Tuesday, 23 November 2010

  • Being Single Has Advantages!



    I was crushed when I broke up with my ex.

    I had wondered would I ever find a gentlemen in the world where every heterosexual man I meet are jerks. But after some time being single I came up with the conclusion, that I'll find that gentlemen or he'll find me in time.

    Right now, I'm enjoying being single. 

    I have more time to read all the books I want to read. Which is hundreds of books, the classics mostly. 

     

    I have an interest in American History and New York History. Both will take plenty of my time to learn all I can on it.

    I can go to the movie theatres alone. I'm not saying company wouldn't be enjoyable. It is. But what I'm saying is that I can watch a chick flick, cry and not worry about what my date thinks. If he wouldn't mind going to one. 

    I can spend more time with my friends. Not saying I hadn't before, but with school, studies, my hobbies, friends, and a boyfriend, I had less time to hang out with friends. Also now with metro fares going up, it will cost me a lot to go to school, spend time with my friends, once in a while eat out, and also see my boyfriend.

    It's come to the point that if I find that gentlemen or he finds me, I will be glad to make time for him. Because he would be something special. 

    But right now and even when I'm with that man, I'm enjoying being me. Being myself.  

    What do you think are the perks of a single life? 

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Comments (39)

  • l0veBabyx@xanga
    I like that you realize that you can be okay & be single, but women in relationships can go to the movies alone if they want too.
  • shinoseishi@xanga

    I agree with the whole "enjoying being me" point.  That's a big thing a learned when I got out of a bad long relationship.  I also enjoy being able to have guy friends again without having to deal with a jealous SO.
  • flordriezhn@xanga

    i loved this post. a relationship should never define who you are. you need to get to know yourself and love yourself before you can love another person.

  • xraindropsonroses@xanga

    With my recent break up with my ex, I have had so much time to read. 7 full sized books in the past month alone! It's amazing, I rediscovered my love for books! haha.


    Plus, who cares what kind of underwear you are wearing if you're single.. haha :)

  • proudsmartypants@xanga

    I flirt with too many boys to not be single.

    And I'm a commitment phobe. Blah.
  • maybesomeday

    woo! i'm so glad someone else feels the same as i do! all of my friends are in serious relationships, and when they weren't they were lost. i tried to tell them to just enjoy the time they had with themselves and to really get to know themselves, but they never did. i've been mostly single, and of course there are times when i want a guy, but for the most part, i am totally fine with it. i don't have to answer to anyone, i can talk to whoever i want, i can flirt and dance with whoever i want, i can get dressed up for myself and look pretty for myself; basically i spend all my time on myself and i know myself, which makes it easier to start a relationship.
  • NucleurBB@xanga

    Saving an arse load of money, which always helps :D
  • xXDC_luyouXx

    People always trying to justify being single.


    Let's be honest:


    It's good to be single but it's even better to be loved.
  • katberg@xanga

    "It's come to the point that if I find that gentlemen or he finds me, I
    will be glad to make time for him. Because he would be something
    special." Just lovely. :)

    I can definitely relate to your post because I broke up with my ex a few months back. It was difficult at first adjusting back to the single life, but the fact that I now have so much time to focus on my own life rather than constantly worry about someone else has been the breath of fresh air I had been lacking while in my relationship. Nonetheless, there are still moments when I miss sharing my life with someone. But hey, we all have to learn how to be independent, right?

    Great post!
  • dragon_king@xanga

    Well-you don't have to be concerned about another person and can pretty much do your own thing. After a while though the single life gets rough when you see couples in love getting engaged/married.
  • katberg@xanga

    @xXDC_luyouXx - YES. A difficult truth but the truth nonetheless.
  • BlehhItsTu@xanga

    I'd be spending less money, but more time with friends- who can actually make me laugh- who truly care!
  • turtlediary@xanga

    I just have a feeling that if I start dating, I will have less time for school and my grades will drop.
  • BlehhItsTu@xanga

    @xXDC_luyouXx - There's no point in sulking about being single though. We can find love in any other friend/family members of ours.

  • LadyPhoenix_74@xanga

    I broke up with my boyfriend recently, and it hurts, but I'm also discovering new hobbies as well. I have more time to read, and workout as well. =]
  • DarcKleer@xanga

    @dragon_king@xanga - I agree. I feel like everyone around me is getting engaged! My brother proposed to his gf one night. The next night, literally, my cousin proposed to his gf. Another couple the following night. This was about a month ago. 6 more couples I know have gotten engaged since then!
  • dragon_king@xanga

    @DarcKleer@xanga - man it is nuts-it seems like once people pass the age of 25 everybody is getting hitched
  • UnconventionalButterfly@xanga

    @xXDC_luyouXx - Who said you are not loved when you are single?? You can be loved by many different people. Family, friends and even pets! 


    I like both worlds. I do enjoy being single but if I find a special person then i'll go for it! ^.^ 
  • Hinase@xanga

    @xXDC_luyouXx - So very true.



    Well that's good that you're learning to enjoy the single life =) Being in a relationships also has its perks along with it's cons, same as being single. Remember that. 
  • EricBeck@xanga

    Here's a blog post on the subject of being single by someone who knows what she's talking about.  It's probably a lot better than me trying to ramble about myself.  I mean, just doing what I want when I want has its advantages with me being a pretty independent type.  But I'd like to try out the relationship thing more.
  • ROASM@xanga

    This is my style: I am single for months, maybe a year or two until someone worth while come alongs. I date them for however long we last (a year or so) and then I am single for months, maybe a year or two until someone else special comes along. It works great for me! I am comfortable being single but like serious relationships the best. I don't settle for crappy boyfriends, or relationships I'm not dying to get into.

  • passionate_kisses579@xanga

    @ROASM@xanga - I have almost similar pattern. I'm newly single and then right when I get my act together and I'm 100% happy, bam some guy comes along. Though usually I'm almost always heading back to the single markets within months...my longest relationship was 6 months...sad I know.


    Lovely post! yes, being single gives you more time for everything. For me, I usually keep a balance of seeing and hanging out with my friends and school and the boyfriend if I'm dating a guy, but otherwise, when I'm single, I can have days for me and my friends and of course school, which is my #1 priority
  • nrb2233@xanga

    I feel the same!  I was sad when my ex and I broke up, but now it's hard for me to decide whether to give some of that single freedom up for someone else.  He's going to have to be someone special for me to give up my "me" time. 

  • nrb2233@xanga

    @ROASM@xanga - well said.  I like being with someone, but only if they are really special and worth my time. 

  • Eternal_Nocturne@xanga

    1: I don't have to put up with nonsensical bullshit
    2: I'm saving metric fuck-tons of cash
    3: I can jerk off without being judged
    4: I have more time for my studies without having to be called away
    5: I don't have to put up with nonsensical bullshit
    6: I can play my video games in quiet solitude as I usually do.
    7: I'm not on beck and call of a woman with a disposition to break my balls.
    8: I don't have to sit down and determine truth and lie
    9: I'm free to eat what I want without judgment
    10: I go to the gym for a morally sound reason rather than getting some ass.
    11: I don' t have to put up with nonsensical bullshit
    12: No additional stress
    13: No baby scares
    14: I have free reign over my television and my other matters of life.
    15: I don't have to worry myself over a woman for anything.
    16: I don't have to stress out finding somebody with my interests, the odds being fucking abysmal here.
    17: I don't have to put up with nonsensical bullshit
    18: I get to have my pornos without judgment
    19: I'm free to spend time with friends and family on my own accord
    20: I get to have free time to pursue other habits or activities I would like to do
    21: I'm not going to cheat on myself, unless I decide to switch hands during the five-knuckle waltz.
    22: I don't have to set up unrealistic hopes
    23: I don't get STDs
    24: I don't have to deal with that magical time of the month
    25: I never have to risk being arrested for domestic abuse
    26: I never have to contemplate murder
    27: I never risk the threat of her screaming rape despite consent
    28: I don't have to guess whether or not she is 20 or 12 years old
    29: I don't have to put up with nonsensical bullshit.

    I'm sure there are tons more, but at this rate, I may risk repeating myself.

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