Tuesday, 14 December 2010
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Women and Working Out
A couple months ago, I started going to the gym. Not to lose weight, not to find a potential partner, but just to use my muscles for something other than walking and crawling in bed.
I go to a Christian gym that is very nice but very expensive. Because of this, the majority of people are retired men and women who may have nothing else better to do with their time and money. It is a rare occasion to see a woman around my age regardless of whether she's physically attractive or not. However, I've been spotting this woman lately who is either REALLY GOOD at looking at me without me knowing, or she's just simply not interested.
I am, by no means, physically attractive and full of myself, but I am somewhat self-confident (and anyone can be self-confident in themselves regardless of imperfections).
Whenever I'm in the same room as her, I do tend to focus on certain workouts that bring out the biceps. I can't honestly say that she hasn't done the same, but that's probably my perverted mind and my false sense of hope convincing me that something is there. I'm the type of guy who would honk at a woman running on the sidewalk, but it's a different story when I approach women; it either never happens, or I look like a little boy lost in Toys R' Us trying to find his mom.
Not only that, but I have a feeling that this woman is very capable of defending herself. Trying to avoid sexual harassment is one thing, but trying to avoid getting my arm broken and knocked out faster than I can say “I'm sorry” is another. Because I don't want to die and because she's very beautiful, I want to minimize my risk of something bad happening.
During my upper-body work out (I have the right to bear arms so I might as well use it), I thought about approaching her with the pick-up line my sister told me to try:“Hey, do you know a number to the nearest veterinarian?”
“No why?”
-flex- “Because I've got some sick puppies”
However, those could be my last words.
Datingish, I'm in a pickle here and I need your help.
Women, if you were at the gym...how would you want to be approached? If you wouldn't want to be approached, how would you likely kill or knock unconscious the approacher?
Men, have you tried anything that was successful when approaching a woman at the gym? Do you groan louder when lifting weights to try and seduce the woman with your mating call?
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lol maybe that corniness would work with a girl who goes to a Christian gym.
Being approached is suddenly sometimes scares me. Unless it's someone coming to say, "Hey, nice shoes" or something like that. Then, I warm up to them. I like silly compliments. When I'm working out, I'm kind of in my own zone, though. And I don't like people seeing me when I'm sweaty.That pick-up line would work on me. Only because I love horribly lame jokes. The lamer the better. I'd laugh. And making me laugh is the first step. However, not all chicks can appreciate that type of humor. And since she knows nothing about you or your personality, she might think you're just an idiot.
I'm not antisocial, but I don't like talking to anyone while I'm working out. Maybe you can bump into her on your way out of the gym and chat then instead.
If I'm running on the treadmill, get on one next to me, and if you outrun me, or run with me till I get off, occasionally make eye-contact and smile, then when I get off, it's nice if you say something along the line like "Good work-out huh?" I think that is not too cliche or generic or creepy, and it can lead to a whole new conversation. I'd tell you that I used to be in track team, etc... Just DON'T come to my treadmill when I AM running to talk to me, especially when I have my headphone on, too. No one wants to sound like they're agonizing. I've also had a guy leaving a note on my car after gym. I thought it was slightly creepy, considering I don't even know or remember who he is.
For the love of Jupiter don't use that line unless you're trying to be funny. When I'm working out, I'm in the zone. Sure I scope out cute guys, but only because they're fun to look at, not because I want to talk to them. Unless you catch her constantly staring at you and/or moving to workout equipment that's always close to you, she probably doesn't want you to approach her. If she isn't showing any interest in you whatsoever, but you're still dying to say something to her, at most, you could compliment her, but that's it, after you say your compliment, WALK AWAY. If it turns out she is interested, she might approach you later, if she doesn't, then just let it go.
I just like the plain old, "Hi, my name is _______. I see you here a few times and I thought I'll introduce myself." In return, I'll say "Hi" and introduce myself as well. Hopefully a conversation will form after that.
With that pick up line, personally, I'll just think you're idiot and give you a WTF look. Lol. But who knows? Take your chance. You never know until you try.
Wrote a post like this before... consensus was most didn't want to be approached at all whilst working out @jeezshoua@xanga - that works?! @hodtos@xanga - AHEM. You've been working out miss?
@npr32486@xanga - that was when i had gym membership at lifetime. lol the only reason i worked out then was bc membership was expensive and i didn't want it to go to waste! hahaha.. as for right now... i need to work out >.<
I hate being honked at…it makes me feel like an object.
Secondly, a guy who is straight up about what he wants is something I like. I’d much rather a man not play games and just get right to the asking out. But thats just me.
Not only that, but I have a feeling that this woman is very capable of defending herself. Trying to avoid sexual harassment is one thing, but trying to avoid getting my arm broken and knocked out faster than I can say “I'm sorry” is another. Because I don't want to die and because she's very beautiful, I want to minimize my risk of something bad happening.
so true my man, so true.
when I workout for real, I'm usually pissed off. I would assault you.
@npr32486@xanga - It works for me. Haha.
i would not use a pickup line. i found a guy very interesting but that's cuz he worked at my gym. he approached me by asking me how my workout was, and then telling me that the person i was looking for was sick. but before that, i saw he was very friendly with every gym regular. so it didn't look like he was trying to pick me up. then i told him after "thanks for telling me about the guy being sick" and he started asking me specifics about my workout & he gave me tips cuz he's a kinesiologist. things didn't go anywhere, but i like that way of talking to ppl. i don't like obvious ways of approaching ppl.
if the gym you go to offers group classes/lessons, you can always break the ice by asking her if she's been to one of them and/or recommends going to one in particular.
pickup lines are hit or miss. and if you miss with them,. you don't ever get a second chance
Ok.. personally, if you said that to me, I would be like "where are the puppies?"
First of all, I never get corny jokes
Pick up lines should NEVER EVER be used. It only works in movies..
I just dont like being approached at the gym, unless he is really like my dream guy, but then again, I would feel totally self conscious b/c i'm sweaty, my hair's a mess, im smelly, im wearing the ugliest outfit possible!!
I mean, you could try, most girls like to be hit on guys. I'm not saying you're not worthy or anything like that, but some girls like attention from any kind of the human male species.
Just say "Hey. How are you?" and then start talking about stuff. If it works it works. If it doesn't then it doesn't. I don't see why you are so afraid of being killed.
It is probably easier than you think! Don't think too hard.
grunting and the mating call thing sounds creepy and scary. if I heard that, I'd move farther away and use the machine when he isn't around to disturb me with his noises. I wouldn't knock him unconscious, I'd just fast walk out of there while holding my pepper spray lol if I'm interested, even the cheesiest pickup lines will make me blush, but if I'm not interested, no pickup lines or casual greetings will work.
LOL your pickup line made me laugh so hard. it's fine if you talk to me at the gym, but dont expect thoughtful and deep conversation.
one thing you DON'T want to do is critique her technique on whatever it is she may be doing, whether she's doing it wrong or not. definitely start with a compliment first!
Lol, don't use pick up lines. Just be genuine and yourself. Just say that you've seen her around a lot and introduce yourself. If you see her doing a workout that you have an alternate way to do that you find works better, offer to show her. Or something like that. Nothing wrong with just being yourself - women like it WAY better.
That pick up lines is grounds alone for a restraining order, but anyway. I'd stay away from the gym as a pickup spot... too damned predictable.
'I'm the type of guy who would honk at a woman running on the sidewalk' - doesn't that make you kind of a jerk?
and why do you need a corny pick up line, whatever happened to a simple 'hey'
she's there to work out so she's most probably not going to want to stand around and chat, so how about waiting untill she's done and asking her if she want's to grab a coffee sometime or something?
cheesy pick up lines would never work on me, or anybody that i know for that matter.
When I'm working out, I usually have my music BLARING into my ears and can't hear a thing. People will ask me if I'm done using a machine or something and I look like a fucking idiot/douche just ignoring them, haha. Whoops!
I actually like the idea of meeting somebody at the gym. It's like, you're in your grossest stage - all sweaty, gross, no make up (usually... well always for me), and sometimes in gross clothes or smelly work out clothes. If you think I'm attractive when my face is red and I have sweat dripping down my nose, arms and legs, then great - you should talk to me! Hahah
Just do something (notice how there is no concensus answer here). If you're feelin' her don't let the opportunity go to waste.