Tuesday, 07 December 2010
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Work Flirts: Good or Bad?
Title says it all, Xangans.I work at a huge retail store. I'd estimate that there is about a half to half ratio between males and females.
With this in mind I, admittedly, have about three work flirts. They don't mean anything. They are simply there to pass the time and make me smile. Hell, I'll even say it adds to my confidence. But when it comes down to it these boys are my buddies and there seems to be an unspoken agreement that it goes no further than the front door of our store.However, if my boyfriend were to find out about these "work flirts" odds are he would not be very happy.
Are work flirts okay? Does it matter if you are in a relationship or not? How far would a "work flirt" have to go for it to be inappropriate?
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Flirting at work is fine. If you're in a relationship, well... there's a gray zone. All I can say is that if you think the flirting might be going too far, then it probably has. But in the end, it's just flirting.
The title definitely didn't say it all, lol. Work flirts can and do turn into work romances and even marriages. After college, work is one of the best places to meet people. But, alas, that's not what your post is about. When it comes to flirting -- there are two people involved. If youre not prepared to take it beyond friendly banter because you have a serious boyfriend, you owe it to these guys to be straight up about your real relationship, and keep it to friendly banter (e.g. no sexual overtones at all).
it's bad when it gets inappropriate for the work place, physical and if you have a bf, dont.
I think it's probably not okay since your boyfriend wouldn't be happy about it. Would you want him flirting with girls behind your back?
Any sort of flirts while you are in a relationship are bad. Even if you both KNOW it's just for amusement in the workplace, it's really not fair to your boy/girl
Yeah its ok. Chances are your bf has them too. My girlfriends have always been from work :/ so talking to other girls was interpreted as flirting! lol
long story short: everyone I think has them to a degree. Its fine like you say as long as it doesn't go past the front door (which is chock full of innuendo...and really that's a majority of the flirting I think, at least for me, just making innuendoes out of shit).
Personally, if you're in a relationship it's NOT okay. You're in a relationship with your boyfriend for a reason, you know, and maybe it isn't fair to him, especially since you noted that he would not be happy if he found out you were flirting with other guys behind his back.
I get them all the time from the people that I work with. Or used to (not working now) and even customers hit on me. It was quite funny but I was dating my ex at the time and refused them. I know when I go back to working, that this will happen again.
@aotolife@xanga - agreed
if you're single, it's okay (weirdly enough, i posted on this while at work today lol). if you're in a relationship, then it depends on you and your partner. for me, it would NOT be okay. at all.
If you're single, sure, why not?
If you're in a relationship, it seems inappropriate to me. I wouldn't want my significant other doing that,so I wouldn't either.
You said so yourself that if your bf finds out, he would be not be very happy. Why continue to do it for your own selfish and inconsiderate reasons?
Flirting at work shl be ok, but u will to know what are your limits of things you should do and not do since you have a boyfriend already.
Flirts are fine but somewhat risky. As long as it manages to stay in the realm of friendly flirting, no harm no foul. The problem, caused by either them or you tends to be mixed messages. Don't do anything rash enough to send them a message saying "I'd like to see more outside of this dump".
The only advice to give is to be completely sure and ready to nip these things in the bud before they grow out of control. For example, if gifts start coming your way; then it may be time to really put your foot down. Some guys aren't above stealing another guy's chick.
I'm glad I work in a barber shop with all girls. It makes it way easier to stay out of that flirting zone. We only have male clients, but the ones that do remember me and talk to me when they come in are just really nice guys. The ones that have been talking to me since the start know that I'm going through school and they just ask me how school is and I'll ask them how their wife/family/job/school/whatever is going. I used to get involved heavily in work flirting when I worked at a water park and ChuckECheese, but I was 14-18, then, and also single. I'm not sure how I would feel about it while in a relationship.
This college boy and I flirt at work, but I don't want to be a cougar!
if you know your boyfriend wouldn't like it, why would you do it?
work flirts are not okay. I say this only because i actually work with my boyfriend in a small grocery store and he tends to go off and flirt with this girl in the liq dep. it is terrible to watch and he says he doesnt mean to do it and he says just because she flirts with him (although she knows me personally and calls herself a lesbian) they still do it. she will even text him saying "hey :)" a lot and i tell him that she obviously has a thing for him, but he says even if she is flirting that he doesnt see it as that and they are :just friends" its just hard to believe when i see it right in front of my eyes. so no. work flirts are NOT OKAY in my book.
I don't like getting involved with boys at work. It just makes the expierence awkward and uncomfotable later.
No!! No sexual implications of attraction allowed!! Don't cross the borderline of friendship to courtship.
I have work flirts, and my boyfriend of a year also works at the same place as me. I know how to tone it down. But it's just natural to show "affection" to my boys because I've known them for almost three years. But I respect my boyfriend enough to know that there are limits. And anyway, I know that at the end of every day, my heart still belongs to him.
its inappropriate when you know you're in a relationship.
Is flirting acceptable when it is directed at anyone else other than the
SO to begin with? So if your boyfriend were to go to a bar and get some
girl's number, would that be alright? It's just bar flirting, right?
He's not really going to call her or anything, so what's the harm in
that? Sorry, I don't flirt with the guys I work with. I can be friends
with them, sure, but anything that would lead them to believe they have a
chance of dating me is not okay. It can become a serious HR problem.