Friday, 24 December 2010
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6 Reasons Why You’re Always "That Girl" and Never "His Girl"
Author's note: For those of you who have read any of my other Datingish posts such as this, I want you to know that I wrote this to myself just as much as to anyone else out there who is always "that girl" and never "his girl."Stop pursuing guys.
You are an amazing, beautiful, intelligent girl who could get any guy in the room with the snap of a finger. But you haven’t. It’s not you, it’s not him… it’s how you act.
Here are a few reasons why you haven’t had much luck in the dating scene.1. You expect too much. Just because you have the beauty and the brains doesn’t mean you are entitled to all the fish in the sea.
2. You try too hard. You’re constantly texting, facebook chatting, flirting with any and every guy you are remotely interested in hoping the feelings are mutual. You get upset when you’re the only one to ever text first or attempt to keep the conversation going.
3. You are in denial. When his responses consist of a simple yes or no, he’s not interested. You find it impossible to believe that a guy wouldn’t want to date you.
4. You worry too much. You wonder what is wrong with you. You wonder why you are never the one to get a guy. You’ve been single your whole life (not including your first 5 month long relationship in 7th grade or those 5 week long flings in junior high) and have done just fine.
5. You think you need a boyfriend. You really don’t need a man to make you happy. You have this thought in your head that a boyfriend will be the icing on the cake—that he will complete you. From what I hear, this is false. Be happy with who you are and stop revolving all your thoughts around a nonexistent boyfriend. There is more to life than being in a romantic relationship.
6. You are easy. You hook up with just about any guy that looks your way. Yes these are all drunken hookups and none of them have involved actual sex, but still they are not something to be proud of. You wonder why none of these guys ever come back for more. Why would they when they have already gotten a lot from you the first time you met? There is nothing for them to look forward to so they will not think twice about seeing you again. And they’ve probably heard that you’ve hooked up with one or more of their friends. You are simply a play toy to them and nothing more.
If you want a boyfriend make sure none of these reasons apply to you. But remember you don’t need a boyfriend. You should never run around chasing boys; make them come to you.
Are you always "that girl" and never "his girl"? Do you think these reasons are to blame? What other suggestions do you have for all the single ladies like me who want boyfriends?
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Comments (70)
So true!
that sounds about right.
wonderful!
Well said.
#2 /:
I'm "that" girl because I don't need a guy to make me happy, I'm independent, and many guys are intimidated. When I do have a boyfriend, I treat them like gold, but most of the time, I'm not treated with the same decency. I'm "that" girl because indecisive guys have made me doubt myself in relationships and made me feel worthless. I'm "that" girl because in my last few relationships, I WOULDN'T give it up. So, I'm happy to be labeled "that" girl.
for both guys and girls, I think it's true that you don't need a significant other to complete yourself. One should be happy with how they are, and having that other person should compliment/add to yourself, not complete you
7. He's a player/jerk.
Seriously, what is with these lists about how women need to change to land the right relationship with a guy? Ugh. Feminism, set back thirty years.
@mademoiselle_rachelxx@xanga - That too
I've always been his girl...and nothing less.
i am never "that girl" and i'm always his girl. hooking up isn't my thing... and i take relationships seriously. i guess i'm old school, because i believe being in one automatically means it's monogamous.
@kinseydanielle@xanga - I'm agreeing with you 100%.
Loved this! Thanks :)
Absolutely ridiculous, incredibly sexist, and logically flawed.
I'm poor, out of shape and the only reason I want to get into a relationship is to have a baby. @_@ of some weird age related thing, I'm sure. I need to be sterilized.
That makes me a 0.
so true! i. must. be. happy.
#5 hit meSounds about right.
agree!
@kinseydanielle@xanga - Hell yea girl you tell em how it is.
but when a guy chases me, he becomes "that guy" and I'm just not that interested
Good points. I try to tell my friends that they need to stop initiating EVERYTHING with guys they like because it keeps leading to disappointment (not saying they cant initiate ANYTHING, but it seems like with some of my friends, the guys only respond and never put anything in to make a relationship). If the guy really wants to date them, they will put in some effort. I'm pretty guilty of acting like I can't lose someone once I have them... These things go into being in a relationship too. I seem to have no problem being "his" girl, but I have issues keeping it that way because of numbers 1,2, and 4... I'm so afraid to lose them once I have them that I come off as desperate *sigh*.
So true except for #6, but great tips! :)
7. You're just a bitch. :|
I wish I could tell a certain someone this without offending her. I mean, she is head over heels with this guy and I try to convince her that he's just not into her.
Even if I do try to help her understand, I feel bad. =\
HARSH.
this is stupid. it's the guy's- or girl's giving a circumstance- fault & you weren't meant to be with the person. You shouldn't obsess over it, because it's not worth it. Life is short. You'll find the guy, but you have to stop looking first.
Oh, facebook narcissism... you are a major contributor to dating issues. Hahahaha!!