My boyfriend of two years and I broke up several months ago. Despite my desire for a clean break he is insistent on maintaining a friendship, though making it clear that any emotional desire for me is gone.
I have more or less reluctantly agreed to this situation because we go to the same college, and because there were some positive parts to having him in my life.
That said, I have begun dating again, a very sweet guy. He loves and adores me, and seems to think the sun shines out of my ass; which according to Juno's dad, is the true mark of a soul mate.
However, no matter how much I feel like I'm falling for my new guy, and that I'm over my ex, every time my ex upsets me again, I'm in tears
. And anytime he decides to be nice it makes my day. I want to break the cycle I'm in and I want to just enjoy someone good to me but it's worse than trying to give up cigarettes.
I've heard the advice over and over to just forget about my ex, and appreciate a nice guy for a change, and the advice usually comes from myself. I just never listen. And the more I speak to other girls about this, the more I realize that I'm not an anomaly. We girls sit here and complain all the time about how we can't find a nice enough guy, but we constantly push away so many nice guys in favor of those who don't treat us well at all.
Why is it that we girls always allow the nice guy to finish last? Are we doomed to always like the nice guy, but go home to the douchebag??