I think the phrase "we met during marching band," sums up this title pretty nicely.  If it wasn't for that, I'd say that dude has some serious constipation, because he is completely full of shit.  To answer your question,  I'm just going to quote the movie pictured and say, "you're putting the pussy on a pedestal."  Think about it.

Sorry, but I was a little confused at the end; are you a virgin, too?  If you are, I would really slow things down... while you say you've been "hooking up," I would still recommend taking a step back.  Although, where I went to college, "hooking up" indicated having sex... so I'm assuming that you're already pretty, uh, involved with him. 

In any case, I would wait a bit, and get to know (and trust) each other quite a bit before advancing the physical aspect of your relationship.  And, for the record, I would give the same advance to anyone - sexual experience, notwithstanding ;)  Good luck!  I hope you keep us posted on how things go!

*face palm*  Srsly?
Don't think about it & let things happen.  

i would say to just let it happen naturally. one guy i dated last year was a virgin, too, and one day, he asked me, rather bluntly, "you wanna have sex?" i was thinking, yeah, this guy needs to wait!

I've been in that situation--as the guy. Don't pressure him, don't like force him to say 'i love you' or anything. If he's as much of a pussy as I was, you could end up giving the guy performance anxiety. Also, you have to realize he's been only masturbating for 22 years. Someone else touching you feels... strange. Take it really slowly, take control but don't scare him. I wish you luck. Its a tough situation that could go south really easily. 

i think sex should be saved for marriage. 

That depends on what you want from the relationship. If it's just sex, go for it, why not? But if you want more, it's best to let the relationship develop more. I'm not saying that having sex quickly ALWAYS dooms a relationship, but moving slowly never hurt, and often helps.

Him being a virgin shouldn't make a big difference, except that he will probably be very quick the first few times.

@mdongivin@mancouch - What do you mean that he is full of shit? I'm a little confused by that.

@slow poke - No I am not a virgin sorry for the confusion! We've done sexual activities but have not had sex. But thanks!

@reloadthemetal@xanga - I find your situation a little funny TBH haha. I'm afraid that's what's gonna happen here.

@Tallman@xanga - I never said it was a bad thing he's a virgin. Just don't really know what to do in this situation ._.

@jigglysnake@xanga - thank you so much for your post. This really helps me out! :o)

@memphisten@xanga - I don't think he is a virgin by choice, but he has definitely had the option before, he just said it never felt right before. I'm just wondering what people would think would happen to our relationship if we just rushed into things and him being a virgin. I've never beed in this situation before D:

@hopethatitglows@xanga - Thank you very much :)

So on a note not related to my personal views on sex - I think that you shouldn't think about when or if or not to have sex. Just let it happen.  If you are both ready and acknowledge that, it'll happen in due time. Things will get hot and heavy, and sex is a natural thing...so it will ultimately progress to that point. 

On a note that is completely related to me...I think its super sexy when guys are virgins.  It means they aren't slut bags.  And I think sex should wait until marriage anyway (for solely non religious reasons). I also like to talk to people about their personal choices...so by this point [in your relationship with him] I would have already asked why he was still a virgin. It could be that he wants to wait, or that he hasn't had the opportunity, OR that he just hasn't found the right person.  Many people have the opportunity, but don't think its the right person or time..so they don't. 

I say, enjoy your relationship and stop worrying about when you will have sex, or whatever. I also don't think age or the fact that you are in college should govern your decisions either.

Hmm, well, I'm a virgin and so was/is my first boyfriend. I once asked him if he felt like he could have sex with me if I let him (I'm a virgin by choice, but he doesn't have morals preventing him from having sex) and his response was he didn't feel like he would be ready. We dated for nearly two years, wanted to get married eventually, etc.

I think it's something you should feel comfortable discussing with your boyfriend. He's 22, so he's pretty mature I would imagine (my most recent ex was 22 and he was) and should eventually be ready to express how he feels to you. You should gauge when to actually have sex with how emotionally connected you are, in my opinion. If you get to a point where discussing sex isn't a huge awkward mess and you both are completely honest with each other, then there should be less of a question and more of an obvious direction.

Also I know he's eager, but let him wait. It needs to feel right to him before he's going to really appreciate it. Surprisingly my best guy friends and I talk about sex a good amount and I understand how their thought processes go (they're both virgins). Plus if you're in band together, you want him to value you more before doing anything that seems serious in his eyes because band people tell band people and it causes drama...haha. I once made out with a guy at a party (neither of us exhibiting normal behavior...) and it caused major drama in his section and my section was kind of like wow he's a jerk (he's not). But that's another story for another day, haha.

lol my now husband was a virgin we were flirty on the first day did stuff on the second day and had sex on the third day of us dating and we had just met!  Just depends on the people and their dating styles.  I was with one other guy and we took it slow was probably 3 or 4 months, but after we did it he felt like he owned me and was a total douche I got sick of him and left him.

Honestly, It could go one of two ways. It depends on the people.

For me I "got together" with my boyfriend only a week after knowing him. We happily been living together ever since. We slowed down on sex a lot from the first few months of our relationship. Gotta say I'm spoiled rotten now.

I've also been in a relationship where I was close with a guy for a long time, we hooked up. Lo and Behold he ended up being an asshole to me.