I am of the opinion that sex is a very important part of relationships, especially as we get older and the relationships get more serious. It is a way to get close to a person on another level, and it helps keep the relationship exciting.
However, for many people sex isn't an option all the time: vows of chastity, a girl's time of the month, spending time in a parent's household, or simply because it's too early in the relationship to be ready for sex. Whatever the reason may be, here are some suggestions for being intimate without having sex.
Cook for each other: the saying goes that the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach, and the same goes for women.
Preparing a meal that incorporates your partner's favorite foods it a great way to keep them happy and show that you are attentive to their wants and needs.
Go for a walk: a long walk encourages intimacy because
there are no distractions to keep you from having your full attention devoted to your partner. It's very much the two of you and the scenery. As an added bonus, it's also great exercise.
Lay in bed together: t
here's a certain amount of closeness that comes from being in bed together, even if sex isn't involved. You can spoon and talk, and really get to know each other. After a while you might tend to whisper, which makes the situation seem even more private and wonderful.
Spend naked time together without the intent to have sex: this offers you a chance to get to know your partner's body and to become comfortable with them in your most natural state. This way, when the time comes that you are ready and able to have sex,
your initial insecurities and reservations are gone, and the situation can be more free and pleasurable.
Talk about what you like about each other:
people get so caught up in having sex as a main priority in a relationship, they oftentimes forget why they fell for one another in the first place. Why have you chosen to be with this person? What do you hope for in the future? What is your favorite thing about them? Are you happy with them? The answers that you give to one another might surprise and please you.
What are some other ways you can think of to be intimate without the promise of sex?
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laying in bed together :)
These things are also important even if you are having sex, as intimacy cannot be gained from sex alone. I especially like just laying in bed and cuddling.
However, if you're really set on not having sex, seems like laying in bed together naked is a bad idea. Too much hormonal temptation.
Back rubs and soft touches are amazing too. :) Skin touching without sex can sometimes please you more than being uber intimate! Watch your favorite TV show naked! It does wonders! :D
My hubby and I enjoy doing all of the above together. Other ways we are intimate without having sex include cuddling while watching a movie, taking showers together, and he massages my legs because I have severe pain in my legs.
NAKED TIME :D haha.
A good heart-heart is great too!
Nake time = sex.
lay in bed = talking which usually = kissing = touching = Naked time = horniness = sex.
=P
I agree with the massage comment- definitely one of my favorite.
@keio213@xanga - Lmao.
I really like hiking and talking, but then I want to have sex.
I really like sex.
Hand jobs are good too.
Watch t.v together, go out shopping together, plan vacations together, spend time with each other alone and sleeping together (no sex of course, just cuddling and laying in each other's arms)
those sorts of things.
cooking makes any guy happy. and i make a point if my boyfriend and i both have an afternoon off together to lie in bed and we'll play a game on our phones together, and spoon and such. its relaxing, and we can finally have a few minutes of stress-free time and enjoy each others company
My boyfriend and I love taking walks. And we also love just laying on a couch ( not in a bed because our parents would kill us) with each other enjoying the closeness.
I like the cuddling and walk idea. Totally a good way to get to know one another.
WOOOOWWWWW
My ex and I were ballet dancers and parkourers.
We jump around and climb trees.
Sometimes we climb really really high places like cliffs or high trees and just sit there for ages looking at eachother
I also love going for motorbike rides, my excuse to hug him reallly tightly x)
we're just friends now but that was all great fun and very intimate
@PsychedelicaMF@xanga - parkour is so sick.
For all of the above, turn off your phone. Or better yet, leave it at home.
I've done all these things with my boyfriend and it truly is intimate. I especially like it when we can just lay in bed and talk about many things. And other times hold each other and be comfortable being completely silent.
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@PsychedelicaMF@xanga - wow. That's great.
@keio213@xanga - exactly O_O Number 4 is a BAD IDEA if you're looking to NOT have sex... who thought of that? Naked time together... I can maybe see a woman being able to control herself but thats more like torture than intimacy.
@PsychedelicaMF@xanga - thats really awesome!
Naked time is fun. We just lay there and talk...
I agree with those above who said #4 is not conducive to not having sex. And neither is #3. Just sayin.
The others are good ideas though.
I wouldn't get naked or lay in bed with someone I have no intention of having sex with. Even if I can do that without wanting to have sex, probably he can't or won't. it's misleading to do that anyway.
i have done all of the above! lol i cant believe that.