Friday, 04 February 2011
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Being Lonely on Valentine's Day
Whilst shopping in an underwear store for the basic underwear I was bombarded by lace, stocking and garter sets, corsets, and love heart prints. It suddenly dawned on me that Valentines Day is rapidly approaching and I, for the first time in a long time will be alone on Valentines Day.
I've realised now that Valentines Day can be a day of love, affection and passion between intimate companions or it can be a day where all the singletons suffer from all the love sick people around them and all the sex in the air.
When I was younger I would make rocky road chocolate in the shape of hearts and deliver them to all of my single friends with a card attached "Will you be my valentine?" so they felt wanted, but sadly I know that there wont be anyone out there who would do the same because we aren't in first grade anymore.
So to all the other lonely hearts out there, what is a good way for me be positive on V-Day?
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Well, i'm not single but I am in a long distance relationship. Its going to be really hard not having him here on V-Day. I'm perfectly fine with v-day when im single... . My friends and I would give each other cute little gifts and have slumber parties ( all the way up to our high school years). Valentine's day isn't just for people who are in relationships, its for everybody to remember what love is all about.
valentine's day is a day of love - not just romance. who cares if you're single? go out with your friends and enjoy life! spend time with your family! do something for yourself that'll make you feel good! spread the love to the people you love!
is it on a weekend this year? If you're alone, it helps if it's on a week day, at least I think so.
bake chocolates and give them to your friends. :) that's always a comfort - to make someone feel special and wanted. sometimes, that's all it takes to cheer yourself up ^^
i'm 19 and have been alone every valentines' day of my life.
at this point, it's nothing new so it's not really anything to make a big fuss over.
i always give valentines to my friends every year, even if they're in relationships.
i always feel better when i give, even if i don't receive.
i moved to a different state this summer so i'm sending packages to my parents, sister, and a couple friends.
as for myself, i plan on baking brownies and sharing them with my grandma and aunt and just spending time with them.
it only makes valentines day worse when you sit around feeling sorry for yourself.
I'm single this year for Valentine's Day (first time in 6 years), but I don't consider myself a "lonely heart." I'm going bar hopping and seeing where the night goes. I'd still buy some sexy Valentine's Day lingerie and wear it underneath my normal clothes. Knowing I'm wearing something really nice under my clothes is a positive feeling.
You should cyber. Gets rid of MY Valentine blues.
I've had one valentines day when I was in a relationship, it wasn't any different than being single. I guess I just don't make a big deal about valentines day? This year I just don't have to think of something cute to buy my significant other :) nbd.
I've never spent Valentine's Day with someone before :( Well I really don't mind it, to me it's a bit overrated. I'm not going to rush to find someone so that I can spend Valentine's Day with them, that's just a bit to desperate for me. I'll just wait until I meet the right guy and if it so happens, we'd spend V-day together. No biggy.... I think... lol
They say that love begins at home. So, by all means buy yourself a boquet of roses
A) distract yourself from it. it's really easy to forget that it's even happening most of time
B) use it as a chance to express platonic love for friends and family. hang out with a best friend who's also single and watch a movie you both love. Other than your day not ending in sex, it will basically be the same =p
C) (my personal favorite) use it as the perfect way to scope out other singles. On no other day of the year is it more obvious who is and is not in a relationship (new years eve may be a close second). And certainly on no other day of the year will other single people be more desperate to find someone
C part two) take this opportunity to flirt mercilessly. with everyone. Go to a public place (bookstore, bar, park, w/e) and enjoy the attention (if you live in new york like me you know that any other day of the year when you're out in public you're more invisible than when you're alone in your house. at least then there's probably a creeper looking in your windows with binoculars)
I've been single my entire life and this works for me =p I figure if it's lovey-dovey day for people in a relationship then it's random-sex-in-a-bar day for us single people haha jk, but seriously... it works...
Just because you're single doesn't mean you're alone.
I think I've been more single on a Vday than I have been with a significant other. And while my current bf made a note to mention how guys never get any bouquets on the "female gone crazy" day as we come to be calling Valentine's Day; I started to get HIM flowers to even out the crazy evaluation.
Plus it's on a MONDAY this year and we both work full time; it's another day we want to spend our time together since Hallmark has sucked the life out of all romantics when it comes to chocolates, lace, sexy lingerie and candle lit dinners. I would rather have a romantic for a boyfriend ALL year round who might be a bit forgetful towards Feb. 14th than a guy who ONLY remembers to woo me on Valentine's day. bleh
WHEN I used to be single and my girl friends were as well, I'd invite them over, have a dinner party and movies, eat sweets and ice cream (OR to a club and dance our sorrows off), have a blast and have a fond memory of GIRL friend quality time, not wishing we had dates. *shrug*
I've spent all but one Valentine's Day by myself - and the one I went to see Rambo was probably the best. (Being mopey all day is a shitty way to do anything, after all.) It's a dumb holiday, and blatantly mocking it (in an existential sort of way) seems like proper treatment. Crank up your angriest music, watch whatever the hell you want to, and eat the most disgusting fast food meal you can stomach. If you can't celebrate it to one extreme, (anti-)celebrate it to the other.
i will most definitely be alone!
Honestly, I never understood what all the fuss was about Valentine's Day. It shouldn't matter whether or not you have a significant other. I've spent plenty of Valentine's Days alone and several of them with another person but neither way was better than the other. I actually much prefer the ones I've spent with friends because they're usually the ones that are the most fun and the least judgemental, not to mention the ones I remember the most.
The best way to stay positive? Remember that it's just another day of the year, just like every other. It's only particularly significant [or depressing] if that's the way you make it.
I've never had anyone on a Valentine's Day. I just ignore it and it goes away.
yeah it sucks. But there are also advantages that couples don't have, FREEDOM ! Lol
The way I get through V Day is by not having it exist in my life. Whether I am single or with someone, I don't acknowledge it. The only romantic day of the year for me is my anniversary if I am with someone at the time. And I am happy with that. If the thing that upsets you because of your circumstances is erased from your mind, then how could you be upset about it in the first place? That is just my logic.
i hate it when people complain about being single on v-day. it's ONE day, ONE. if you feel that lonely, grab a bunch of girlfriends and have a girls night out, or better yet known as singles awareness day.
@Smokin_SultrySally@xanga - its on a monday.. no one likes mondays even if it is v-day
im single ive been single on every valentines days and its still my favorite holiday.. hmmm i just play all my fav valentines day songs and buy candy.. and the day after i buy more candy because its on sale
Get drunk!! Seriously though.....I don't mind being single on Valentines day, but they have been advertising Valentines day since start of January!! C'mon give us a break...we just get over Xmas then get hit with this, now they are advertising Easter!!
have a hangout with all your single friends and enjoy valentines with your loving friends!
Don't let yourself be lonely. I get upset by the fact that people associate Valentine's Day with only love from an intimate partner. Celebrate your Valentine's Day with ANYONE that you love. Whenever I would be single on Valentine's Day I would spend it with my mother or my grandmother or even some really close friends, anyone who you actually love. It's not about sex, intimacy, presents or anything red and pink with hearts and kissy lips on it. It's about love. Simple as that. And if you end up spending the night completely alone then do something for yourself to show love to yourself. Give yourself a manicure, go get your hair done, spend some effort on yourself. :)