I've had my share of boyfriends, but with all but one, nudity has always been an issue for me.
Don't get me wrong, I'm no prude. I'm very open to the idea of sex, having sex, and having an open dialogue about sex. But for some reason, with the exception of my last serious boyfriend,
I've never been comfortable being totally naked with anyone else. Perhaps it's my own insecurities, an absence of trust with the other person involved, or a combination of both, but being totally naked has for the most part, made me feel exposed, vulnerable, and uneasy.
I have found loopholes around the situation. Most guys don't mind lingerie during sex, and I can usually charm them enough that they aren't too bothered by my shyness.
The only person it really bothers is me. Alone I actually love being naked. I love the way my body looks, I just wish I could feel safe enough to show that off with whomever I'm with.
Have you ever had an issue with nudity? How, if at all, did you overcome that issue?
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heh... im old, fat, and happy so why should i be embarrassed?
Maybe you just aren't ready yet? Its not good to rush yourself into something you are not comfortable with.
i don't understand. if you're comfortable enough to do the deed, being naked shouldn't concern you either. i'm hoping the person you're with finds you attractive...if so, they will welcome your naked body... if not, you should consider sleeping/being with someone else.
yeah i'm not too comfortable either but that's because i don't look like megan fox. if i was megan fox i would be completely comfortable with being naked around anybody
i had that issue too. i was always afraid to show off my body because i never thought it was good enough for any guy. i was scared he wouldn't think it was pretty enough and that made me really self conscious. with my current boyfriend, i was a little hesitant to show him my body, but when i did, he basically worshipped it. and he still does. so i guess i was worrying myself for nothing. as long as you have the right guy, you should feel comfortable to do anything around him
I love being naked and I absolutely love being naked in front of my boyfriend. I feel powerfull and sexy and in control. I think its unhealthy to be shy in front of your SO.
@charak@xanga - I think it's unhealthy too. If you are too shy to show yourself naked then you obviously don't feel secure with yourself..leading to tons of other relationship problems.
do you know what it was about your last serious SO that made you comfortable with being naked in front of him?
I think you just need to feel good about your body and don't think too much.
I used to be extremely insecure about my naked body. Even seeing my naked reflection would make me cringe, so the thought of letting anyone else see me unclothed was out of the question. But since being in my current relationship, I've become a lot more comfortable with my body. After all, if my boyfriend loves it, then it surely can't be that bad :)
omg this described me perfectly! cant explain it either haha
im not a fan of my body, but when I'm naked with a guy, i feel sexy
I strip for the window to piss off homeland security because they're sensitive. They also dominate me to where I think we're married or have some sort'of abusive relationship. I'm not a whale. I'm like a seal.
i was actually thinking about this recently. I've been single for a year, hence no sex, and the only time I ever allow myself to be nude is when I'm in the shower. I never have naked time anymore. Kinda miss it!
I'm not a fan of my body and am not inclined to be nude alone. BUT when I'm with a SO, and they like my body, I find that being nude is much more commonplace. It's bearing all, letting down one of my toughest guards, and sharing in the rawest, most revealing way.
BOO! I miss sharing that with someone.
You sound exactly like me. I think i look better naked than clothed. I've also only been completely nude with one bf as well and we werent even having sex just showering. Thinking about it now i feel guys should probably be more uncomfortable because they're guys and we're girls and us gals have shapes and lady lumps and guys are just weird. Idk what the hell i'm talking about. Dimly lit rooms make everyone look better and feel less exposed. Try that.
I don't think I've ever felt uncomfortable being naked in front of any guys I dated. Especially with my current boyfriend because of how often he always tells me he loves my body and because we've been dating for so long that I don't think he's going to start judging it now haha. :)
i love being naked. i wish iw as naked all the time lol
Unfortuantely, I also have a poor body image... I figure that I am not a big fan of seeing myself naked, so why would a guy want to?
I prefer not to be nude when it's not sexually necessary b/c my dong drags on floor and i'm prone to stepping on it
I don't feel uncomfortable being naked because honestly, I like being naked at times (in the house) and I feel freer. And though I'm not super thin, or even skinny, my bf loves my body for what it is. He's never judged me. =D
i know the feeling, but to me, it just meant i wasn't completely comfortable with the person i was with. i love my body just like you, but it was hard for me sometimes to just be naked. when i became more comfortable it makes it soo easy for me to be naked, even for no reason.
I haven't been fully naked with my current SO, but when we do get there I'll be fine, I think. I love being naked, especially on my own, nobody I know knows that though. Haha :)
@XoAsianBabioX@xanga - I totally agree. I'm comfortable with my body, but with other guys I'm not so comfortable. (Except one of my ex's)
The last guy I was with I definitely wasn't comfortable with even the idea of being naked in front of him. So that ended quickly.If it's been awhile since you have been dating (for me it took over a year) you really shouldn't be with that person.I hate my body. No matter how much I like the person, I just can't get over being naked in front of somebody. Even when I was a kid I hated it. And my SO runs about naked all over the place, and there I lay ...under the covers. Lol. Good luck to you and everybody else who is in our position. It sucks not being able to be comfortable enough to have sex, then run through the house to get a scoop of ice cream.
It's always going to be an issue unless you just go for it and man it through. It's like eating a vegetable you don't like. It's going to taste bad at first but it'll get better over time.