This is a nice post =)
Pleasant to see a positive post.

@sassyjessie@xanga - I agree with the first thing you said.

@UnconventionalButterfly@xanga - It's true, it's shallow. But I think I'm using it as a definition, a fact. I try not to attach a value to physical appearance, but in this world, i think it's hard not to. I'm not perfect, certainly I'll have my moments. But, I'm not going to be naive and assume the rest of the world thinks the way they should.

There are spelling errors in this... but I'll focus on the message. Looks tend to lure a person in, but personality keeps them there. It's not necessarily that Sarah didn't have a decent personality or that she wasn't intelligent enough, it may just be that her personality clashed with his. People just aren't right for each other sometimes. 

I don't think it's going to work out, Putin.  It's not you, it's me.  If you had my prior personality though, I'm a great slave.  I don't know what we're going to talk about.  I don't really.  I kind'of wander around. Most of the sources I've had, information, had been through your blog, including my deviant thought process prior to another awakening.  Therefore, I think you already know.   Perhaps the years you've had to acquire knowledge, your PHD and everything else will make me look a little simple. Would you like me to reload your rifle so that you can shoot me? But that doesn't mean that my peers are so superior over me.  I carry a label, and they'll do anything.

"A friend of mine always talks about how easy they think it is to be a
pretty girl. They are stuck on the thought that being pretty must make
life easy. Whenever, I hear this it bothers me."

I expect it's mostly a 'grass is greener' sort of thing.  I would say that typically those less attractive see more benefits to being attractive than the attractive people notice, for example.  So the complaints that things are tough on the pretty people ring a bit hollow.  Vaguely like a rich person complaining about the travails of being rich to someone who is noticeably not rich.  Everyone has problems, sure.  But, generically speaking, to others, your problems probably don't appear as bad as they do to you, and they at least think they would be happy to trade problems.  Which isn't to say your problems aren't real.

But that's just kind of a small sideline.  The bulk of the post seems like pretty good advice.  And finding a good match is hard.

@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - They're usually not that accurate but that's what the majority of people go by.

I agree definitely. I have also kind of experimented with this idea of conversations and first impressions... it definitely helps to be interested in the person you are talking to, as in who they are, what they do, what they like, etc. Even if you can't relate on some things, there are usually some things, sometimes you gotta search for them even if it's as simple as taste in movies or what they like to do in their spare quiet time at home. My current boyfriend and I led totally different lives and I didn't think we would click, until we started talking more in the beginning and found out our home lives were pretty much identical! So when we get time together, we always have a good time and are able to relate. It's definitely not all about looks, or parties, or anything like that.

Umm "rejected" is NOT the right word to use to describe girls who get into a relationship/pre-relationship where guys find out they don't like said girls once dating has started.

**Rejected** is what  happens when guys get turned down after going through the pain of approaching and asking (i.e. making the first move).  Being pretty IS easy so stop kidding yourself. 

You want to know what is "hard"?  You want to know what being rejected is like?  Put yourself out there for someone then you can talk.

@eatingabook - Good, I am glad to hear it. I hope your relationship works out well. @xXDC_luyouXx - I do put myself out there, I have been "rejected", shot down, and completely humiliated.I have approached guys many times on my own and put myself on the line. I am sorry, but don't be so ignorant to assume I haven't made a first move with a guy before, that didn't go over so smoothly. It's happened on more than one occasion. I wrote this from my own knowledge and experience. Why I wish for someone to not let rejection phase them, is because before it would rattle me up inside with fear. I would become so upset. One day, every time I approached someone whether I was shot down or accepted, things started to become easier. I realized being REJECTED is no big deal. Life goes on and everyone gets rejected...even pretty girls. Now of course, I am not saying I am pretty to everyone. In-fact, I have been called ugly by a guy to my face on more than one occasion, but over-all I hear from people that I am pretty and I like the way I look so this is why I refer to myself as a pretty girl, but of course whether or not I am actually pretty really depends on the disposition of the person judging me.
 I have learned the most important thing is of course is show you approach someone and show an interest in them.
 Thanks for commenting,

First things first, life is easier when you're more physically attractive. It's proven scientifically and statistically, so hush now.

Second, I like what @xXDC_luyouXx said as far as what being rejected is. In fact, I'll even go off what you said in your first paragraph, that aesthetics are the first thing we notice about someone.

If you're not attractive, you're shot down before you even open your mouth. It's true. No one can deny it. If your first impression of someones physical attractiveness is "Ew", what are the chances they get the opportunity to date you? None. This girl at least had the opportunity, but blew it for whatever reason.

When I think of being shot down, I think of going up to a girl in a bar, asking her what her name is and if I can buy her a drink to which she responds "No thanks". I didn't even get a chance to tell her what I'm doing with my life, what my preferences in music are, nothing. THAT'S getting shot down. Pretty people automatically get a foot in the door with two exceptions- 1.) the other person is taken or 2.) the other person isn't interested in that sex.

Last thing I'll say, it's all about comparison. For this, I'm going to have to use the rating system to make it easier to explain. If you're a 7, then you might seem pretty to a guy who's a 5. However, if you approach and get shot down by a guy who's a 9, then according to the 5, you're a pretty girl who got shot down. However, it is LESS LIKELY that you get shot down on a regular basis.

@momzmybiz@xanga - If you're only looks, then you're a friend with benefits. If you're only personality, then you're a friend. Gotta have some of both to be a girl/boyfriend.

@SamBarger@xanga - That's beautiful@mcmeister89@mancouch - What you said is on the ball. Hopefully if people get the chance to even approach I have helped them a little with how to bring out the postive side of their personality. Thanks for your comment, I enjoyed reading it. And F.Y.I. You are not a bad looking guy at all. You're cute, so I am sure looks wise plenty of people find you appealing and from what you say, you're a smart guy as well. So props to you.@SupperMick@xanga - I always have guys to fall back on, I think if you have a vagina that's just the way it goes, however I am not saying I am interested in any of those guys. Also, I actually have many guys to fall back on who are interested in me for my looks and personality....I just don't see most of those guys as more than friends. Thanks for your opinion. And I never said big boobs made me irresistible to males, FYI.

Idk, people are definitely nicer to you when you're seen as the "pretty girl". I used to make myself ugly; I dressed like one of those goth kids, painted my face white and wore black lipstick. People treated me like shit. Now I look much different, and I've since grown up (8 years older, actually).  I'm the same person, but people treat me much better because I make myself look nice. This  concept works with both genders in the business world. If you're wearing a suit-and-tie, even if your job doesn't require a suit-and-tie dress code, you will probably be treated better than mr. polo shirt in the corner cubicle. People are shallow. Everyone gains a first impression from another person during the first introduction.. it's just how things work.