Saturday, 20 November 2010
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Story Time: A Girl Who Might Still Have a Chance
Let's say there's this guy... we'll call him Rob for now. So a girl, who we'll call Jane, starts liking Rob. Sometimes, they talk to one another, and rumors start to circulate about their mutual feelings. Yes, everything is fine and dandy...
Then Jane gets back together with her ex who she's hopelessly in love with.
Still, even though Jane and Rob aren't going to get together, they continue their friendship. After a while, Jane starts to sense Rob's feelings for her, but Jane continues to remain faithful.
Next year rolls around, and Jane is single. However, after the long summer, Rob and Jane haven't really talked in a while. Jane figures, "Oh well, you know not everything can go your way." She and Rob never really talk or acknowledge each other at all...but she still misses him a little.
At the beginning of the new school year, Jane makes small attempts to talk to Rob again, but he only semi-reciprocates, even though he knows Jane still has feelings for him.
Naturally, Jane finds a great new boyfriend who's amazing and loves her very much. She's very happy with him. Rob also now has a girlfriend.
But very recently, sometimes Jane will catch Rob looking at her in the hallways or lunch, when he never did before. To her, it seems like they've been catching each other's eyes more ever since Jane got with her new boyfriend, Tom. Every time she and Rob make eye contact, Jane gets little flutters in her stomach and has to smile. Does this mean she still has tiny feelings for him?
Is Rob maybe a tad jealous that Jane has a new boyfriend? Does Jane still like Rob "in that way"? Why does Rob acknowledge Jane more now that she has a boyfriend? Do you think they'd ever have a chance together at all? Do they just need to communicate more?
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Ask him then make your decisions from there.
Sometimes, it's just timing and communication is esp imp here. no one wants a soap opera storyline happening to themselves. am i right?
Grow the fuck up. You can only have one guy at a time, stop trying to get another one. Whatever happened is past and it shouldn't matter, anyway, you are with your boyfriend, if you obsess over another guy, that's terrible.
@Including_Sunshine@xanga - Not really, because it's not like she's engaged to anyone or really committed. She mentioned school, and by the sound of it, it's either high school or early college. These times are about self-exploration and understanding the dating scene. So what if she's eying a guy when she's dating someone else? Sometimes, that's just the way life goes. Overall, it sounds like a complicated learning experience. I doubt that even if she gets with "Rob" that he'll be her last boyfriend ever.
it seems like he's jealous when she gets taken because of his feelings for her in the past and that he never got that chance. i think it'd be easiest just to ask him outright if he still has feelings. and if you can't then it's not going to happen anyway, so it really doesn't even matter.
Wow, just talk to him.
It sounds like you're treating your current boyfriend as a placeholder until "Rob" comes around...
Just to clarify...
All you out there talking about me, I appreciate the advice because I definitely see this alot but...Can you read?? I purposely titled this "STORY" time for a reason!!!!
It's a STORY. That I made up and wrote because I know it can relate to a lot of people. So you out there telling me to "grow up" and I'm treating my boyfriend as a placeholder...LEARN HOW TO READ. Sorry if I sound rude, but, come on.
Simply, just talk to him and figure this out because it will nag at you for the rest of your life if you don't.
Yes, they do need to communicate more. And of course, maybe Rob and his girlfriend are having problems and most guys have tendencies to flirt with girls when they're in a relationship and things aren't going well in that relationship. It's unfair to both girls, but guys are jerks
@PseudoEuphoric@xanga - agreed
hypothetical answer to all questions is: yes, and he acknowledges her more because sometimes you don't know what you got til it is gone, so there is that lingering feeling of "what if."
ugh, sounds like highschool. I remember when crushes used to be like temporary tattoos.
You're on your own kid :P
Jane really needs to make up her mind here.. I think that she should stop falling for the wrong guys. She needs to see what's right in front of her.
Speculations
i think both rob & jane are still wondering the "what if"s. they can't help but wonder what would've happened if they got with each other ? &maybe when things tend to go a lil rough with their current bf/gf they may get back to thinking about each other again. i think that might be my thoughts if i were jane. im not too sure but that's the way i'd see it but then again, it's always hard having to see each other all the time &knowing you came so close to having a chance of getting with someone so great yet it never happened.
its time to TALK to Rob.
Things will fall in place.
@emiliahhhx7@xanga - no one ever reads the title :)
Yeah, I can relate to that. Although unfortunately for me this phase was 5/6 years ago, and I was Rob. Jane became my best friend, but I said something inappropriate recently (her skirt rode up, and I might have commented...) and now she won't talk to me. Next part of the story perhaps?
umm i am surprised that you became angry with people who assumed this was about you, since it's the oldest trick in the book ("so, i have this friend...it's NOT ME, though!! no, i would never do that...but my friend...we'll call her, uhh...Jane, yeah, that sounds good....")
anyway, whether it's you or your friend or a fictitious person, i think they need to talk to each other. people get so caught up in who has a boyfriend or girlfriend...really, in the end, these puppy-love sort of relationships are not nearly as important as the missed opportunities to form a lasting connection. you(/she? Jane? whatever) may regret not speaking up for the rest of your life, or at least a really long time. even if you are both attached, you can still have an open dialog about it. and don't feel bad for the SO's- ultimately, i'd rather have my bf be with the girl he really wants, even if it's not me (i'm no one's consolation prize, after all!). it'll sort itself out in the end.