would definitely not want to date this guy again and I often wonder how those two are doing. If a woman cannot eat more than a man in his eyes he's not worth dating. Now, I almost always end up giving my leftovers to my husband to eat because the portions are restaurants are immensely huge for me so I either hand it over to my husband or take it home in a to go box and eat it for the next two days, or something. However, if I'm extremely hungry I can take on a huge steak, mashed potatoes, and broccoli in one sitting. My husband couldn't care less how much I eat.
What have been some of your horrible dating experiences, or what have you thought to be a good date and the person won't call you back?
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This proves that there are always two sides to every story..
Ha, that's an interesting segment to have on the radio. Funny how we perceive things like that so differently.
~V
I can see the reasons of the first two but number three? Thats just rude and I would never be able to go on a date with a guy thats so judgmental.
My worse dating story is this guy who I went to dinner and a movie with. He showed up late, which is always an instant turn off for me because I'm always on time. Then, when we went to go eat he apparently had a retainer in his mouth that had two fake teeth in it because he had lost his teeth due to something, hockey maybe? And he took out his retainer right as the food came and didn't wrap them up, he just left them sitting there on the table in plain sight. I'm also really crazy about teeth so I was so grossed out. I mean, I understand that happens, but if he had wrapped them up it would have been completely different. He also didn't walk me to my car at the end of the night and it was around midnight. He tried to kiss me, but I was irritated by then and brushed him off by telling him I was sick. Possibly by karma, I ended up having pneumonia by the end of the week haha.
I don't think he ended up texting me until a few weeks later and by then I found my current boyfriend. So, I told him I wasn't interested and I was dating someone.
While reading this it reminded me of something I heard on the radio today.
It's called War of the Roses and this girl called in to the radio station saying that her and her boyfriend had been dating for three months, and anymore she feels that he shows no emotion while they are being intimate. She wanted to know if she was being cheated on. So the show got a hold of the guy and claimed they were from his cellphone provider and that he won a gift card for himself and roses from anybody he would like to send it to....he didn't send them to his girlfriend. So thats when his girlfriend got on the line and freaked out. She asked him why he was cheating and doesn't want to be with her anymore. His response: She was a fun time to hangout with, but she was terrible in bed.
Ouch, that can't be any fun for the girl to hear...on the radio!
That's actually a pretty awesome and interesting idea for a radio segment. I'd probably listen to the radio a lot more often if they had more things like this on the air.
The worst date I've ever had was last year, when a guy came over to my apartment for a [first] casual hang out date because my roommate refused to let me go anywhere with him. Anyway, he refused to try the apple crisp my roomie and I made, lurked in the corner the entire time we were out in the main part of the apartment, and when we went into my room to watch a movie I actually cried when he tried to kiss me and make moves because I was so uncomfortable and unattracted to him. The worst part was that a few days later, he called me drunk to discuss "us" and "our relationship." My reaction? "LOLWUT? There isn't and never was an 'us'; sorry. You're drunk and should probably go to sleep. K, bye." Haven't heard from him since.
He probably would've stood a better chance if he'd just tried my damn apple crisp. I don't trust a man that won't eat my food. Honest truth.
Haha that is hilarious. I wish they had something like that here.
My worst date was with this guy who I refer to "Creepy Hands Guy".
This was our first date and instantly he was trying to touch me already.
In the car his hand ventured to my thigh. I moved it.
In the movies, BEFORE even the previews, his hands went to my thigh again.
I moved it again. I even told him, "This is our first date... that's too fast."
Next thing you know he tries the arm over head thing.
I moved my head back before he could go there.
BEFORE the movie even started!!!
BEFORE the movie even started, he was trying to make out with me.
MY GOD MAN!!!!!
I was like, " Woah there, I said too fast alright?????"
He said okay... but yet the entire movie I felt I was doing kung fu moves to keep his hands and mouth off me.
It was CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!
At the end he asked if I'd like dinner.
Needless to say I had him take me home ASAP.
I never ever went out with him again and when he asked why, I told him it's because he couldn't respect my No's on a first date, I sure as hell didn't want a second.
Future rapist here. Gyaah.
Also, the Christian Bale Batman was ruined for me to this day.
Damn Creepy Hands Guy.
The best dates were many. Can't pick one in particular.
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I've never had a really bad date. The worst one was when I went out to the movies and dinner with a guy, and he said pretty much NOTHING to me the entire night. Then, even though he'd ignored all my attempts at starting a conversation, he tried to kiss me. Err, sorry buddy, but if you can't make the effort to have a decent conversation with me, don't expect to be kissing me!
Interesting.. #1 sounds like the immature guy in high school who still bullies the same kids he did in elementary school.. grow up. Wouldn't be calling him back either.
#2 Ehh, sounds like she could have been exaggerating a little.. he sounds better than the first guy.
#3 kind of sounds like a double standard. It's okay for the woman to critique the man, but not the other way around? Think about it.. if you were with a man that had the appetite of Lindsay lohan, watching everything he ate wouldn't it freak you out?
Well I wouldn't go out with a guy who ate less than I do
I'll feel like a pigPlus I love guys with a big appetite
I think the lesson here is to be honest and respectful. If you start dating someone and it's not working out, why can't people just say so? Instead of completely ignoring them or giving some BS excuse, just use some tact and be straight up.
If some guy didn't want to date me because I ate too much I wouldn't bother going on a second date with him.
Worst dating experience ever: This guy continues to pursue me although I'm not interested, I finally agree to go on a date with him, then we go on a few more dates but I eventually tell him that I'm not interested in dating. He tells me we're not leaving the place we're at until I agree that we're actually "dating" and I say I can't do that and I want to go home, so then he drops me off at home and as I'm leaning into his car to talk to him and say goodbye he pulls away while I still have the door open and am in between his door and his car.
Then he drunk dials me like 8 thousand times that night and starts texting me calling me a tease and a bitch and then he says he's coming over to my apartment. I told him if he did I'd call the cops, but after that I couldn't sleep because I was afraid he WOULD come over AND he kept texting me repeatedly about how much of a bitch I apparently am.
It was awful.
I went on a couple dates with guys that were already talking about having children. I never called them back.
@stephx4@xanga - Now that made me laugh! (:
I went on a date where the guy told me he 1) killed a puppy, 2) had a drug problem, 3) had a gambling problem, 4) said all Americans liked basketball and I therefore had to like it, 5) that I needed to be arrogant because I was American and I was acting too "nice," and 4) said Koreans were superior to Americans because they have norebangs (karaoke rooms).
1 & 3 seem like major jerks. I'd date #2
his quirky phobia seems amusing because I'm also a germaphobe, but probably not to the extent that he is. although I do inspect silverware because I usually notice white blotches on them several times from poor sanitation. not kissing or touching on the first few dates is fine with me. I bet he is also a neat freak. I like that lol
I don't have many stories as I'm too picky to go on many dates. but the dates I've been on, the most common thing is that they get touchy feely too fast and invade my space. I'm not a prude but I'd like to get to know the guy via conversation. at least feed me some smooth lines to make me swoon first. geeeez
the last one just made me go ... O_o;;
"He said that no woman should eat more than a man."
People like this should NOT BE ALLOWED TO DATE PERIOD
I was reading another blog where a man was complaining how overbearing women were and his analysis to some extents match this woman's — when women and men act so narrow-minded and petty it really becomes hard to DATE them. I told that man that not ALL women were overbearing thus I would tell this women that not ALL men were JERKS as this man definitely is.
Women and Men who love eating but stay healthy and have a good build SHOULD NOT have to endure this kind of CRAP. Food is supposed to be as it is: NUTRITIONAL and EXQUISITE.
Food is a great bonding instrument and the women and men unable to understand that are quite UNFORTUNATE. I enjoy seeing people enjoy their meals — healthy meals like buffets — where they appreciate and enjoy, and seem satiated. Those people are usually hearty, fun and considerate. Why would any man or woman wanna date a jerk who, despite saying they are "slim and attractive" [AKA shallow inspectors], would so outrageously criticize their eating habits?
The art of bonding is many a times Food. And etiquette. The man looking down on a waitress constantly for a nose snot is not mature — he must have just politely told her that she had something on her face. The OCD man is actually more understandable — he has a condition he is not aware of and must learn to deal with otherwise his good qualities will be overlooked.
I enjoyed reading this post — hence the long comment ^_^
@chaosandtranquility@xanga - I agree :/ It's like, we're all adults. We can handle if you're mature and say, "hey, I dont think this is working out" and let that person go!! Don't make them think there's hope and nothing is wrong when they know its wrong and then make them find out on their own!
how can it be a great date if there is a but attached to it? just asking
I've had several guy friends ask me if I'm really a girl, because I eat as much as guys do, if not more. Lol. I'm a foodie; I love good food and I love eating. I would definitely not date a guy who had ego issues if I ate more than him. He's just pathetic. He should probably try and eat more than me. I've had eating competitions with guys before. And I'm SCARY skinny. (I try so hard to put on weight, honestly, but no matter how much I eat my weight simply doesn't change)
Oh my goodness, this poor girl - set up for disaster! I have food issues, many based off of past men I have dated. I am now with a wonderful man and I am always eating more than him when we sit down to eat. He prefers eating several small meals a day, while I prefer my 3 meals - 2 light and one good sized meal. So, whenever we go out, I look like a pig compared to him! But, he is eating by the time we get home, and about every hour after that.
Shame on him.
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