Friday, 03 December 2010
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The Beatles Were Wrong
I've had this song stuck in my head for...days. So I thought I should write a post about it.
The Beatles were asked to come up with a song containing a simple message to be understood by all nationalities. "It was an inspired song and they really wanted to give the world a message," said Brian Epstein. "The nice thing about it is that it cannot be misinterpreted. It is a clear message saying that love is everything."
But, is love really everything?
Is that all you need to keep your relationship going strong? And what is love really? I believe love is not just an emotion, love is an action or actions. Many argue that love is only an emotion, including Wikipedia, Wikipedia says that love is, "the emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. In philosophical context, love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection. In religious context, love is not just a virtue, but the basis for all being (God is love), and the foundation for all divine law (Golden Rule)."
But, let's think about it. How do you show your lover that you love them? I'm sure you do more than just tell them. You might buy her flowers, or ladies, you might make him his favorite meal. Or you might show them in a much bigger way than that. You may also make many sacrifices just to make sure the one you love is comfortable or happy. Those actions show your love for them, and when you love someone, you don't just love them, you do things so they KNOW you love them.
Thoughts?
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- From: aotolife@xanga
- About Me: I am passionate about defending the true meaning of love which is all to often blamed as leading to such state of emotional and interpersonal ruin. I believe it is a big error to blame love for betrayed emotions or unhappy relationships, there should be no gray area as to what real love consists of. That's why I have partnered with relationships author Tapiwa Chitembure - together we hope to bring awareness to the issues that give love a bad name. Occasionally I write about other life issues as well.
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That definition isn't saying it's just an emotion. I mean, it clearly stated that it could mean all human kindness, compassion and affection. So they're saying it isn't just the emotion, it's also the way you express it. Love isn't all you need to keep a relationship strong, though it's probably 90% of it. But I don't think that one specific thing (relationships) is what the song was talking about, really. O.o And I also don't think it was meant to be taken completely literally. I mean, you also need food and water.
"Those actions show your love for them, and when you love someone, you don't just love them, you do things so they KNOW you love them."
Couldn't have said it better myself!
Call me a cynic, but I think you need more then love in a relationship. Sometimes, no matter how much two people are in love, circumstances will come up that will cause the relationship to fail... (e.g. distance, financial difficulties, illness, family disapproval, random-but-harsh crap that life throws at you) While love is definitely important in a lasting relationship, for me, there has to be more... or maybe I've just never found a person where love becomes my sustenance for survival. Love is wonderful and I know that every individual craves it in some form or another, but you need more then love to survive.
The Beatles were never wrong. Ever. (I know it's likely a datingish-added title. But it bears saying here.)
And I agree that what you need to keep a relationship strong are more the actions that show your love than emotions or the words that describe them.
It's a song. It shouldn't be taken so literally...there's more to a relationship besides love. There has to be trust and a whole list of other things. Love is just a place to start with and it's a lot of the relationship but not every bit of it. It's still a great song =)
It means many things. I don't think people always need to do things in order to know someone loves them or vise versa. Sometimes just a look in the eyes in enough to know. Or an energy/feeling you get in their presence. You can kiss someone you don't love or buy a great gift for someone you don't love. Then again this is how I interpret love in my personal experiences.
As for the song itself and it's message. Love is not ALL you need but in order for a person to survive in a healthy mental state? Yes. And I'm talking about all forms of love. No, you don't need to get married or find your soulmate in order to be happy. But you do need someone in this world that cares for you and supports you as you are in general. That could be your parents, sibling, lover, best friend..anyone. And yes it's possible for someone to not have any of that.
@kristinabean@xanga - true story. never wrong.
@Hinase@xanga - i think all those things add up to love though, so it kind of is.
@kristinabean@xanga - Love your comment about the Beatles. Right on.
no, love is when you find a condom.
@Thumper49047@xanga - I have lots of condoms. I guess I am love incarnate.
I am also slightly delirious from a consistent lack of sleep. Which, oddly enough, has nothing whatsoever to do with the condoms.
My interpretation: Love should be the basis of everything we need. If love is put into what we do or into a relationship, everything else should be easy, such as sacrifice and trusting your partner.
@dude_this_world_sux@xanga - It kind of is, and not. Love is just one part of any relationship. You have to have trust, respect, commitment etc; for it to all work. Love by itself cannot do. That's just my opinion.
@quasarglow@xanga - agreed
beatles wrong?! no wayyyy
but u do things out of love no? so its love!
Obviously it takes a lot of effort, commitment, honesty, etc. to build a healthy relationship.
But no, The Beatles were absolutely NOT wrong. I don't really think they meant for that song to pertain solely to being in a relationship. And really, the things we do for one another within relationships, are (usually, and hopefully) based pretty much off of love, right?
@Hinase@xanga - but you have to prove your love by your actions, which are commitment and honesty and lead to trust, and there has to be mutual respect.
There are all kinds of 'love' to begin with. People who think they can keep people loving them by doing absolutely nothing believe in a fanciful idealism, as opposed to reality. They ought to look into various scientific studies on the topic.
@dude_this_world_sux@xanga -- No one has to prove anything. Especially about love.
@kristinabean@xanga - It was a datingish title. The original title was "All you need is LOVE!" Because seriously. The Beatles are NEVER wrong :)
@CelestDiggory@xanga - lol... That's right.
@shinoseishi@xanga - See, I believe that my love for my family motivates me to want to provide for them. Certainly I adore my work, but I would shoot my camera every single day for nothing if I didn't have a family to help provide for. My husband & I act out our love through our consideration for one another every day. If one of us knows the other needs or wants something & the other can satisfy that need or want, we do. I used to go to work camp in the summer and every year the slogan was the same: "Work is love made visible." If you love someone, the outward display of that love should provide what you need to survive.
@Hinase@xanga - And you're right. It's not about proving that we love each other. We just believe that the daily considerations (and being honest with one another is probably the most important one) we take for each other show our love and commitment for one another a lot better than just saying that we love each other.
@kristinabean@xanga - Exactly.
Of course it's not everything.
I think if you love someone enough, you can work through anything. However, if they don't love you enough to NOT do certain things (for example, cheat) then no matter how much you love them, you have to ask if the amount of love you are receiving is worth the love you give. If you love someone, you'll stand beside them through illness, financial difficulty, my-dad-doesn't-like-you, etc. For my husband, he didn't love me enough to stay with me through my illness, so we're getting a divorce. He doesn't believe love is enough; all he saw was how "lazy" I was/am. I was willing to stay with him through his lack-of-a-job and huge debt, because I loved him enough. I loved him enough to get treatment, and he canceled my health insurance. One could argue that he doesn't love me at all; I don't know. I do know that the love I am getting from him (re: none) is not worth all the effort I put into the relationship, and I hope to someday find someone who will love me and stand by me through my illness, should it ever come back.
All me and him have to do to let each other know how much we love each other is look into each other's eyes. But of course we do more than just that.
The Beatles aren't lying.