Tuesday, 28 December 2010
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Just a Quickie: What Makes a Relationship 'Serious'?
I have been dating my boyfriend for around ten months now, and we are pretty happy with how things are going. Recently, and somewhat to my surprise, a new question has hit the surface:
Are you guys serious?
So let me ask you, my fellow Xangans, what does a serious relationship entail? This could honestly mean anything, but since there are many differing opinions of topics such as this... let's hear it from you! What do you think defines a serious relationship?
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I define a serious relationship when we've been dating for over 6 months. It gets a little blurry though so, I guess it really depends on the person and what it means to them can be different.
I think it depends on the feelings you have for each other.
It depends on how much of a future you see together.
Which obviously depends on the feelings you have for each other.
Depends. You could answer according to how long you've been dating, or by the intensity of your feelings for each other.
I think a serious relationship means that you're considering marriage.
I think a serious relationship usually has to be a certain length of time. Maybe not quite six months, but certainly longer than two. Mostly, I think it centers around your feelings for each other. Do you love each other? Do you see a future together? Do you talk about the future together? I think that if both of you are in it for the long haul and really truly love each other, and are aware that there were be trials in your relationship, than it's seroius.
There isn't exactly a definitive time that marks a serious relationship. It's obviously not in the very beginning or the first few months; I can definitely agree with that. I think it has more to do with both your mentalities concerning the relationship and what you're looking to get out of that relationship.
It all depends on the feeling,IMO
I define a serious relationship as one where both parties see a future together. I don't think it is defined by the length of time the couple has been together (though it often takes time together for the seriousness of the relationship to surface).
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a serious relationship is a state of mind, not a set of rules.If you're serious about each other, you're in a serious relationship. If not, you're not.
Usually people take the amount of time as a good indicator, but it doesn't always work like that. You could be dating someone for a year and still have the wrong idea. But in my head, after 6 months the relationship is serious if it's stable. Other than that, if there is no funny business going on (lying, cheating, etc) then it's serious definitely. If you guys are comfortable with each other, spend a healthy amount of time together, and understand each other (and each others' hopes, goals, life, etc) then it's serious :) but that's just how I feel about mine. Everyone has a different definition I think.
I think you know if you are serious. Its just something you feel between the two of you.
If you have to ask, you probably aren't
If you're committed and plan to stay together in the future I'd say it's serious..
It doesn't really matter how long the couple has been together. My boyfriend and I decided that we were serious before we were even official. What defines a serious couple are the people. Are the two of you planning on getting married and being together for the rest of your life? That's serious.
To me, serious relationships are ones where you can see a potential long-term future with your SO (whatever your definition of "future" happens to be, since marriage isn't on everyone's radar). If you don't see it lasting--whether it does or not--then it probably isn't "serious."
But that's just me.;)
-Katie
I think it depends on the people...to me, a serious relationship would be when you know that you really do love the person and that you have a MUTUAL agreement with each other that some kind of future is coming out of the relationship.
@linguistic_nonsense@xanga - I don't know about putting a time-frame on things...my parents were engaged within three months of meeting. They were together for 28 years, and would have been together for at least 28 more if my dad hadn't passed away. I knew within three months of meeting him that I would marry my husband, and my brother knew within two months that he would marry his fiancee (and they're perfect for each other.) As a generalization, time frames aren't the worst thing in the world, but I don't think you can say that no one can be serious within the first few months. I've known too many people who just knew right off the bat.
-Katie
when they're contemplating marriage
I consider my relationship serious because there's a good possibility of us staying together long term/getting married/ having a family in the future. We're also madly in love.
...um i thought dating was only a month, no more. 10 months, you guys should've been in a relationship already...
Serious relationship means there's something to look forward to in the future.
I would say serious depends on your feelings towards each other, not the length of time you have been with a person..I guess serious would be when your falling for that person and cant picture your life without them in it.