Wednesday, 08 December 2010

• 3 Beliefs about Sex That I Hate

  

  1. Our idea of virginity is flawed (not to mention homophobic)

  The traditional viewpoint of being a "virgin" means not being penetrated by a man's penis. For the longest time, I thought that was a reasonable explanation of what being a "virgin" was. However, growing up and learning different things, I've developed an entirely different viewpoint on virginity by asking myself one simple question: if people follow the traditional meaning of virginity, then how do homosexuals lose their virginity?

  I've conducted a survey and almost EVERY SINGLE PERSON  either said that homosexuals lose their virginity through oral/anal sex or they had no idea how homosexuals lose their virginity. With the traditional viewpoint of virginity, homosexuals couldn't lose their virginity. So what does society do? We say that homosexuals lose their virginity through oral/anal sex. Now wait a minute...we're saying that homosexuals lose their virginity through oral sex, but a heterosexual couple can't lose their virginity through oral sex? With that logic, that means that a homosexual woman loses her virginity through oral sex, but a heterosexual woman, who gives 10,000 men oral sex, would still be a virgin.

  By this logic, heterosexual women, by default, have the upper hand against homosexual women when it comes to losing virginity. Consider this...forget about the graphic details about traveling sperm and gravity, but a woman can become pregnant through anal sex. If being a virgin means vaginal penetration, when there was no vaginal penetration, a woman can get pregnant through sexual contact without losing her virginity. Is it just me, or is something ain't right here!? 

  2. "Porn is Cheating."

  Having almost completed my Intro to Anthropology course, I've learned that not everything we own has the same meaning as it does in different cultures. If I were to give a native tribe my 30 GB Zune, they most likely wouldn't ask for headphones so they could listen to Queen or Bucket Head. They might try to use it as some kind of tool; ultimately, they would develop a new meaning for the Zune, while my meaning of the Zune was completely different than theirs. The letters in our alphabet, themselves, have no meaning; we just give them meaning. If I were to give a native tribe a gun, they probably wouldn't know how to shoot and use it as an effective killing tool. Where am I going with this? Well, I have a very strong opinion that “people kill people,” rather than the argument that “guns/knives kill people.” The same goes for pornography; you could argue all day about the psychological effects of watching pornography, but everything that results from watching pornography is based on a choice. Some people have suggested that pornography actually decreases sexual violence, while some people suggest that pornography increases sexual violence. Regardless of what information is out there, I believe that people cause sexual violence. Just because your girlfriend/boyfriend watches porn doesn't mean he/she is going to turn into an immoral human being. The only reason why you would dislike your significant other watching pornography is because you believe that pornography is considered cheating. And why not? He/she is engaging in self-stimulation while watching other people do sexual things after all.

  Well, let's think about this: what is the difference between a Hollywood scene/movie and a pornography scene/movie? There's actors/actresses, there's somewhat of a plot, there's transitions, there's a soundtrack, and they're both used for entertainment. If you think about it, there's really not a whole lot of differences between the two; granted, porn stars are terrible at acting and you normally don't see movie stars fully nude and exposed like you do porn stars. But have you ever been to a porn site and looked at the most popular videos on the website? You hardly ever seen a video title consisting of a porn star's name. Hell, you rarely see any information on the names of the actors/actresses in porn scenes. Why is that? It's because that people, in general, don't care about who is in the video, but rather what is in the video. Many couples use pornography as a form of foreplay because it is strictly used as visual stimulation. If you ask someone, chances are they'll be able to name more movie stars than porn stars. So if someone doesn't take a personal interest in a porn star, then is it still considered cheating? I say no. The only time that watching porn would be a bad thing is when you watch in excessive amounts to the point where you don't have ANY sexual interaction with your significant other. But that's classified as an addiction, and all addictions are bad (even water intoxication), not as cheating.

  If, at the end of the day, you're still not convinced, relationships aren't dictatorships; they are about compromises and understanding. No one should be forced to do anything they don't want to do just because you don't feel comfortable with the idea. If your significant other doesn't want to stop watching porn, join em'! Otherwise, save yourself the trouble by finding someone who shares your opinions

  5. I am Male. I love sex, sex, sex.

  Even though there's hundreds of websites and blogs that are dedicated to understanding the male and female mind and body, people still have confusion about the other gender. However, we do know one important similarity: men and women both use sex for recreation. We also know that the average man thinks about sex 75% of the day, while the average woman thinks about sex 45% of the day. This means that some women think about sex more than men do, and some men think about sex less than women do. So when someone asks “why do men want sex?” The answer is simple: it's in human nature.
  
  The problem about women openly expressing themselves is that society would deem her as a “slut.” It's okay for a man to be sexual because that's just what society expects, but women, on the other hand, are supposed to be innocent and the ones who actually want a “meaningful relationship.” According to society, males are incapable of having a relationship, and women either don't want sex or she's a “slut.”
  
  There's a reason why women don't openly express themselves, but the important thing is that there's a lot of over-generalizations that are based on society's view, an observed opinion, but not actually fact. Society just assumes that the over-generalizations are true because it just makes the most logical sense.

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