Monday, 13 December 2010
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How Do You Ask for a First Date?
There is this girl I met while working. I know her name, I know where she works, I could easily get her phone number without her knowledge but I've only seen her maybe twice. Yet I can't stop thinking about her. Maybe it's been a while for me, but I would like to ask her out.Since I never seem to "run into her" it makes it difficult.
So my question is, is the FB stalk, asking about a dinner through text or an unsolicited phone call - not right?!
Have you randomly wanted to ask someone out without knowing any of the pertinent information? What did you do?
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I was asked out by a guy in one of my classes that I had never really talked to before and it was kind of awkward, especially since I had a boyfriend. I'm not saying you shouldn't go for it though - just be careful about how you go about it.
You should also probably try to talk to people that know her if possible and find out if she's seeing anyone or come up with an excuse to initiate a group hang-out that she'd be invited to where you could casually strike up a conversation with her.
You know where she works. Go there, talk to her, ask her if she's available and ask her out. Do not get her number without her number, do not FB her out of the blue. Just go and talk to her.
I see posts like this every so often. People, is this some sort of ancient science that is lost? Face time is never inappropriate.
no it's not right. if you do, then you sir are the definition of a creeper
@mcmeister89@mancouch - yeah this is all exactly what i'd have said.
but just so you know. it's usually not wise to dip your pen in company ink. (after all, that is how i met my horrible wife.)
Talk to her in person, don't just call her if she hasn't given you her phone number.
Don't ask by phone. That's creeper status. Who cares if you can get her number easily through other methods. The only way to really get her number should be earned. Unless she gave you her number, don't call or text her. Face to face. Make ways to run into her. Seriously, think about it. Wouldn't you think she'd be weirded out if some random guy says he knows her and got her number somehow and wants to take her out. Who would possibly say yes to that?
Hey, just ask. In person. Esp. if she didn't give you her PHONE NUMBER to you, it's just too weird to say: "I've been asking around and got your number through so-and-so's contact list when she went to the washroom without her phone..." wtf, stalking much?
DO IT IN PERSON; just make eye contact, smile, try to breathe calmly and ask if she's single. If she doesn't freak out and say "I'm in a relationship", then you've gotten past the hard part. Because, by this point, she KNOWS you're interested enough to ask her out and then say, "would you like to have dinner with me in the near future?" (if you saw her and asked on Tuesday, say Friday, if you saw her on Wednesday, say Saturday, but if you saw her on Thursday, don't say Sunday since she might suggest a LUNCHEON instead of a DATE setting of a dinner. GOOD LUCk!!!!
@mcmeister89@mancouch - I quite agree
It's kind of common now to have a new friend or love interest say, "oh, I found you on Facebook" and it's not that creepy. But if you haven't really talked to her in person that much, it might be strange to randomly call or something. I would ask her in person, just something casual like, "maybe we should hang out/have dinner sometime" if possible. If not, shoot for the FB asking, but I think it would be better if you went to her work and asked her.
Don't be afraid to ask her in person! I think that'd be totally cute to have a guy do that out of the blue :)
YOU MUST do it in person. and YOU MUST do everything to run into her. and YOU MUST come up with a clever way to ask her out without seeming like a complete freak/weirdo/perverted stranger.
Don't FB stalk, or get her number from anywhere but her. That's a huge rejection waiting to happen.
Don't wait to run into her, just go find her and ask her out you doof.
You know where she works? Go visit her.
@mcmeister89@mancouch - Pretty much, people rely too much on technology to do things that just barely 10 years ago people had to do without it.
What everyone else said, best idea is to just go see her in person however you can. If you need to take your breaks a different times to come across her and then just ask her out. It's pretty much a 90% guarantee she will deny you if you randomly call her without her knowledge of how you got her number, and facebook stalking isn't quite as bad...but definitely puts girls on edge as well.
Not only will she deny you, but could possibly mention it to other people "This creepy guy got my number and facebook stalked me out of nowhere...yeah he works near here." And you don't want to get labelled as a creeper when you have a perfect chance to avoid the title.
@xraindropsonroses@xanga - A guy you know of course. Otherwise..it's just creepy. Well, haha. Depending on the age as well.
you're going to have to go up to her and ask her out. because facebooking her or texting her randomly would be weird.
good luck! :) asking people out is hard.
Go visit her at work.
@springg11@xanga - I especially love this response especially the second sentence. I had to 'lol' but it's true. Do everything to RUN into HER.. and then go on from there. Or like the others said, go visit her at her workplace.
Hmm - maybe a fail on my part - I was just using that as an example. Was more curious how others have done it and whether or not people have done more untraditional not necessarily socially accepted ways (like texting and stuff). So purely my fault.
In regards to the girl ... thats a whoooole different blog altogether. But thanks for the "tips"?! Even thought I knew them all already. HA
"So my question is, is the FB stalk, asking about a dinner through text or an unsolicited phone call - not right?!" Yes, very NOT right. Unsolicited phone calls are creepy not cute. So make sure shes willingly gives you her number before you call : )
...face to face...and do it honestly...if you happen to BE a creeper then that shall shine through with flying colors...but if not...honesty will do you well...trust in the fact that we are all human and that sometimes taking a risk is worth all the potential negatives that may ensue...but be sure that your actually attracted to her (him) because YOU know what your looking for...so knowing yourself is the first actuality that needs to be addressed...after that no fear...lol
Find her during your break and just ask her out for lunch... something along the lines of "I'd like to get to know you over lunch, would you like to accept the offer?" If she declines your offer, just move on.
you say,
"hey baby. yous so sexy. I gotta have those digits."
OMFG THIS SITUATION!!! this is what i get into sometimes too.. except the girl is in my class LOL.
i say JUST GO FOR IT IN PERSON!
I got a text message from a random guy and in the message, he said something about how he wants to ask me out but he's shy/scared or something, I forgot the actual message, but anyway, it also said that to find out who he is, I must go to some secret admirer site. so I curiously went on the site and in order to find out, I'd have to pay a membership fee of like $6 and I never found out who it was because it seemed creepy and shady. that's a big don't on the random text messages