Friday, 17 December 2010
Have you ever found yourself in one of those common conversations where one of your guy friends complains about never having a girlfriend/boyfriend? The one where you just can't get out of their "Why does nobody ever want the nice guy, wahhhh my life sucks" grasp. While only half listening you wonder whats for lunch or when that new Johnny Depp movie is coming out.
Oh, the horror, right? I'm getting pretty sick of it too. Don't get me wrong, I adore helping out my friends when they need me, but this old topic is..well....getting pretty old.
To the nice guys who just can't seem to get a date,
I can't explain why that girl did not choose you over the other guy.
Girls like guys that have something interesting about them, something that makes you stand out among the crowd. Being a typical "nice guy" is not enough. She could have also found that she has more in common with that other guy. Compatibility is really important when it comes to relationships. Sure, you both can have your own thing or show them things you like to do but if you have nothing in common then its going to get boring relatively quickly.
Let's face the facts here now, I know most of you (not all) "nice guys" just want anybody to like you or be interested in you. It never seems like you just want a specific person. To me, that's you just being very desperate. Just wanting anybody to be into you and not just once person you have your eye on is not a commendable start to any relationship. This also means you are not ready for a relationship in the first place because your heart is easily swayed in one direction or another.
I get it, you want to find love. That one special person who will lock pinkies while walking down the street and to tell you that you're a great singer while secretly thinking you sound horrible (I know thats a lie but come on, we all do it just to make them feel better). I know what you need, "nice guy" but you just have to wait like the rest of us.
I believe the great Diana Ross said it best when she sang "My mama said you can't hurry love. No, you'll just have to wait. She said love don't come easy, it's a game of give and take". You see, to find true love you can't look around every street corner. You have to be patient and the ones who pass by are not worth your time thinking about anyway.
To be in a relationship takes a certain kind of mindset. Be confident in what you have to offer and no more complaining okay? So what you have no found 'the one" yet, she/he will come. Patience is a virtue when it comes to the love game.