Gay marriage: the most pointless thing to protest against, yet still one of the biggest topics in today's society. Being a lesbian myself, I knew I had to fight for my right to be married when I decided to one day. But lately I've been thinking long and hard about it, and I realized that I can't see the point in fighting for it.
I'm starting to think maybe we should let the baby have its bottle and just throw up our hands and say, "You can have it; we don't want it!" Honestly, what does this whole lack of marriage thing do to us? I can't think of a single thing, other than piss us off because as humans we definitely do deserve all our rights. But they're not really taking anything away from it, if you think about it.
First off, does being married (I'm directing these questions toward everyone: gay, straight, people who love animals a little too much, etc.) change how you feel about your partner? Let's dissect marriage a little bit. In the end, what is it? A big ceremony with all your friends and families to celebrate the unity of souls? A piece of glue that will make it so you never fall out of love? No.
Marriage is simply a piece of paper and some pain-in-the-ass legal documentation. We are breaking our hearts and souls to protest and fight for... a piece of paper. A. Piece. Of. Paper. This means nothing to me. When I fall in love, I'm going to get married because a stupid piece of paper is not going to stop me.
I'm going to have a huge ceremony in front of my whole family and friends and I'm going to profess my undying love for the woman I plan to finally settle down and spend the rest of my life with. We'll have many children and a big house, etc. You get where I'm going with this.
My point is, you want to really say Eff you to all those homophobes out there? Drop your picket signs and do it anyway. Stop asking for our rights back and just take them!
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Marriage wouldn't change the way I feel about a person, if I loved them it wouldn't matter. Some people need that "piece of paper" as a means of security that their significant other isn't going to stray. Its like a contract that you enter into and know the consequences if you break the terms and conditions to it. Interesting post enjoyed it muchly.
the problem with not having the legal right to marry is not not being able to get married, but not having the legal rights to go along with it, like in the event of an accident, you will have no legal right to see your partner in a hospital or take care of any arrangements necessary, and may not even be allowed to see them. you can say that not having the right to marry doesn't affect you, but legally, it might in the future.
I think part of it is about wanting rights, but another part is that that piece of paper grants several protections and rights upheld by law. It isnt just about a ceremony, there are legal issues that are denied because people are not legally married.
there are legal benefits that come with being married! hospital visitation rights were only recently extended to gay couples, and they wouldn't have had that problem if they were allowed to marry.
plus, it's the principle of the matter. sure, marriage doesn't change your relationship, but dammit, you should be allowed to! some states still let COUSINS marry, but not gay couples?! it's totally inexplicable!
it's not like women threw up their hands and said "welp. we're just not gonna vote ever." it's about equality and standing up for what's right!Ditto to everyone else. It's not the marriage itself, but the rights and privileges that come along with it. The tax breaks, and the rights of a spouse when their partner gets sick or dies, that sort of thing.
So I see what you're saying...but it's the rights that are attached to marriage that are worth fighting for more than the piece of paper itself.
-Katie
In many places that piece of paper gives you lots of bonus stuff from the government. I'm heterosexual and not interested in the marriage institution either though.
@dude_this_world_sux@xanga - Exactly.
If you have a problem with gay marriage, don't marry a gay person. Done.
@wien7@xanga - agreed.
I love this post.
@FallenStar82387@xanga - agreed
All this is just being good 'ol Americans in good 'ol America. Right off it was ok to kill all the Indians, take their land, torture them, but in god's name, please don't marry one of them red varments.
Then it was the blacks. Beat them, kill them, Force them to work for us even after we freed them. But under NO condition don't allow a white person to marry them!! After all, they're animals. May as well marry a dog. This didn't get overturned until the '60s when I was in my teens.
Now it's the gays. We can't let them marry. They're not human. They don't love, they lust. Beat them, kill them, but don't allow them to marry. After all, God hates them. Just ask Pastor Phelps fo god hates fags fame.
It's obvious this will be changed in a few years. One wonders whom the wrath of modern christians will fall upon next?
If you don't understand both, or in this case, either, side of the issue, it's best just to sit back and watch.
thank you, you are absolutly, uniquivicly right, if i want to spend the rest of my life with the guy i love, a stupid piece of paper isnt going to stop me, i would prefer everyone else gave up this stupid little fight against gay peoples rights, but if they dont want to then im not going to stop them, it makes me sound such a hypocrat but its true, small minds breed small minds
but there are people that rely on that little piece of paper to signify there marriage, and if they want to get that piece of paper, good for them
wow ...
i totally agree with you =Dhowever, i dont know if my thoughts are right or not ...i think i dont have enough experience to judge for myself ..=S lol anyway .... i agree with u
As far as the principle of marriage, you've got it! But what the fight is for are the legal rights that go along with marriage. My aunt damn near cut her hand off at work last week. Her wife (they, too, are not going to let the law stop them from being recognized as spouses) of TEN YEARS couldn't get into the emergency room to see her. After 4 hours, they finally told the next shift of nurses that she was her sister to get her in the room. But they can't share insurance policies, file their taxes together (which would be a tax break for them), or any number of other rights/responsibilities that come along with marriage. I'll keep fighting for the right to gay marriage until it happens.
@wien7@xanga - agreed.
False. There are countless state and federal rights and benefits that only come to married couples. You couldn't be more wrong.
Actually, marriage is a lot more than a piece of paper. There are a lot of rights and benefits that go into being legally married. Don't you want the right to social security pension, hospital visitation, access to "family only" services, survivor benefits, joint adoption, income tax deductions, joint tax filing, making spousal medical decisions, the right to inheritance of property, etc?
Fighting for equal rights is not a pointless cause.
It's about the fact that we can't do it. Not that we really, really need that paper, but the fact that we can't get that paper if we wanted to. It's the principle of it. And, yes, don't forget about the rights being denied, too.
It's all about the legal things that come with marriage. Yeah, it's essentially just a piece of paper, but the government sees it differently.
As someone else said as well, when women were fighting for the vote, did they sit there and say "Well, it's just a vote and because of the electoral college, it really only counts if we agree with the rest of our state, so it doesn't really matter, who cares? Not worth bothering with." No, because it matters, and equality and the rights that come along with it are worth fighting for.
@dude_this_world_sux@xanga - This.
@yarnspnr@xanga - this. so this.
@yarnspnr@xanga - I just love you.
The legal benefits and being treated as EQUAL to everyone is worth it.