Monday, 22 November 2010

• Sorry, You're Not On My Level

  

  "I'm not on your level" is something I've heard from almost every man I've ever been with.

  You're not on my level? Well, someone needs to clarify to me what this "level structure" looks like and where it is I'm placed on this.

  Is it a pyramid of sorts with the 10's at the top and the peons at the base? I've never much understood the whole, probably because that's not how my mind works when it comes to attraction.

  I recall back in my younger years when I would target a man I had my eye on, who, more often than not, was far too fine to be walking on earth and usually had a washboard stomach and wicked light colored eyes. I would often find myself making far too much of an effort to get these "fine ass men" to notice me and upon getting to know them I would realize that they were either complete assholes, or dumb as dirt, or hell, even both.

  It took me quite a few times to realize that someones outward appearance, although important when it comes to physical attraction, really isn't what pulls me in. 

  Wanna know what gets me every time? A man with a brain.

  Now, they're quite hard to find these days, I hear they're pretty rare. I haven't had to search for a new model male since I have had a perfectly good working one for the past four years, no need to replace something that isn't broken.

  I must admit, Nate is an incredibly intelligent person and very rarely do we ever have a time where we have nothing to talk about. He isn't like a lot of men these day whom I find to be a little...boring.

  After the thrill of college hookups has worn off frat boys who can shot gun a beer quicker than I can say "boo boo kitty fuc"' just isn't my cup of tea. I'd rather have me a man who can tell me his life story, teach me things I don't know and someone who can open up to me. 

  I'm pretty. I'm beautiful. I'm sexy. I'm cute. I'm a lot of things but that doesn't put me on a different level than anyone else.

  Physical appearance means very little to me when it comes to "finding someone." I lucked out, though, because Nate is intelligent and sexy as hell. 

  It makes me a little sad inside when people feel they are lesser than me (or anyone) simply because of the way they look. Your appearance shouldn't make you feel lesser in any way, shape or form because what truly matters is what no one can see. What truly matters is how you think, how your heart feels and what you can offer the world.

  A flat stomach is nice, no doubt about that, but a good heart and working brain is absolutely priceless these days and shouldn't be overlooked for something as trivial as how someone looks.

  Some people are just dumb, flat out dumb.

  Why? Because they'll go after beauty before brains. That's great and all if all you truly care about is sex and peoples "approval."

  I mean, if I came home with a Quasimodo looking dude my family would want to know where my head is at. If I came home with a Brad Pitt looking dude I would be praised for "such a catch." However, what if that Brad Pitt guy is dumb as dirt and Quasimodo is a good souled man with more intelligence than I can shake a stick at. I'd take Quasimodo any day.

  My reasoning? Tomorrow Brad Pitt could get into a disfiguring car accident and his looks that were "oh so important" to me the day before are gone and I'm just left with a stupid, ugly person. Quasimodo on the other hand - yeah, he might not appeal to the eye as much as Brad Pitt does, but if he's a good man who cares about my well being, who loves me and who is there for me unconditionally - I'd be stupid to pick beauty over brains.

  "He isn't that cute" I've heard so many girls say to me. "...But he's an awesome guy!"

  He isn't that cute? Well, in 40 years from now when his face skin is down to his collar bone and his dick don't work no more it won't fucking matter what he looks like, what will matter is that he loves you and he's a GOOD MAN.

  I often fall for people's minds. I can't help it. There have been plenty of men in my past who haven't been 'on my level' or so many of my friends would remind me. "You're too pretty for him" and "he's not good enough for you" were often thrown at me repeatedly and I never understood why no one could see why I was attracted to the man.

  Well, I guess its because I see whats on the inside rather than the outside. 

  You can spend the rest of your life looking for a 10 but trust me on this, you'll find one for sure but as soon as he opens his mouth he'll probably fall down to a 5.

  Why? I've found most attractive people are lacking in the brains department. More often than not the hotter they are the more of an asshole they are.

  Why? Because they can be. They can be a total asshole and it doesn't matter because tomorrow they'll find some other 2-bit whore to suck them off who they can play like a damn video game.

  If I knew then what I know now, I would have paid more attention to the "nice guys" who were vying for my love at the time and less attention to the jocks who had all the girls flocking to them.

  I guess its a lesson learned but I'm sure I missed out on some awesome chances with some great people because I was too focused on how 'they looked' rather than 'who they were'. Who someone is isn't what they look like, rather, its how they love, think and act. You can spend your whole life looking for that 10 or you could just smarten up and pay attention to that 'nice guy', trust me when I tell you the 'nice guy' is the way to go.

  What say you?

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