Monday, 13 December 2010
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Just a Quickie: Are You Going to Your SO's for the Holidays?
Are you spending the holidays with your SO's family, or going to yours? Is it usually a source of contention for you two, or do you agree on how to divvy your time up?
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We spent Thanksgiving with his family cause my family hates thanksgiving. But we're spending Christmas eve with his family in the afternoon cause thats when they celebrate it, then my dads in the mid-afternoon and dinner at my moms all on the 24th since our families don't celebrate the 25th. The on the 25th we're going to my cousins mother-in-laws house because she loves us =D But yes, I am spending it with my SO's family and he's spending it with mine. Our first holidays together and they're gonna be super busy =]
We're not married, we each go to our own family's house for Chistmas. I go over later though, like, the next day or something, and he does the same.
I was going to spend Thanksgiving, but it's my first time back from college so of course the family wants me there.
But, most likely I'll be at his house for Christmas eve (his mom usually does christmas eve while his aunt cooks for christmas day). I'll be kidnapping him for Orlando a couple days after Christmas anyway ;D
During my serious relationships, holidays would usually be split up in some way; Christmas Eve with his family and Christmas Day with mine, Thanksgiving/Easter dinners/desserts with opposing families, etc. If I was just casually dating someone, I might ask if they wanted to come over for dessert or something, but I wouldn't make a big deal out of the holidays.
We always split it up. Last year my boyfriend came to my house for Christmas Eve and I spent Christmas Day with him and it was switched around for the year before that. This being our 3rd Christmas while dating, I'm really not sure haha.
We're not exactly too serious about each other, so we're going to our own respective families' holiday events.
My fiance is going to see his family a few days before Christmas. His family lives in another state, and I have health issues that kind of stop me from traveling very far..This would be a 6 hour (possibly longer depending on traffic/weather) drive. So he's going by himself. They do their stuff on Christmas Eve..So he'll be there for that, then drive back at night on Christmas Eve here to be with me on Christmas day. This was kind of an issue that came up with us last year...but he's making a huge effort so that we can spend holidays together since it means so much to me. Since I can't travel with him, I appreciate that so so much.
This is the first year my boyfriend and I have done holidays together. We have always done the smaller ones together, like VD and 4th of july. But this is the first time in our relationship where we're splitting up holidays. For thanksgiving we did it at his families the day before thanksgiving and on thanksgiving we did it at my families (and the ER, but that's another story). But in the future it's probably going to be an every other year thing, because his family usually celebrates it ON thanksgiving. It just worked out this way this year because his sister was in town only until that day.
Christmas is surprisingly easy though, unless his family travels to Georgia to visit his sister. But We're going to do Christmas with my family in the morning to early afternoon and then with his family until the evening. I love how our Christmas traditions worked out like that!
Both, since he's living on his own. My family has parties on the 24th anyway, not the 25th [Brazilian Tradition] so it doesn't even interfere.
It's our third Christmas together! :D
I'm going to my ex's for Christmas. Long story. His family adores me, and since they all want to see our daughter for the holidays, that's where I'll be. Good thing my ex and I are still close friends....
Honestly, fuck them. I'm going my family for the holidays. I'm not bothering to be with my bf's family. Besides they don't like me much..it's really whatever. It would be too awkward for me to stay with them.
My boyfriend has a very straight-forward way of thinking. I think since I moved in with HIM, instead of vice versa, he figures that from now on, he calls the shots on these types of things. For Thanksgiving, he just simply said, "we're going to my mom's at noon, and my dad's at 5" and thought nothing of the idea that maybe I would want to go see my family. I told him so, and he got kind of upset, as if it was totally irrational for me to want to see, for example, my father, whom I hadn't seen in almost 8 months. Long story short, of course I went to see my father. We compromised after I told him it was really selfish for him to assume it's my obligation to see his parents, even though he wouldn't be seeing mine. And even more so to say I couldn't see my own! But in the end it worked out okay, he got where I was coming from.
We figure out what our respective families' plans are, and do as much of it as possible. Often it's crazy (for Thanksgiving we went to three places), but I think they appreciate us being there as much as possible.
I don't know yet.
yesssssss. and i'm so super excited! he is coming to my house for pre-christmas. we are both going to our own homes for christmas. then i am going to his house for new years. some say it might be a little early, but idc.
We didn't spend Thanksgiving together, since he was home on break from college, and needed to spend time with his family. But we usually spend Christmas together. If we don't see each other on Christmas day, we see each other soon after. I usually spend the New Years with his family, since mine doesn't make a big production out of it.
Hell to the no. We went to his mom's for Thanksgiving, and that was bad enough.
I have no family really, so he doesn't have to worry about my side. We'll probably just stay here for xmas, just the two us relaxing, WOOT.
We spent Thanksgiving with his and came back to mine for the evening.
Christmas eve is going to be at my house. Christmas morning at my house. Christmas afternoon at one side of his family and night at the other side, then back to mine. Busy day. :)
My family hates my guy but forces really fake friendliness at him, so I rarely pressure him into doing anything with them. Despite my best efforts, it always causes both of us a lot of stress around the holidays. My family expects me to take their side, he expects me to take his.
This year I thought I'd get out of it by going to my family's Christmas party by myself while he pretends to have plans that weekend, but then his Aunt died and the funeral is scheduled the same night as my family's party. So now they're playing guilt-trip-tug-of-war with me over family party vs funeral.
I will be spending Christmas eve and day with him and his family, though, because they've always been kind to me and treated me like part of their family. This really pisses off my own family, though, and I just have to deal with them being mad at me for a while.
well..i spend thanksgivng with his family and mine.
for christmas i think hes coming to mine if his family leaves to visit somewhere. since he has work the next day.
He always invites me over. Usually, the early mornings are just for his family and then I come over in the afternoon so he can get just family time and then with me since mine doesn't do the holidays.
Well, my boyfriend wants me to spend christmas with him and then a few days after visit his father's side of the family upstate. He really wants me to come because no one ever met that side of the family and he really likes them. Although flattered, I just started a new job and am hesitant to request off work. Oh, and I'm Jewish, so christmas isn't really a big deal for me. I'd rather work and make double time. But at the same time he's very excited about it and I would like to share in that excitement.
its weird, because we're not engaged or anything, so we're spotty with them but don't have a set plan. I think when we get engaged we'll set things more.
We usually go to His moms first, then my moms, then his gmas house. Christmas, Thanksgiving, easter, ect. Four christmas together, woot