Thursday, 23 December 2010

  • Dear Ex: Please Stop Coming Back

                                                   

    Dear Ex Boyfriend,

    This is something I'm rather unclear of. Why are you trying to come back into my life?

    I know we've broken up and gone back out a million times, but this last time was suppose to be for real. Hell, I even punched you in the mangina so you wouldn't want to see me anymore! (P.S. I said sorry, but I'm really not.)

    You made it apparent this past time that it was "time to move on." So I was ready for that. No calling, no coming over after class, nothing. But what's this? You want me to come to your show? All right...but only because it's 10 minutes away from my house and I know none of your sucky friends will come to watch. And I'll stay for less than an hour because honestly, I hate watching you play. It's at the top of the list for things I don't miss about you.

    And again! A phone call? "I miss you." Um, what the hell? All right, I'll see where this goes.

    Let's get Arby's. Do you notice how I'm not hugging you back? Let's keep it that way, I don't want that hot guy over there so see me with you. Then you want to cuddle once we come back to your house? I know what that leads to. It's not happening. Get the hell out of my car, you're letting the cold air in.

    So to my ex, you have to understand... I really, really don't want to be with you. I thought that was pretty clear. Now you just annoy me to no end. I'm sorry that things didn't work out with the girl you like, but don't think I'm going to take you back because you're feeling friendly and have forgiven me for the ball hitting (Still not sorry!)

    P.S. Your mom is crazy. That's just more fuel to the fire sir.

    Jenna <3

    Have you ever had an ex try to get back into your life? How did you handle it?

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Comments (58)

  • bittersweetreflections@xanga

    hahaha, oh my god. I love this. I've so had this happen to me. guys are DUMB.
  • X_no_one_like_my_lover_nick_X@xanga

    Yes I have! My ex Pete made a recent attempt. I acted like I had no logic and was crazy, and he finally went away!

  • JaydenWolf@xanga

    How did I handle it? Don't answer the phone.

    If he comes over, don't answer the door. If he somehow worms his way into view and asks why I was avoiding him, I answered "Because I don't want to talk to you."
    Then, when he chased me down on his motorcycle and told me that I deserved to hurt as badly as he did, I got a restraining order.
    That pretty much did the trick.
  • fields_of_sunflowers@xanga

    Uh, it actually seems like you're giving him mixed signals. You're hanging out with him when he's CLEARLY not over you, and wondering why he wants more. You need to stop hanging out with him. That's the only solution to this. He won't get over you otherwise. So, I don't really have sympathy for you if you're still hanging out with him when you KNOW his feelings towards you.
  • superGchik@xanga

    i've been in situations like this before too, if it's over it's over and if it's not worth trying anymore, he's gonna have to let it go. if it was meant to be, it wouldnt have to be this difficult.
  • lforletty@xanga

    Your situation isn't very clear. Is the only reason why he keeps trying to get close to you.. to try to get back with you? I'm guilty of not leaving my ex-bf alone at first. I didn't bother him to the extent that your ex did, but I did send him a couple sms and MSN messages.. that's because he dumped me on MSN over lies and I just wanted a proper closure and the truth. After he gave that to me, I didn't contact him anymore and I just let him be. So if things weren't cleared up after the break-up and a closure wasn't given.. I can understand why an ex may pursue for one.. it's not nice to leave someone hanging even if things didn't work out romantically between them.
  • decodexmexkc@xanga

    Mine would get pissed as hell at me, cause I was talking to a new guy. Delete me from facebook, and block me. Then a few weeks later, he'll re add me, and message me saying "I miss you".
    He's done that at least 3 times. And this last time I ignored the friend request and messaged him back saying "I don't know what to say..."
    I've finally allowed myself to completely move on to the point where I didn't even feel a pain when he messaged back all mad at me.

  • jeezshoua@xanga

    @individually_surveys@xanga - Ditto.

    If you don't want to go to his show, don't, especially if it's on your TOP list of Things You Don't Miss About Him. 

    If he still have feelings for you (obviously), let him be and deal with it.  Give him some time to "get over you" until he or both of you can just be friends.  If you don't want to be friends, cut off all contacts with him and be done with.

    To answer your question, yes, an ex wanted me back, but I did not want him back.  What did I do?  I told him once and for all where I stand and cut off contacts with him because he was starting to be a little.. psycho? 

  • MrsJenBean@xanga

    I think the reason he keeps coming back is because you keep hanging out with him. If you're really serious about him not being in your life, tell him that, and back it up with your actions. Don't talk to hiim when he calls. Tell him you don't want to hang out, or go to his shows, or get Arby's, or anything else.


    I had this problem before, and I tried to be nice to them afterwards, and keep things friendly... they never left me alone until I cut them out completely.

  • mademoiselle_rachelxx@xanga

    @individually_surveys@xanga - Agreed.
  • AuCinema@xanga

    Uh, you should probably stop seeing him. Period.
  • UnconventionalButterfly@xanga

    @MrsJenBean@xanga - agreed 100%
  • raspbxrrryjam@xanga

    It's annoying when it just won't end.
  • mikaekie@xanga

    I've been broken up with my ex for almost a year now, and being the idiot I am I agreed to still be friends with him. Well, now, every time I try to tell him we will never get back together and that I've finally moved on he starts becoming clingy, referring back to the days when we were together and such. The other day, for example, I specifically said "We are permanently broken up, we will never get back together" and now he's going on about how his mom loves me and wants us to get married, and he still has feelings for me. The part that's messed up is that he has had a new girlfriend for a while now, which is why I've been trying to get away -.- ugh drama. Feel bad for the girl.
  • align___t@xanga

    @individually_surveys@xanga - agree
  • firetyger@xanga

    I straight up told mine to never call or speak to me again.  Worked well, he stopped calling.
  • lovezpassion@xanga

    Guys don't pick up on hints as well as many women do. You have to tell him flat out what you wrote above if he doesn't get the subtle hints. Btw, do not go to his concert. Just tell him, "I'm not feeling your music, and never have. Goodbye."
  • TakingxOverxMe@xanga

    Every so often, my ex will call me or try to send me a message on Facebook.  I've told him I'm not interested, but he'll call/email/Facebook and be like "I miss you" and "I still love you."  Ugh.
  • StillNotaPrettyGirl@xanga

    HAHAHAHAAAAA. I've had similar experiences with a couple exes. Some people just don't know when to give up.

    My most recent experience was an ex from four years ago calling and texting me constantly, sending me messages on facebook, etc... trying everything imaginable to try to get me to hang out with him (I never did, fuck that) and trying to get back with me even though I have a boyfriend I'm happy with. I finally just blocked him and told him to leave me the hell alone. Loser.
  • Hinase@xanga

    @individually_surveys@xanga - Agreed



    Cut off contact with him. Don't text him or speak to him.Leave him alone.Because you are giving mixed signals..
  • PeArLii@xanga

    @individually_surveys@xanga - agreee
    The thing about some ex's are that they will never move on....maybe because their madly in love with you or because their looking for ways to get in touch with you because you seem like a huge loss to them. If you want nothing to do at all obviously you can just say you dont want to talk AND not talk to the dude... if you hang with him of course he'll be confuzzled.

    I think its hard to be "friends" with these types of ex's because ...they always want to be more than friends. Been there done that....... i'll pass.
  • P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga

    I tore his ego apart, then he stopped talking to me. case solved
  • Lordv16@xanga

    Has happened to me, and I was that guy once many many years ago.

    As some of the other posters have said, I don't think hanging out with him is helping your cause. Every time you say Yes to hanging out with him, it's only giving him more hope. If it bothers you that much, I'd cut communication with him until he's over it entirely.
  • RawrYouDo@xanga

    duuuuuuude. I knowwwww, I'm back with the ex, and tring to figure out how to get the hell OUT
  • feelslikejuly@xanga

    This happened towards the end of my previous relationship. We are now on a talking friendship level and that's it. 

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