Friday, 03 December 2010
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Stop Whining About Being Cheated On
I've noticed there are a lot of posts about cheating and people whining that they were cheated on (everyone has been) or some brave soul fighting the system with an attempt at validating it, or someone using as a revenge.
I'm sick of it.
First, how is it that we find ourselves in such sticky, weird, awkward, nonsensical situations...I swore Jerry Springer was scripted but more and more stories I'm reading, there are some crazy ass people out there.
I just don't get it.
My suggestion: If you're going to live your life like a reality show, live it like Oprah's "Favorite Things" episode...do the right thing and treat people right and you won't fall in love with your stepfathers brothers' fiancee whom is having a gay love affair behind his wife's back. Why would you want to get into that?! Gah
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agreed
complaning and whining is so much fun ! :P
@s_h_a_sha@xanga - I second that. =)
well said sir. would whiners still be whining if no one listened, responded (commented, blogged) about their problems?
@inspirasionz@xanga - I can't remember where I heard it, but it was said before that nobody is hysterical in the privacy of their own homes. Something like that needs an audience.
OP: I salute your entry. Short, simple, and to the point. I love how people keep trying to treat it all like a huge game, only to get fucked out and over whenever shit doesn't go their way.
I understand when people need to talk about their problems, express themselves, mope, write it out etc.
howeverwhen you advertise your misery you don't want to get over it.you want a "poor baby, he was a jackass" If you find out you were dating a moral blackhole, at least you found out about it eventually. stop asking why and do something about it.Some people are emotionally immature or just plain immature in general, so they end up in these weird situations as a result. Others just need psychological help. In any case, I can't say I've ever been annoyed by this, but that's probably because I'm easily entertained by ridiculous stories.
It's possible that some of these people don't have friends to talk to about their situation, or they may very well like the attention in their "time of need." Perhaps some view this place as a relationship forum like any other out there where people ask for advice.
..I think there is nothing wrong with writing about the sad, disappointing, heartbreaking events in your life. There is something wrong in refusing to see your possible role in it, or refusing to remedy it if you can--but writing your thoughts down often helps in figuring that sort of thing out.
..Expressing sorrow is not the same thing as whining. Whining is when you do not have a good reason to be upset.
Mourning/expressing sorrow/otherwise processing grief is often appropriate.
it is rather funny reading about other peoples' misery though.
Oh xanga, where have I been for the last few months?
@Jenny_Wren@xanga - but when an OP submits to datingish, i'm pretty sure they expect a shit-tonne of 'aww honey, it's okay you were too good for him'-s, not emotional release
@hallentine@xanga - Agreed, if I wanted to vent I'd do it privately.. not submit it to be published
Everyone believes it will always be different with them. More times than not its the attraction, mostly sexually fuel that gets them involved with the person anyway. So yeah shouldn't whine when they get the same treatment that ones got before them. Though, everyone loves to complain and needs someone to listen. So why not the whole world? Never more fish in the sea as many only have ponds nearly dried up filled with snakes and secretly loving it as much as they say they are hurt by it.
Lol. That doesn't make sense. The stepfather's brother cannot be a wife.
But I get your point.
I still think by ranting, complaining, and making arguments against cheating will change society in some ways- hopefully for the better. So I'd say, 'go for it!'
Aha, agreed. People who make whiny posts and submit them to sites like this just want sympathy/attention, nothing more.
@hallentine@xanga - You're right, that's likely. Maybe a little of both.
Why don't you just not read those posts?
some people need to vent. i think its perfectly fine. its a blogging world. quit whining about whining.. there's nothing more annoying than that!! lol
It's my blog and I can bitch if I want to =] lmfao. I'm tired of blogs with people bitching about other people bitching in their blogs. Get a real cause for bitching. Geeze.
Or you could just not read the posts and stop bitchin about people bitchin.
It's a freakin blog for god's sake people will BITCH and wine and vent.
This is probably the dumbest thing I've read in awhile.
I've never been cheated on, but I can imagine the incredible hurt that someone would feel. And I don't think cheating is something someone deserves. The nicest most loyal people in the world still get cheated on. Leave them alone sir.
I don't think I've been cheated on. But when I have a problem or I am hurting I like to talk about it to people. It is not good to hold in everything like a lot of men and some women seem to do. It is not healthy! Trust me, I've been there. It made me feel so depressed.
Well this is a blogging website and everyone gets there own page to complain or comment or state whatever they like.....If you do not like it, stop reading it...
@Jenny_Wren@xanga - Couldn't have said it better.
There is a difference between whining and grieving/working through the pain. The latter being healthy and beneficial for working through your emotions and moving forward.
If you don't want to hear about someone's situation with having been cheated on, don't read it! If blogging about it is the only way for them to deal with it, let them be. Just because most people have been cheated on doesn't make it any easier or less painful for when you get cheated on.
Either get a gun to his head or let people vent on their blog but I admit that it does get annoying. I am guilty of this but not with cheating, it's a different story. Let people vent. And I don't understand how someone that whines and complains can turn into an episode of Jerry Springer.....?