Wednesday, 17 November 2010
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Being A Single College Girl IS All It's Cracked Up To Be!
So I'm in college right now at one of the greatest places in the world, New Orleans. We have great food, night life, and tons of cute boys.
Yes, the boys here are wonderful. However, I have proactively chosen to remain single while being here.
Don't get me wrong, I love when my friends are able to find relationships and make them work but that just is not who I am. I like going out and not worrying about an SO back home or having to maintain a relationship when in the long run, I know I'm not in it. I'm one of those girls who is happy being single and loving every minute of it.
Being single for me hasn't meant being lonely and forgotten, but fun and having the chance to become my own person and not worrying about whether or not it's good enough for someone else.
The world is a big place with so many interesting people in it. I'm not saying that you can't enjoy life if you're in a relationship but at the same time, being single brings out so many possibilities. You can dance the night away and kiss that random stranger. You can go to a nice restaurant with friends or family and just be yourself. When we enter relationships, it always is a give and take. We give up something because it is so noble for us and the relationship and when it ends, what are we left with? That half-forgotten painting that you never got around to finishing. That book that's been sitting on your bedside table.
That's just my opinion. Shouldn't we focus on being the best of ourselves before we change for someone else, and sometimes not even for the better? What do you readers think?
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i like this. i like being single too, even though i bitch and moan about not having a boyfriend. now i have someone in my life that seems to be leading in that direction, and i'm freezing up. i'm not sure if i want that. i've had so much fun being single - going out, ending the night like you said with a kiss from a stranger or someone i'm into - being able to go out and not have to answer to anyone. then again, i've never really been a relationship person. i always put too much pressure on myself to be perfect for that person, so i'd rather be single.
@xx0behindthesmile@xanga - No need to be perfect for anyone. Just be yourself, because thats who he likes.
@xx0behindthesmile@xanga - exactly how i feel! totally loving in the single girl life, for my first 2 years of college, i was in a serious relationship, but i have been living it up my last 2 years and i am loving it like crazy... at times i do miss being a relationship/having a special someone... but i'm just living life :)
Agreed!!! Sometimes I will admit that being single stinks, but I really am having a great time in college finding myself....
I totally agree. Of course, everyone is going to have those times when they long for a relationship or someone to fall asleep next to or rely on when things get bad, but being single has soooo many benefits. And I think people in college, ESPECIALLY, spend so much time focused on finding their future husband or wife because they think that they have to do it now or they will have a hard time meeting someone later. Unfortunately, this often leads to them missing a ton of amazing possibilities that come with being a single girl or guy in college. Several of my friends have been in relationships since high school and it just BLOWS my mind. I wish I could show them what they are missing.
I totally agree. Of course, everyone is going to have those times when they long for a relationship or someone to fall asleep next to or rely on when things get bad, but being single has soooo many benefits. And I think people in college, ESPECIALLY, spend so much time focused on finding their future husband or wife because they think that they have to do it now or they will have a hard time meeting someone later. Unfortunately, this often leads to them missing a ton of amazing possibilities that come with being a single girl or guy in college. Several of my friends have been in relationships since high school and it just BLOWS my mind. I wish I could show them what they are missing.
I don't really agree while maybe there is more opportunities for single girls I've gotten lots of opportunities through my boyfriend, and if you're in a relationship thats not letting you do things like finish a painting or read a book or even be yourself that is not a good relationship lol I do like being single though as you can be completely selfish and not think of anyone else, but if you really love someone then to think about them and to make them happy, makes you happy, so you're not missing out.
You know what? I rather dance the night away and share a kiss with someone I know who loves and cares for me. It matters and means that much more..
Relationships aren't only about giving and taking from each other. It's about sharing your life with someone and creating memories with him or her to last you a life time. It's about being with that person every day of your life and just feeling like the most lucky person on earth because you know you have the best man or woman beside you. It's about knowing that you know you have found the one to share all your ups and down moments with - and knowing that he or she will always be there for you no matter what. It's about working through and facing obstacles together and coming out strong as one. It's about striving and doing our best to make that person happy which makes us happy in return.. There is so much more and the list can go on. Of course, this is only just what I think and from my own experiences.
When a relationship end, I think you're left with more than a half forgotten painting that you never got around to finishing. You're left with memories, heartaches, and lessons that will make you a better and stronger person than who you were before and that is priceless. We play, we fall, we break, we get up, and try again. And again. And again.
Regardless if we're in a relationship or not, we should always focus on ourselves and only change for ourselves and no one else. That's what I think..
Im so jealous lol. Cause I completely agree. But when you have kids young you cant. Im with my babys father & will be the rest of my life. its been 6 yrs and were best friends. But if we didnt have kids I know Id be single, not here & living my life & maybe wed end up back together lol. I love him but still I know itd probably be diff. So def. enjoy it!
"Yes, the boys here are wonderful." Hahah. What college do YOU go to? :)
i loved being single, i love my bf now, i know that if we break up i'll still love being single. i'm pretty goddamn awesome.
COULD NOTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT. AGREE MORE. <3 <3
Honestly, the only time I feel bad about being single is when I'm at a wedding and I didn't bring a date.Beyond that, being single is pretty much awesome. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, with no one else to worry about. I'm really not into kissing strangers, but I love that I can go wherever, talk to whoever, dance with whoever, flirt with whoever, hang out with whoever, do whatever, whenever I feel like doing it. I could spend my entire summer in Mexico if I wanted and not have to worry about it putting a dent in my relationship. I think the secret to enjoying being single (which honestly, really isn't a very big secret) is figuring out what you really enjoy, care about, and are interested in, and doing those things as much as possible. I know one day I'll be married too, and I'll absolutely love it. But in the meantime,I am enjoying the heck out of single life!
@jeezshoua@xanga - Well put! I totally agree
You know, I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. People who are in relationships may not know where we're coming from but sometimes when you stay single for a good amount of time you just get use to it. You suddenly discover things about yourself that you never knew about. Life just seems a little bit more appealing AND when you do find that someone...? I think the relationship would be much more healthier then usual because you already know yourself, where you stand and all. I use to look around and see every one with their lover and I felt very lonely, but later I realized that I have alot of learning and loving myself before I decide to jump into something with someone.
I completely disagree. Being single in college is just like being single in high school: constantly depending on friends who will leave once they find a relationship, being lonely at times without someone to count on, and panicking a little bit about whether you'll ever find anyone. But maybe that's just me since guys never give me light of day.
For the record, dating someone should not require major changes and stopping life goals.
@vicdaily@xanga - You took the words right out of my mouth!
@jeezshoua@xanga - Well put
Relationship can be quite daunting sometimes, so for a while, it's nice to be alone. But being alone can be well, lonely. It seems there is a perfect amount of time appropriate to be in each.
Good for you, girl!
I'm been in a serious relationship for the past 3 years, and I don't mind not being single. Actually, I don't know how I would act if I were or know how to be single
I am glad you are happy with where you are!!
Nicely written :) I'm engaged and in college, so I will never get to do all that, but I am perfectly fine with it- we always spice things up in my relationship :)
Well written! I wish I was like that, but my loneliness gets to me at times.
"...having the chance to become my own person and not worrying about whether or not it's good enough for someone else. "
^ so important.
Eh, I spent too much time looking for guys anyway when I was single.
@summerdreams505Aa@xanga - ditto