So, you're having a hard time getting over your last ex? It happens. And the sad thing is, the longer you're together the more memories you have, and the more difficult it is to erase them from your memory.
It may not seem like that, and this sentence is absolutely awful to hear when you're in that position, but the time will come when you are past it. Your ex will be a distant memory, and as days go by you will think of them less and less, and one day not at all.
Until that time comes, there are a number of things you should be thinking about and doing, to remind yourself of the life you have outside of them:
1. Spending Time With Friends: Let's face it, there is no relationship where you don't lose some friends. It's a fact of life. Being single again allows you the option of reconnecting with those old friends, and making new ones.
2. Discovering/Re-embracing Your Hobbies: And by this I mean a real hobby, not simply going out and getting drunk. Not only will they keep you busy, but they'll help you reinforce your sense of self and individuality. Knowing how to have fun alone is probably one of the greatest virtues anyone can have.
3. Getting Your To-Do List Done: Think of all the free time you'll suddenly have. You can become as organized and focused as you've ever been.
4. Accomplishing Goals: Although you might not realize it at the time, a lot of sacrifices are made for relationships. Once you don't have someone else to be concerned for, you realize your free in a different way, so you can pursue those things that you might have been holding back for fear of hurting your relationship.
5. You: If you're like me, you put your partner above yourself, almost instinctively. While this might not always be unhealthy, it's good to have the time to take care of yourself at the end of the day, and being single is the best way to do that.
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You forgot 6. EVERYTHING.
Wow a datingish post thats actually helpful...
@FreedomFromMyChains@xanga - I don't think truer words could be spoken.
the last one was valid, but the first wasn't for me. i didn't lose any friends, actually got closer to a lot of our mutual guy friends during my last relationship.
I like this.
very, very true.
@FreedomFromMyChains@xanga - Amen.
There are some exes you will never get over. Like my most recent one. I've just stopped thinking I ever will. It has been almost six months and we only dated for one and a half months.
After my ex and I broke up, I fell into my old habbit of reading. I forgot how much I actually loved it, it's healthier than eating when you are bored, increases your vocabulary, and, in my opinion, it's better than tv or movies.
@FreedomFromMyChains@xanga - Damn, you beat me to it.
This came at the perfect time. Thank you.
6. All the new people hitting on you. ;)
You forgot 7. HAVING A LIFE ^^.
@xraindropsonroses@xanga - spot on post.
I like this post, except I disagree with one thing, I didn't really lose friends when my ex and I broke up, his friends and family still keep in touch with me after the break-up despite him telling them to break off contact with me. They still like me, there's no reason for them to remove me from their life just because I'm not with my ex anymore and it was him who did me wrong, not the other way around.
Nice...clap clap clap...just one thing though, for me getting over is not the same as forgetting. I don't feel the need to erase memories, just to heal my heart and free it up for it's next adventure. If the relationship was worth having, it's worth remembering, and if it wasn't, I'd better remember why I shouldn't "go there" again.
i love this post, so true.
Don't forget life in general, music, other people, animals, etc.
mmhmm
Amen!
@ccccourage@xanga - agreed.
great post!
aw, but drinking and getting absolutely hammered is so much fun. ;)
just kidding.
friends are major major helpful post break up.
To me, I see this as a list of things to not neglect so that you don't fall into an endless abyss of self-pity and regret, breaking down and not functioning anymore. This list would help you keep your life from falling apart while you get yourself back together emotionally. It is helpful...
oh God. Perfecto :D