Sunday, 21 November 2010
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Why Men Are Assholes
Clingy girls.That's what turns men into assholes.
I had a friend once. He was a cute kid. He wore all the hip clothes and we listened to the same bands. He was new to school as well and a lot of girls liked him, including myself.
He once told me,
"I can't be nice to girls. If I do they all think I like them, but I'm just being nice."And this is so true. A girl friend of mine told me regarding him, "I don't know if he likes me! He's so nice to me!"
When he's telling me he'd never date her, so I'm like, "uhhh.... maybe he's just nice?"
AWKWARD SITUATIONS!How many of you people have had a crush ignite just because the person was nice to you?
How many times have you heard a friend say, "I think he/she likes me, they're always so nice to me."
What's wrong with being nice? Why do we automatically assume someone is in love with us because they are nice to us?
But when they're assholes we KNOW they don't like us, so we usually don't have feelings for them.
I don't know what it is with girls these days, but they're so CLINGY! They "fall in love" at such a young age and so fast.
"I LOVE HIM!"
"You only have one class with him and he sits across the room and you never talk...."
"BUT HE MAKES MY DAY BETTER JUST BY COMING TO CLASS! This one time he said 'hey' to me and I could totally tell he was into me!"How many delusional girls like this do you know?
When guys are nice, even when girls are nice, everyone thinks they're romantically attracted to who ever they're being nice to.
Sometimes, yes, this is the case, but I'm sure 90% of the time it isn't.So since guys can't be nice without EVERY SINGLE GIRL falling "in love" with them, they become assholes.
But what does an asshole gain from being an asshole?
Selection.When a guy is an asshole to pretty much every girl, but then decides to be nice to the girl he likes, this girl thinks she is special and therefore usually returns the feelings, thinking she's oh-so-special, when really he's just being nice so she will like him.
Think about it.
How many times have you been nice to someone, found out they had feelings for you, and then started being a little meaner so they would stop having feelings for you?
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Lol, it's true. Girls overthink guys' motives all the time.
LOL actually I get annoyed when guys think I like them just because I'm nice to them.... they'd be like "Oh she likes me but I'm attached or she's not my type." I just wanna scream! NO I DON'T LIKE YOU, ARROGANT MUCH!?
I'd have to say that's definitely not the reason *some* men are assholes, considering the fact that some women are bitchy.
*some* men are assholes because they are truly selfish, inconsiderate, egotistical pricks. And same goes for women...just...without the prick part.
I just assumed all guys were assholes because I grew up with a mama who told me so ;)
You've got some good points.
I guess either they never had guys actually be nice to them that way (a case of Stockholm Syndrome, I suppose?), or they don't recognize the line there is between crush nice and friend or acquaintance nice. They could also be sucked into that kind of crap because they are the only ones with the crush. If any other guy was being nice to her, she probably wouldn't think the same way, I'm sure.
Men are assholes because women still fall for em and reward their tricks. If women stopped giving into their assholery, do you honestly think such people would still exist?
"yeah I know he's an asshole but he's hot" Can't tell ya how many times my lady friends say that.
This is so true. The media definitely distorted everyone's view on the L-word
Some girls even find it attractive after the guy starts being an asshole.
And some guys are simply assholes for a reason completely unrelated to clingy girls.
When I was younger and I found out that a guy liked me, I started avoiding and ignoring them. So it's not always guys, sometimes girls get a little mean too.
Datingish is a constant reminder of the many perks of being a homosexual.
I wrote about this one time, breaking down the process. But this is really an interesting perspective and sadly true -_-.
This is actually really true. Even for girls.
Being straightforward never fails!
usually guys have crushes on me when I completely ignore them. this guy, who was in one of my classes, or maybe he was in two of my classes, I didn't really notice lol but towards the end of the school year, he told me he had a crush on me and I had no idea because I don't recall talking to him during class to give him any flirty signals. he sat behind me and sometimes I'd turn around to look at the clock to wait for the bell to ring, but he probably thought that I was turning around to look at him lol but I didn't even know his name until the day he told me he liked me. there was another guy in a similar scenario, who sat close to me that I don't really talk to, so I wasn't being particularly nice, they were just attracted to me physically. anyway, the guys that I had crushes on, I liked their funny personality; they were usually the loud mouthed jackasses that goofed around during class and they happened to usually be very cute. they were only jackasses towards other guys or fat girls but they were nice to the rest of the girls. as fate would have it, the teacher would assign my seat next to them and he'd usually ask to copy my paper and I gladly let him because he's cute and I'm a sucker for cute guys
I didn't love him in the obsessed way but they were amusing to be around and I hate math class but I looked forward to that class because my crush was there
Insert in article: when right-off-the-bat attractive guys are assholes. There are many guys who are nice and girls don't like them (and vice versa).
mark
I think the same thing goes with guys. Here's my story.
I went out with a guy named Fin, for a week. He was my best friend's best friend and was basically a "why the not?" kind of thing. After going on two dates with him I realized he was totally annoying and didn't want to see him anymore. Fin took it really hard and I felt guilty he was so crushed. A year later we are hanging out at a party we our friends and I am trying to be nice to him because I feel bad about what happened a year ago and just want to be cool and friendly.(Normally someone would be over something that only lasted a week a year later, but Fin is REALLY sensitive.) He took it WAY the wrong way and stalks me for a few weeks.Me and Fins mutual best friend paul even encouraged Fin saying that he had a chance. This annoys the living daylights out of me, I was so sick of him I actually felt repulsed with him stalking me around. This pissed the hell out of my boyfriend too.
I called paul up and exploded. I told him that I had felt sorry for fin and was trying to make him feel comfortable around me so we didn't have to feel awkward. I was really mad that he tried to convince poor fin to follow me around when I was happily taken by a guy who was (no offense fin) about fifty times better than him. What I mean by better is that my boyfriend is more ambitious, interesting, ALOT less whiny, more attractive, and wants to do something with his life.
Ugh. And the story ends with everyone being unhappy.
Sometimes it's better just to play it cool around those clingy types. It's better than being nice.
i don't think it's true, men will be assholes no matter what.
But yeah this rule doesn't apply to me at all ;). I am the aloof kind of girl and not much impresses me. I often have boys working hard to impress me while I just play it cool.
Seriously if there's one thing I've learned about boys is that "not trying hard enough" just makes them want you so much more.
lmfao i've been on both sides.. the asshole side and the nice side.. that's why i can't be friends with guys 'cuz in the past they mistook my nice-ness for something else like they thought i was interested in them when i wasn't and i ended up being an asshole to them so they can get off my nuts basically..
the only thing lacking in this article is your opinion
I wouldn't want my man to be an asshole to other women,.....
@BingleBot@xanga - agreed.
Clingy girls aren't just the sole reason..though I don't even think it really factors into anything really.
I've noticed that girls only pay attention to me WHEN I'm acting like an asshole... there's only one or two that actually pay me mind when I'm nice.
It really should be like the movie
"He's Just Not Into You" it doesn't matter how nice or whatever he is to you, if he isn't asking you out, he just isn't into you!
It is true. We over think absolutely everything.
well, im a bitch cause when im nice every guy thinks i like him or am "flirting". i tend to meet clingy, crazy guys, too. so i totally get this from guys pov & agree w/you for the most part. i dont think its the only reason, but it prob does explain some of the assholes out there.
Uhh, yeah it's true, but it works both ways. I am a nice girl and I have had to battle off guys who thought I liked them because I am nice. I don't think this can be an excuse to be an asshole. And it's definitely not the explanation for all kinds of assholes.